Anonymous
Post 09/18/2025 18:19     Subject: What makes you feel like you have it together?
Anonymous wrote:We have a fuzzy throw blanket on the sofa in in our family room. The house is a total mess but whenever a kid uses the throw and bundles it up in a ball or drapes it across the floor, I fold it up neatly and lay across the back of the sofa. Every. Friggin. Time. It makes the mess go away, in my head.


This is the equivalent of your bedroom being a sh*tshow, so you make your bed and it instantly looks calmer and cleaner.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2025 18:18     Subject: What makes you feel like you have it together?
A really clean butt and perfect skin
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2025 17:56     Subject: What makes you feel like you have it together?
We have a fuzzy throw blanket on the sofa in in our family room. The house is a total mess but whenever a kid uses the throw and bundles it up in a ball or drapes it across the floor, I fold it up neatly and lay across the back of the sofa. Every. Friggin. Time. It makes the mess go away, in my head.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2025 17:49     Subject: Re:What makes you feel like you have it together?
Anonymous wrote:You ladies are better people than me! I was going to post about what I do to fake being put together in front of other people, and here this thread is about finding your own internal sense of peace. I have tears, seriously.


Must be so tiring doing so
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2025 17:49     Subject: Re:What makes you feel like you have it together?
Anonymous wrote:You ladies are better people than me! I was going to post about what I do to fake being put together in front of other people, and here this thread is about finding your own internal sense of peace. I have tears, seriously.


That's so 1950s. Welcome to the 21st century where you learn that no one is "put together" thanks to ubiquitous sharing on various platforms.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2025 17:46     Subject: Re:What makes you feel like you have it together?
You ladies are better people than me! I was going to post about what I do to fake being put together in front of other people, and here this thread is about finding your own internal sense of peace. I have tears, seriously.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2025 17:28     Subject: What makes you feel like you have it together?
The two weeks after I've gotten my hair dyed and no grey hair has grown back in yet.

AND

No dirty dishes to be washed.

AND

All laundry has been done.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2025 17:24     Subject: What makes you feel like you have it together?
A well made bed
Brushed teeth
Fewer things
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2025 16:31     Subject: What makes you feel like you have it together?
Anonymous wrote:Kitchen table free of piles of homework, mail, etc (hard to achieve), sparkling clean bathrooms


Agree on both. But my spouse loves to have his paperwork all over the table. He's lost without it. And we don't have a house large enough to give him his own dining room table sized office (a desk doesn't work).
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2025 16:30     Subject: Re:What makes you feel like you have it together?
My to-do list accomplished, two hours at the gym and dinner on the table.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2025 16:00     Subject: What makes you feel like you have it together?
Kitchen table free of piles of homework, mail, etc (hard to achieve), sparkling clean bathrooms
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2025 15:53     Subject: What makes you feel like you have it together?
Anonymous wrote:No laundry bins stuffed to the top. Or on a similar note, DS not digging through his laundry the night before a game because he can't find his kit.

A stocked fridge with colorful items. Means I have my stuff together enough to do a full shop and have a meal plan.


I have taken photos of the refrigerator and looked at them in stressful moments. Some kind of atavistic hunter-gatherer impulse at play there I think.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2025 15:51     Subject: What makes you feel like you have it together?
Cooking for my family, having a blowout, gardening and having enough to share with my neighbors
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2025 15:49     Subject: What makes you feel like you have it together?
No laundry bins stuffed to the top. Or on a similar note, DS not digging through his laundry the night before a game because he can't find his kit.

A stocked fridge with colorful items. Means I have my stuff together enough to do a full shop and have a meal plan.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2025 15:46     Subject: What makes you feel like you have it together?
bit of a spinoff from the what will you never get on top of thread.

For me, flowers and clean surfaces. A vase of flowers somewhere central, and no food smears or crumbs on surfaces feel like a enough of a win to go on with.