How important is it for you to see your kid at the holidays? You’re the only person who dan decide that.

Even long after I was more than self-sufficient (and more to the point long after credit cards and EZ Pass) my mom always insisted on giving me $50 “for gas!” in cash whenever i visited. She wanted me to feel a little taken care of and like she saw the effort I put into visiting.

I miss it now that she’s no longer here.

My parents haven't paid for me to come home for Thanksgiving since I was in college. Same with my spouse's parents.

We don’t have extra money these days due to a recent medical thing but we will pay for DC to come home at Thanksgiving and at Christmas. Recent college grad. TBH I think we will offer to pay until DC declines the offer.

When did you stop paying for adult offspring to fly home for thanksgiving? After 4 years of college if live elsewhere after college? If didn’t go to college, after HS if they moved away? Would you pay if meant credit card debt to do it for you if they went to college but after graduated decided to “take a break” (a/k/a not working and couch surfing or doing a barely get by job not in their major by their choice as turned down 5 and 6 figure offers)? What if they chose to drop out and in another state, would you pay for them to fly home for Thanksgiving? Curious when others without excess funds made the cutoff on travel?