Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How is a high school relationship "serious"? They are not thinking about marriage at that point, their brains are not fully developed and they do not have the maturity or independence to tackle on any serious issues without help from their parents. Basically, they are still kids.

Remarkably, every sentence in that post is wrong.

Expected answer from someone whose brain stopped developing at 18.

Anonymous wrote:I know someone who didn’t. Followed the boy to a far away school. As one would predict, they broke up, and she had to run into him often on campus , see who he was dating, etc.

I think it is better, at this age, to break up. If it is meant to be, they will find each other again. But they need time to figure out who they are.

Very common for these couples to be middle/grey aged APs.

Older one did not break it off. Kids went to same school. Predictable disaster. Strongly advised younger sibling to break it off, which he did. Rough 2 weeks but I think much happier to be “free” in college.

Heartbroken. It has been rough.

so many made up answers.Its like one of the writers from Hallmark cards landed in the thread.

Anonymous wrote:How is a high school relationship "serious"? They are not thinking about marriage at that point, their brains are not fully developed and they do not have the maturity or independence to tackle on any serious issues without help from their parents. Basically, they are still kids.

+1

Although some are thinking about marriage but not with a fully developed brain.

My aunt met my uncle in band camp around age 14.

I have another relative whose husband fell in love with her when she was a fairy in a late elementary/middle school play.

These people were Boomers but lived in different cities. The key was being in the same high school and dating through high school.

Anonymous wrote:How is a high school relationship "serious"? They are not thinking about marriage at that point, their brains are not fully developed and they do not have the maturity or independence to tackle on any serious issues without help from their parents. Basically, they are still kids.

Remarkably, every sentence in that post is wrong.

How is a high school relationship "serious"? They are not thinking about marriage at that point, their brains are not fully developed and they do not have the maturity or independence to tackle on any serious issues without help from their parents. Basically, they are still kids.

I wish. Although it's not great so I guess it doesn't apply.

Anonymous wrote:How did your kid handle it all?

Yes.

Because it wasn't fair to either of them.

They were going to different states after considering going to a mid tier state school together, they realized it wasn't a good fit for either of them and just being together was not enough for them to go to a school neither of them really liked. So they went to the best school for them that they got into and agreed to give each other space. It's been rough, a lot of relationship ghost pains but they were each other's first real relationship. I hope they get back together at some point but they did the right thing

I know someone who didn’t. Followed the boy to a far away school. As one would predict, they broke up, and she had to run into him often on campus , see who he was dating, etc.

I think it is better, at this age, to break up. If it is meant to be, they will find each other again. But they need time to figure out who they are.

Yes. She was heartbroken, very mature, and thought it was the best decision for both of them to be fully present in their new environments (she is in a different country).

You first.

How did your kid handle it all?