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I’m a woman and I think you should break up with her, even if you’re already living together, etc. Run. This is a psychological mindset for which some people seem hardwired, and they’re not cut out for building a life with anyone, much less managing there own lives. I’ve dumped a friend or two who was like this. She’s not changing. I’d ignore the advice that she’s looking for more attention. Who cares if she is. It’s still a toxic pattern. I think it stems from a lack of confidence. What were her childhood patterns like? Divorced parents? Another sibling was the golden child? Or was she the golden child who couldn’t really deliver once out in the world? In any case, you can’t fixing this. Tell her exactly why you’re dumping her and move on.

If you came on here as a woman making similar complaints about a man, you’d be told what a loser the guy is.

Anonymous wrote:Are you new to dating? Please ladies don't insult me for saying this. OP this is how a lot of women communicate. You will get used to it. It's not a big deal.

The above advice is not accurate in my experience.

OP, dump her. Why are you attracted to such an unfit, negative person ?

It will only get worse.

You are kind of doing the same thing she is!

Anonymous wrote:Are you new to dating? Please ladies don't insult me for saying this. OP this is how a lot of women communicate. You will get used to it. It's not a big deal.

Then you're surrounding yourself with the wrong people. None of my friends behave like this. Only one person in my life does and she has multiple mental health issues so it's tied to that and not being a woman.

You gotta do the whole "do you want me to offer advice on how to fix this or do you just want me to listen and agree" - she's probably the latter.

She is sending you signals that you need to pay more attention to her. She wants your attention.

Are you new to dating? Please ladies don't insult me for saying this. OP this is how a lot of women communicate. You will get used to it. It's not a big deal.

You need to tell her that she's being too negative and that this is not an attractive trait. I used to be like this, because I grew up with a mother and aunts who were (and are) very negative. I was able to change when I met my husband, who is a very positive person, and I realized I was just ruminating all the time.

So, she can change, but she has to want to.

Find a new gf this is just going to get much worse.

Anonymous wrote:She should dump you

I dated someone like his girlfriend. Everything was always someone else's fault. He whined and whined but made no effort to change things or do anything about it.

Anonymous wrote:I hate people like this.
Always a victim
Attention hog

Same. I can't be friends with people like your girlfriend. You have to decide if you can just suck it up and deal with it or if it's a sign that long term it won't work. DHs friend is married to someone like this and their marriage seems miserable. His annoyance with her constant complaining has led to him not being supportive in situations where the complaining is warranted.

She should dump you

I hate people like this.
Always a victim
Attention hog

I know I’m going to sound like. Douche but I know most people here are women and I need asvice. I genuinely don’t understand why my girlfriend just doesn’t fix her own issues if she cares enough to vent.

doesn’t like that she’s gaining weight - doesnt exercise

Tells me some guy at her work grabbed her tightly and keeps staring at her - doesn’t tell him to back off

Says she’s being made out to be the bad guy at her job because some loser went behind her back to her boss to ”tell on her” when said guy is the biggest jerk himself

These are her main things she talks about and I have given her solutions yet she keeps complaining. If im being honest these are ”non-issues”.
Who cares what coworkers do? I WFH so maybe i just dont get it. I don’t know

Should I just nod and listen from now on?