Anonymous wrote:It is rare to be mistreated by several coworkers.
Find a job that is a better fit. Stocking shelves perhaps.
Whatever you do (saying 'hi' for example) is not enough to hide what you are trying to hide. They cannot figure out what's up with you and how you like to be treated.

What do you mean by hide? I genuinely just want to work and that’s it :/

It is rare to be mistreated by several coworkers.
Find a job that is a better fit. Stocking shelves perhaps.
Whatever you do (saying 'hi' for example) is not enough to hide what you are trying to hide. They cannot figure out what's up with you and how you like to be treated.

OP, I'm so sorry that you're going through this at work. She is such a jerk.

Please keep in mind that this isn’t about you—it’s about her. People who carry pain often project it onto others.

I know it must be exhausting to deal with her every day, but try not to let her negativity take up space inside you. When you allow someone’s words to make you feel small, sad, or angry, you’re giving them power/control over you—and you deserve better than that.

That said, if your natural style is more introverted or straightforward, it may help to balance that by being a little more open and engaging in your interactions with your colleagues. Small talk is so draining and seems like a waste of time, but we all need to do some in order to "get along with others" (and not become a target, so to speak).

She may just be projecting her character flaws onto you. Hopefully she will stop bugging you now with her recent statement.

i know showing up on time is the bare minimum, but since so many people atleast at my job don’t, I figured that would be appreciated by my bosses.

I just have to accept that they do not like me. I have always been OK with coworkers not liking me but this is hard for me.

Thank you for the replies

I think you can’t let this person control your feelings. You may also want to look for other options. She sounds unstable and like she is focused on you, have a backup plan.

She’s being coached by the organization on how they think managers should interact with team members.

You showing up on time is part of your job, not anything special.

Realize this is how your organization is and suck it up.

This is who I am as an employee; I keep to myself, I’m not a social butterfly, I pride myself on always being on time and always showing up to work to do my best. I know I am kind and help others when they need it and I am not a rude person.
I work at a manual labor job where really, the only thing that matters is to have 2 hands and work fast.

However, there is one lady at my job (manager type) who will not stop asking me ”what’s the matter?” And ”are you okay?”
I know you think this is sweet but here’s the thing, this woman is hot and cold. She is warm 1 minute and super cold the next. Everyday I show up and say hi to everyone, and she never responds. This woman can be so very rude but if she is in a good mood she expects me to be in one too. So she will look at me and genuinely get almost mad that I am not chipper. This has been going on for months. And it’s hurting my feelings.

Why does it matter if I am not a talkative person when the job is a ”work fast / manual job”? I never ignore anyone I just do not initiate conversation.

And like I told you, she herself is literally rude sometimes. She even told me that I make the environment terrible and she told me that she will not speak to me anymore.

I have been mistreated there by a few coworkers but for a manager to say that to me, it made me cry after work.