I don’t usually. I know a family who lives in a house twice the size of mine, drives luxury cars, and sends 3 kids to private schools. The mom wears and carries designer everything. They take vacations to Europe every summer. The mom was diagnosed with breast cancer- thankfully, very early stage, she had a lumpectomy and I believe a short course of radiation. Of course this is terrifying for her and I understand and appreciate that. However I do not understand nor do I appreciate the GoFundMe for 50k for “health care costs” when she does have good health insurance and doesn’t work so no lost income. By the way , she didn’t change her families lifestyle at all. Still took those vacations and got those new shoes.

Appearing ain’t being

I am barely middle class. So I wouldn't donate money to anyone better off than I am.

I do what I want to do and try not to feel back if I don't want to do something for whatever reason. If it's someone I know going through a tough time, I usually do something even if they have money - but we don't usually do go fund me, we usually do a meal train and I think everyone can use a homecooked meal. I draw the line at people I don't know.

No. I don’t give what you don’t want to give or what the family does not need. My neighbors collected money for another neighbor (well off people) where the wife was terminally ill with cancer. Did the family need that? Absolutely not.

I opted to help where they needed the help and I could be useful to them.

Money grab is as tacky as it gets. Ignore.

I think public begging is one of signs that we are lost as a society right now.

Usually they "appear" wealthy because they spend their money and don't save very much. Or, have difficult circumstances happen quickly.

I would still donate if closer to them; a friend has the larger house, pool, new SUVs, etc... but it's all on credit or mortgaged or with loans. When he had a health problem, I did don'ate, knowing the backstory.

Maybe going forward he will.make different choices, but that's not my decision to make.

I hardly get any Go Fund Mes, and I always donate because they're for legitimate causes. Not frivolous "buy new team outfits" nonsense.

I would contribute toward a meal train or similar for a friend going through a crisis regardless of means because it's about showing love and care. I wouldn't contribute toward their team or expenses.

No

Give what feels right, OP.

I have done this for things like cancer treatments.

Your kids' crew team or overseas band trip, hell no.

I’d ignore anything I didn’t want to do

Is it a turnoff to you to be asked to donate? Do you do it anyway? Do you also give gifts of food/uber/door dash etc?