You can say that you found someone to be quite tempestuous to work around. That is not slander, that is personal opinion.

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Anonymous wrote:Just never look back. You just get on with your life.

+1. I would not 'warn' anyone, lest she decide to sue (or more likely only threaten it as she would not be high-functioning enough to do so) but when she isn't looking, I'd give him the subtle neck tilt and side eyes at her/back at him with a slight head shake, so he is aware to be aware of it when it comes. Everyone knows the 'yikes cringe'. You don't always know WHY it is coming from someone, but you always appreciate the warning.

She cannot sue if OP states facts, such as sending a screenshot of the crazy texts. Because facts are not slander or libel.

Anonymous wrote:Just never look back. You just get on with your life.

+1. I would not 'warn' anyone, lest she decide to sue (or more likely only threaten it as she would not be high-functioning enough to do so) but when she isn't looking, I'd give him the subtle neck tilt and side eyes at her/back at him with a slight head shake, so he is aware to be aware of it when it comes. Everyone knows the 'yikes cringe'. You don't always know WHY it is coming from someone, but you always appreciate the warning.

She probably didn't like you all that much and the lack of financial relationship that held her in check disappeared.

Anonymous wrote:She sounds like she has borderline personality disorder

Glad the DCUM shrinks are here for the always-quick diagnosis.

Hopefully those paperclips won't stolen from your office. She could press charges for abandoning stolen property.

She sounds like she has borderline personality disorder

Replace him with Kamala.

Anonymous wrote:I would tell him, because she's mentally ill and her disease might progress to physical aggression.

I had to work with a colleague who presented as friendly in person, but sent me all-caps threats by email, about reporting me to the boss, for no discernible reason. I did send all her emails to the boss, who persuaded her to quit. We later found out she had a psychotic break and had broken into the home of one of her friends in the middle of the night, rambling about how her ex-husband and unspecified strangers were out to get her, none of which was true. It was really sad, especially since at the time she still had custody of her daughter and had dragged her to the friend's home in a hysterical state.

Wow. Yeah, I can see this kind of thing happening. One telltale sign of someone who's gone around the bend is the blast of multiple furious text messages that go on and on and on. I couldn't even read them. They were seriously about the contents of the desk drawer and the kleenexes in the trash can, just wailing about them, and also about something the other tenant had left behind that she thought was mine. When I pointed out that it had belonged to him she shouted, "WELL THAT'S NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY!!!" I said, "it's not mine, either" and she turned around and left the office, slamming the door behind her. A middle aged woman, slamming a door in an argument. Really crazy behavior. Just a kook.

I would tell him, because she's mentally ill and her disease might progress to physical aggression.

I had to work with a colleague who presented as friendly in person, but sent me all-caps threats by email, about reporting me to the boss, for no discernible reason. I did send all her emails to the boss, who persuaded her to quit. We later found out she had a psychotic break and had broken into the home of one of her friends in the middle of the night, rambling about how her ex-husband and unspecified strangers were out to get her, none of which was true. It was really sad, especially since at the time she still had custody of her daughter and had dragged her to the friend's home in a hysterical state.

Just never look back. You just get on with your life.

Anonymous wrote:Definitely don’t tell the new person outright but I would indicate in a subtle way to look out for her.
But who know, maybe he is crazier than she is!

I'm thinking that may be the case. He's going through a divorce, so he may be as situationally toxic as she is.

Definitely don’t tell the new person outright but I would indicate in a subtle way to look out for her.
But who know, maybe he is crazier than she is!

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How do you handle it? In this case it's someone I was splitting office space with. She holds the lease and I was subletting a space and so was one other person. She had a lot of energy when I met her and even though she seemed likeable enough she's the kind of person you just naturally tiptoe around, and feel a general sense of doom whenever she's within earshot. I just kept to my own space and kept things polite. Then the third person left and she lost her mind, exploded all over him until he blocked her on every level. I commiserated with her about what a jerk he was. A month later we both agreed I would not stay. It was mutual; I felt I was paying too much and it wasn't worth it for me and she had found someone to take both spaces for more rent -- and sure enough she again lost her mind. She said I left garbage everywhere and as proof opened an empty desk drawer to show some paper clips, and held up the trash can with a few balled up kleenexes in it. (We had a cleaning service so this was irrelevant.) I'm not joking about the level of pettiness. And she was LIVID about it. Just wild eyed and enraged.

I really think she's mentally ill and was triggered by my moving my things out. Now I wonder if I should tell the new person or just let him find out for himself. How do you handle it when people present as normal and then turn out to be bonkers?