No. Even though my 17 yo doesn’t go to parties and seems to follow the rules, it’s not a risk I’m willing to take. He’s #3 and I’ve learned that sometimes even good kids make poor decisions.

Anonymous wrote:OP: She did just turn 17 and is a junior not senior. I have a 25 year old DS who lives very close who can check up on her and is close by in case of an emergency, or if I still don’t
comfortable with her being alone, she can stay with DS or he can come over to stay with her.

I am in the exact same boat. Both DH and I need to be gone for 5 nights. 20 yr old DS is also 30 min away (an hour with traffic), so she can stay with him on the weekend, but she has to be in school the other two days so she has to be home. DD said she would be fine, but I don't feel comfortable with it as she has anxiety and panic attacks. Yes, she's on meds. She just turned 17. I might call her aunt to stay with her for 2 nights, so DD would only be alone at night for 1 night.

Depends on the kid. I personally wouldn't with mine because she has tons of friends and I can see someone convincing her to have a party.

OP: She did just turn 17 and is a junior not senior. I have a 25 year old DS who lives very close who can check up on her and is close by in case of an emergency, or if I still don’t
comfortable with her being alone, she can stay with DS or he can come over to stay with her.

Yes. Fine.

We left them alone but they could only make food in the microwave and the toaster oven (both with timers so would turn off).

Cooking on a hot stove is probably the most dangerous thing to do in the house.


We also had her call us everyday after showing, as that’s the second most dangerous thing.

Agreed, in college you will have neighbors, RAs, maybe even roommates. As a solo in a SFH you are very isolated.

Yes!

yes

Very strange question. Of course! I left my son when he was younger than that for longer. Unless you have any particular reason to be concerned, I would.

Anonymous wrote:Are you going to let her go to college next year? What a bizarre question.

If she lives on campus, there will be building maintenance, an ra, and nearby health services. Not true if home alone. Also then she would be 18 and able to consent to medical treatment.

She should be fine. I’ve left my 17 year old boy home alone for 2 nights.

Yes, but FaceTime her each day and have a nearby friend or relatives on call in case something comes up for her or the house.

Are you going to let her go to college next year? What a bizarre question.

I would and did.

DH has a work trip that he’d like me to attend a few hours away from where we live . DD17 doesn’t want to come along. I’m not sure if we should let her stay alone. She’s not a partier so I’m not worried about that. But, we’ve never left her alone overnight before. She’s willing to stay alone and is responsible. I guess I’m just overly anxious. So considering all this, should we?