Anonymous wrote:On the last day of a 3 day work offsite, the team went to dinner. As I was saying so long to everyone at the end of dinner, the CFO came in for a hug, which was fine. However, as I pulled away I felt his very muscular physique. Now, I can’t stop thinking about him and the hug! Back at the office I was in a meeting that he also attended and in trying to be nonchalant I basically ignored him. It wasn’t an inappropriate hug or anything. How do I not let this ruin a good job?

Sounds like a crush

Anonymous wrote:On the last day of a 3 day work offsite, the team went to dinner. As I was saying so long to everyone at the end of dinner, the CFO came in for a hug, which was fine. However, as I pulled away I felt his very muscular physique. Now, I can’t stop thinking about him and the hug! Back at the office I was in a meeting that he also attended and in trying to be nonchalant I basically ignored him. It wasn’t an inappropriate hug or anything. How do I not let this ruin a good job?

OP, wait till you see all the things he can do with his tail.

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why hugging at the office is appropriate. It's so physically intrusive. I come from France where kisses on the cheek are the norm when greeting someone familiar or friendly, often including coworkers, but they're often air kisses, or lightly pressing cheeks together. That's way less bodily contact than a full-on hug. I was so surprised and uncomfortable when my American boss hugged me - he's a tall guy and I'm a short woman.

There are different kinds of hugs and context matters. A well-spaced and quick hug is appropriate in the United States, well-spaced meaning it's mostly arms around shoulders and not full-length body contact.

IMO, it is MUCH more intrusive in Europe where everyone wants to be kissing cheeks or putting their cheek against yours. Talk about intrusive - that is lip/skin-to-skin contact which I don't appreciate at all. Not to mention getting smeared with someone's lipstick or heavy cologne. I don't want to be smelling someone else's cologne on my face nor do I want some virtual stranger's germy lips on my cheeks, merci beaucoup.

This is bizarre.

Geez OP. I'm certainly not hugging women at work but I would only expect this reaction from something more forward like putting a hand on a thigh. I mean there is a way to hug someone with middle school dance space in-between. Did you happen to notice his muscles and then "trip" into a hug with him maybe? Yikes, would hate to be the guy in this situation.

Anonymous wrote:Is this your first time touching a muscle?

This. OP is beyond pathetic.

Anonymous wrote:Is this the opening paragraph of a romance novel

Would be a pretty horrible novel.

Is this your first time touching a muscle?

Is this the opening paragraph of a romance novel

I don't understand why hugging at the office is appropriate. It's so physically intrusive. I come from France where kisses on the cheek are the norm when greeting someone familiar or friendly, often including coworkers, but they're often air kisses, or lightly pressing cheeks together. That's way less bodily contact than a full-on hug. I was so surprised and uncomfortable when my American boss hugged me - he's a tall guy and I'm a short woman.

I have never been hugged by male coworkers, let alone clock one was memorable.

Any hug is this context is inappropriate. Was there drinking at the dinner?

Anonymous wrote:On the last day of a 3 day work offsite, the team went to dinner. As I was saying so long to everyone at the end of dinner, the CFO came in for a hug, which was fine. However, as I pulled away I felt his very muscular physique. Now, I can’t stop thinking about him and the hug! Back at the office I was in a meeting that he also attended and in trying to be nonchalant I basically ignored him. It wasn’t an inappropriate hug or anything. How do I not let this ruin a good job?

Don't go see Coldplay with him.

Try not being so weird.

On the last day of a 3 day work offsite, the team went to dinner. As I was saying so long to everyone at the end of dinner, the CFO came in for a hug, which was fine. However, as I pulled away I felt his very muscular physique. Now, I can’t stop thinking about him and the hug! Back at the office I was in a meeting that he also attended and in trying to be nonchalant I basically ignored him. It wasn’t an inappropriate hug or anything. How do I not let this ruin a good job?