Anonymous
08/24/2025 21:06
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
I have four, and two have dud-like tendencies streaming from their dad's side. Dud behavior is typically genetic.
Anonymous
08/24/2025 17:13
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
I have a brother in prison, but I wouldn’t call him a dud. His birth parents were substance abusers and he was born addicted. He qualified for a lot services from birth, but many weren’t well done and there was a significant amount of household instability undermining everything. I was out of the house by then with a child of my own so I wasn’t involved in a way that might have made a difference.
I would say he’s the outlier though because all five other kids are law abiding as are his two bio siblings on either side of his birth. He is just brain damaged enough to lack impulse control but not enough to legally not be accountable. He likes prison because it is highly structured and he has limited choices.
Only two other relatives have ever been in trouble with the law and one of those was arrested for a Civil Rights Era sit in.
I would say he’s the outlier though because all five other kids are law abiding as are his two bio siblings on either side of his birth. He is just brain damaged enough to lack impulse control but not enough to legally not be accountable. He likes prison because it is highly structured and he has limited choices.
Only two other relatives have ever been in trouble with the law and one of those was arrested for a Civil Rights Era sit in.
Anonymous
08/24/2025 17:07
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
Anonymous wrote:If your children turned out to be duds or on the path towards that, is it just reverting back to your family history or are they an outlier/step down?
Check with your parents, I guess. They’d know.
Anonymous
08/24/2025 17:04
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
Anonymous wrote:My kids are dudes from a long line of dudes.
May they abide.
Anonymous
08/24/2025 12:37
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
Calling your kid a dud makes you the dud
Anonymous
08/24/2025 12:18
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:WTF is a "dud" child?
Failure to launch
My kid has some disabilities that require a longer runway to launch. That doesn't make her a "dud."
Anonymous
08/24/2025 12:06
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
This is phrased so unkindly. There’s nothing wrong with a simple life.
However, it’s either/or. The biggest lie in parenting is that the right parenting guarantees some sort of outcome. There are lots of countervailing forces.
However, it’s either/or. The biggest lie in parenting is that the right parenting guarantees some sort of outcome. There are lots of countervailing forces.
Anonymous
08/24/2025 12:03
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
Anonymous wrote:WTF is a "dud" child?
This. Really, OP?
Anonymous
08/24/2025 11:59
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
Usually it's because they have undiagnosed issues that didn't get treatment in childhood.
Anonymous
08/24/2025 11:04
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
Anonymous wrote:WTF is a "dud" child?
Failure to launch
Anonymous
08/24/2025 11:00
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
My kids are dudes from a long line of dudes.
Anonymous
08/24/2025 10:56
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
Anonymous wrote:I think it means they have at least one troll parent.
Or just a bad psrent
Anonymous
08/24/2025 10:04
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
WTF is a "dud" child?
Anonymous
08/24/2025 10:03
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
I think it means they have at least one troll parent.
Anonymous
08/24/2025 09:58
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
If your children turned out to be duds or on the path towards that, is it just reverting back to your family history or are they an outlier/step down?