Anonymous
08/18/2025 09:16
Subject: Lazy, careless DH stories
Anonymous wrote:Put them here. Here’s mine:
DH leaves Monday morning for a work trip. He said he would get stuff for a quick Sunday lunch for DD and a friend at the grocery store. I said to get a small watermelon to cut up for them. He said good idea.
I came home from taking the other kid out and it seemed that all was well and the girls finished the watermelon.
Tonight I open the fridge to plan for the big grocery shop tomorrow night and what do I see? An enormous watermelon wedged into the largest shelf with just the very end sliced off.
DH: they didn’t have small ones so I just cut off a small piece. And I figured you could have watermelon for the week.
Me: there’s no room for anything else in the fridge. And would you mind cutting it?
DH: I don’t have time and there are no containers that fit it.
Me: exactly.
Even though an electric chair would be a more fitting punishment for this heinous crime, sadly unlikely for any court to agree so just divorce the a$$hole and ask for full custody of your kids. He clearly can't be trusted with their care.
On a less sarcastic note, resentment leads to contempt which leads to hatred. If you want to save this marriage, enroll him in a express housekeeping training program or hire house help and take anger management classs.
Anonymous
08/18/2025 09:06
Subject: Lazy, careless DH stories
There's a term (and some recent articles) about "weaponized incompetence." It's a toxic way of chronically avoiding core responsibilities and chores of childrearing and household labor. Men who do this are like children and it's a major factor in modern divorce.
Also, to be fair, it's not just men-- women can do this too, and I've seen it with older women who literally won't put gas in their own car.
I would distinguish weaponized incompetence from "sweating the small stuff"- watermelon, library books, etc. wouldn't bother me if it's isolated and benign-- to me, this is someone being a little lazy or forgetful, annoying but human, and I'm not perfect either.
Also, to be fair, it's not just men-- women can do this too, and I've seen it with older women who literally won't put gas in their own car.
I would distinguish weaponized incompetence from "sweating the small stuff"- watermelon, library books, etc. wouldn't bother me if it's isolated and benign-- to me, this is someone being a little lazy or forgetful, annoying but human, and I'm not perfect either.
Anonymous
08/18/2025 08:41
Subject: Lazy, careless DH stories
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Put them here. Here’s mine:
DH leaves Monday morning for a work trip. He said he would get stuff for a quick Sunday lunch for DD and a friend at the grocery store. I said to get a small watermelon to cut up for them. He said good idea.
I came home from taking the other kid out and it seemed that all was well and the girls finished the watermelon.
Tonight I open the fridge to plan for the big grocery shop tomorrow night and what do I see? An enormous watermelon wedged into the largest shelf with just the very end sliced off.
DH: they didn’t have small ones so I just cut off a small piece. And I figured you could have watermelon for the week.
Me: there’s no room for anything else in the fridge. And would you mind cutting it?
DH: I don’t have time and there are no containers that fit it.
Me: exactly.
A little early on a Monday for the misandry, methinks. Do better.
You need help
Anonymous
08/18/2025 08:35
Subject: Lazy, careless DH stories
Watermelons are the worst. I remember when my ILs came to visit one time MIL insisted on bringing a watermelon. When they got here, she demanded I cut it up for DD. Of course, it had gotten dropped on the trip and was gross and mushy inside so nobody ate it.
Anonymous
08/18/2025 08:35
Subject: Lazy, careless DH stories
Anonymous wrote:Put them here. Here’s mine:
DH leaves Monday morning for a work trip. He said he would get stuff for a quick Sunday lunch for DD and a friend at the grocery store. I said to get a small watermelon to cut up for them. He said good idea.
I came home from taking the other kid out and it seemed that all was well and the girls finished the watermelon.
Tonight I open the fridge to plan for the big grocery shop tomorrow night and what do I see? An enormous watermelon wedged into the largest shelf with just the very end sliced off.
DH: they didn’t have small ones so I just cut off a small piece. And I figured you could have watermelon for the week.
Me: there’s no room for anything else in the fridge. And would you mind cutting it?
DH: I don’t have time and there are no containers that fit it.
Me: exactly.
A little early on a Monday for the misandry, methinks. Do better.
Anonymous
08/18/2025 08:33
Subject: Re:Lazy, careless DH stories
Anonymous wrote:I mean most (not all) DCUM posters are heterosexual married women. If this isn't a space to vent about husbands then I don't know what is.
Your problem is your colossal lack of self-awareness. You seek a space to complain about someone you promised to love for the rest of your life, when you should be looking for a space to examine your actions and choices so that you can make better ones in the future.
And, no, I do not mean the choice you made to marry your DH.
I mean the choices you make every day that lead you to blame him for whatever it is that brings you here to complain. If you were an adult, you could look at your reaction to his perceived shortcomings and grow from it.
Translation: I suffer from internalized misogyny who can't handle the notion that men are not perfect and can be legitimately vented about.
I think you need to work on yourself so that you don't feel so much distress about other women venting about their husbands. This must be awful for you. The first step would be to stop reading these forums.
Anonymous
08/18/2025 08:12
Subject: Re:Lazy, careless DH stories
I mean most (not all) DCUM posters are heterosexual married women. If this isn't a space to vent about husbands then I don't know what is.
Your problem is your colossal lack of self-awareness. You seek a space to complain about someone you promised to love for the rest of your life, when you should be looking for a space to examine your actions and choices so that you can make better ones in the future.
And, no, I do not mean the choice you made to marry your DH.
I mean the choices you make every day that lead you to blame him for whatever it is that brings you here to complain. If you were an adult, you could look at your reaction to his perceived shortcomings and grow from it.
Anonymous
08/18/2025 08:00
Subject: Lazy, careless DH stories
Anonymous wrote:Why do I have a feeling you would have also been mad if he’d gotten no watermelon at all?
-a wife
Who hacks a chunk off a giant watermelon and sticks it in the fridge? The juice will get everywhere.0
Anonymous
08/18/2025 07:55
Subject: Lazy, careless DH stories
I mean most (not all) DCUM posters are heterosexual married women. If this isn't a space to vent about husbands then I don't know what is.
Anonymous
08/18/2025 07:16
Subject: Lazy, careless DH stories
Why do I have a feeling you would have also been mad if he’d gotten no watermelon at all?
-a wife
-a wife
Anonymous
08/18/2025 07:05
Subject: Lazy, careless DH stories
Anonymous wrote:Not another husband bashing thread!!
+1 Here we go...
Anonymous
08/18/2025 07:04
Subject: Lazy, careless DH stories
Seriously. How about a Lazy Spouse thread?
- wife
- wife
Anonymous
08/18/2025 07:00
Subject: Lazy, careless DH stories
Not another husband bashing thread!!
Anonymous
08/18/2025 06:59
Subject: Lazy, careless DH stories
After I spent a day off from work decluttering the whole house (hauling bags of donations, books to donate, toys etc) and then organizing all that remains, I commented I still had to return a big stack of library books. DH had a couple books to return so he offered to do it. That was 3 weeks ago. I renewed the books on the app but am waiting to see when he returns them.
He also was going to return something to Amazon and it is sitting there still and now the return window has passed.
Yet when I come home from work he is sitting on the couch watching tv. Works from home, claims to finish work early most days.
He also was going to return something to Amazon and it is sitting there still and now the return window has passed.
Yet when I come home from work he is sitting on the couch watching tv. Works from home, claims to finish work early most days.
Anonymous
08/18/2025 02:04
Subject: Lazy, careless DH stories
Put them here. Here’s mine:
DH leaves Monday morning for a work trip. He said he would get stuff for a quick Sunday lunch for DD and a friend at the grocery store. I said to get a small watermelon to cut up for them. He said good idea.
I came home from taking the other kid out and it seemed that all was well and the girls finished the watermelon.
Tonight I open the fridge to plan for the big grocery shop tomorrow night and what do I see? An enormous watermelon wedged into the largest shelf with just the very end sliced off.
DH: they didn’t have small ones so I just cut off a small piece. And I figured you could have watermelon for the week.
Me: there’s no room for anything else in the fridge. And would you mind cutting it?
DH: I don’t have time and there are no containers that fit it.
Me: exactly.
DH leaves Monday morning for a work trip. He said he would get stuff for a quick Sunday lunch for DD and a friend at the grocery store. I said to get a small watermelon to cut up for them. He said good idea.
I came home from taking the other kid out and it seemed that all was well and the girls finished the watermelon.
Tonight I open the fridge to plan for the big grocery shop tomorrow night and what do I see? An enormous watermelon wedged into the largest shelf with just the very end sliced off.
DH: they didn’t have small ones so I just cut off a small piece. And I figured you could have watermelon for the week.
Me: there’s no room for anything else in the fridge. And would you mind cutting it?
DH: I don’t have time and there are no containers that fit it.
Me: exactly.