Anonymous
08/17/2025 09:47
Subject: Divorced dating sex life
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:xH is still the best in bed I’ve ever slept with, but he had almost zero interest in sex. So I’ve gone from a 10 every 1-2 months to a 5-8 whenever I want.
I know eventually I’ll find another 10 so just gotta keep test driving new men.
What made xH a 10? Seems like finding someone good shouldn’t be too hard.
Intense physical chemistry plus he did a lot of little things that I loved. I can find good, which is fine, but it’s not as good. And it’s things that are difficult to explain - like how do you explain to a man you want him to look at you a certain way or take off your thong in a very specific way? I’ve tried sending videos with examples of what I want but men rarely follow through.
It’s not BAD sex, but it’s not the level I really want.
Why did you divorce then?
He had almost zero interest in sex with me, tried to cheat on me for years, ADHD, depressed, did nothing at home, spent a bunch of money and racked up debt without me knowing, got angry at me for asking him to do basic things like clean, wanted nothing to do with our family so weekends were me taking the kids out so he could have “alone time” which was really him going out with our neighbor, drug addiction….the list goes on and on.
Zero regrets. I’ll still take my peace and good-not-great sex whenever I want it over a chaotic home with hot sex 4-5 times a year. But, still, sigh. I just want someone to toss me around and call me a good girl.
Can you still see him occasionally just for sex?
Ew no, god knows what STDs he’s accumulated.
Anonymous
08/17/2025 09:40
Subject: Divorced dating sex life
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:xH is still the best in bed I’ve ever slept with, but he had almost zero interest in sex. So I’ve gone from a 10 every 1-2 months to a 5-8 whenever I want.
I know eventually I’ll find another 10 so just gotta keep test driving new men.
What made xH a 10? Seems like finding someone good shouldn’t be too hard.
Intense physical chemistry plus he did a lot of little things that I loved. I can find good, which is fine, but it’s not as good. And it’s things that are difficult to explain - like how do you explain to a man you want him to look at you a certain way or take off your thong in a very specific way? I’ve tried sending videos with examples of what I want but men rarely follow through.
It’s not BAD sex, but it’s not the level I really want.
Why did you divorce then?
He had almost zero interest in sex with me, tried to cheat on me for years, ADHD, depressed, did nothing at home, spent a bunch of money and racked up debt without me knowing, got angry at me for asking him to do basic things like clean, wanted nothing to do with our family so weekends were me taking the kids out so he could have “alone time” which was really him going out with our neighbor, drug addiction….the list goes on and on.
Zero regrets. I’ll still take my peace and good-not-great sex whenever I want it over a chaotic home with hot sex 4-5 times a year. But, still, sigh. I just want someone to toss me around and call me a good girl.
Can you still see him occasionally just for sex?
Anonymous
08/17/2025 09:08
Subject: Divorced dating sex life
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:xH is still the best in bed I’ve ever slept with, but he had almost zero interest in sex. So I’ve gone from a 10 every 1-2 months to a 5-8 whenever I want.
I know eventually I’ll find another 10 so just gotta keep test driving new men.
What made xH a 10? Seems like finding someone good shouldn’t be too hard.
Intense physical chemistry plus he did a lot of little things that I loved. I can find good, which is fine, but it’s not as good. And it’s things that are difficult to explain - like how do you explain to a man you want him to look at you a certain way or take off your thong in a very specific way? I’ve tried sending videos with examples of what I want but men rarely follow through.
It’s not BAD sex, but it’s not the level I really want.
Why did you divorce then?
He had almost zero interest in sex with me, tried to cheat on me for years, ADHD, depressed, did nothing at home, spent a bunch of money and racked up debt without me knowing, got angry at me for asking him to do basic things like clean, wanted nothing to do with our family so weekends were me taking the kids out so he could have “alone time” which was really him going out with our neighbor, drug addiction….the list goes on and on.
Zero regrets. I’ll still take my peace and good-not-great sex whenever I want it over a chaotic home with hot sex 4-5 times a year. But, still, sigh. I just want someone to toss me around and call me a good girl.
Anonymous
08/17/2025 09:02
Subject: Divorced dating sex life
I'm 50 and she's 54. Because of our custody schedules, we only get the chance 2-3 days a week, but we always have sex on those days. It's easily the best I've had. Really strong chemistry plus much more comfort, openness, communication than ever before. And she's hot and more confident sexually than most of my prior partners.
Anonymous
08/17/2025 09:00
Subject: Divorced dating sex life
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:xH is still the best in bed I’ve ever slept with, but he had almost zero interest in sex. So I’ve gone from a 10 every 1-2 months to a 5-8 whenever I want.
I know eventually I’ll find another 10 so just gotta keep test driving new men.
What made xH a 10? Seems like finding someone good shouldn’t be too hard.
Intense physical chemistry plus he did a lot of little things that I loved. I can find good, which is fine, but it’s not as good. And it’s things that are difficult to explain - like how do you explain to a man you want him to look at you a certain way or take off your thong in a very specific way? I’ve tried sending videos with examples of what I want but men rarely follow through.
It’s not BAD sex, but it’s not the level I really want.
Why did you divorce then?
Anonymous
08/17/2025 08:59
Subject: Re:Divorced dating sex life
Same here. ExH was an absolute bull in bed. To explain, he did it in all positions, held me in a specific way during, could mouth f..k me while fingering at the same time, legs on his shoulders while he was f..k me slightly sideways on a specific point next to cervix, role play, sex in different settings etc.
But he was extremely high L and slept with other women too.
I had good sec couple times post divorce but on a scale of 10, probably ranked 6
But he was extremely high L and slept with other women too.
I had good sec couple times post divorce but on a scale of 10, probably ranked 6
Anonymous
08/17/2025 08:51
Subject: Divorced dating sex life
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:xH is still the best in bed I’ve ever slept with, but he had almost zero interest in sex. So I’ve gone from a 10 every 1-2 months to a 5-8 whenever I want.
I know eventually I’ll find another 10 so just gotta keep test driving new men.
What made xH a 10? Seems like finding someone good shouldn’t be too hard.
Intense physical chemistry plus he did a lot of little things that I loved. I can find good, which is fine, but it’s not as good. And it’s things that are difficult to explain - like how do you explain to a man you want him to look at you a certain way or take off your thong in a very specific way? I’ve tried sending videos with examples of what I want but men rarely follow through.
It’s not BAD sex, but it’s not the level I really want.
Anonymous
08/17/2025 08:37
Subject: Divorced dating sex life
Anonymous wrote:xH is still the best in bed I’ve ever slept with, but he had almost zero interest in sex. So I’ve gone from a 10 every 1-2 months to a 5-8 whenever I want.
I know eventually I’ll find another 10 so just gotta keep test driving new men.
What made xH a 10? Seems like finding someone good shouldn’t be too hard.
Anonymous
08/17/2025 08:33
Subject: Divorced dating sex life
xH is still the best in bed I’ve ever slept with, but he had almost zero interest in sex. So I’ve gone from a 10 every 1-2 months to a 5-8 whenever I want.
I know eventually I’ll find another 10 so just gotta keep test driving new men.
I know eventually I’ll find another 10 so just gotta keep test driving new men.
Anonymous
08/17/2025 08:27
Subject: Divorced dating sex life
Anonymous wrote:It's great with my current sex partner. We worked hard on it though.
Besides him, I do give a few other ones a chance, but he is still the best. I'm 47.
I feel the same way with my current partner. The chemistry and attraction were there right from the start but we had to work at it a bit. He’s definitely the best sex of my life and it’s not even close. I’m 41, btw.
Anonymous
08/17/2025 07:43
Subject: Divorced dating sex life
Anonymous wrote:It's great with my current sex partner. We worked hard on it though.
Besides him, I do give a few other ones a chance, but he is still the best. I'm 47.
Is it a LTR? What do you mean worked hard?
Anonymous
08/17/2025 07:41
Subject: Divorced dating sex life
Do or did?
Anonymous
08/17/2025 07:37
Subject: Divorced dating sex life
It's great with my current sex partner. We worked hard on it though.
Besides him, I do give a few other ones a chance, but he is still the best. I'm 47.
Besides him, I do give a few other ones a chance, but he is still the best. I'm 47.
Anonymous
08/17/2025 07:11
Subject: Divorced dating sex life
Having the best sex of my life. 43 male
Anonymous
08/17/2025 07:09
Subject: Divorced dating sex life
What is your sex life like while dating after becoming divorced? And how old are you?