Anonymous wrote:I know this is likely community specific, but how do 55+ communities (NOT assisted living) tend to work if you have kids in college? Can they come home for breaks or is it really no kids at all?

Omg don’t be ridiculous of course they can come and stay .

Most communities have a rule no longer than six months straight . Some have 30 days but no HOA of a community is wasting funds they don’t have to get your college kid out.

All of these communities have bylaws many can’t enforce them

No one cares about your college student as long as they don’t have raging parties nightly.

What they care about sometimes is if your fourth year old moves in with their family because of job loss and they stay . Even that most communities can do nothing .

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Anonymous wrote:Most 55+ communities I've seen only require that one person who lives in the house is 55+, and NONE of the people in the house are under 18.
So most college "kids" are at least 18 years old, and it's actually fine if they live there with you.

What I've seen as a problem more frequently is when the homeowners adult kids have kids of their own, and for whatever reason these young grandchildren need to move in with the grandparents. This violates the "no one under 18" rule.

No all 55 plus do not have the same rules

Most allow relatives over the age of 18 to move in. Reading contracts is a skill.

Yes, that’s exactly what I said in the post you quoted

It all depends on the by laws of the specific community in question. There is no single rule and anyone who suggests otherwise is full of shit because they just don’t know every community in the entire damn country.

In my mother’s community, for example, it became an issue when my 40 something year-old brother returned from many years abroad and needed a place to stay and wanted to stay with her. He literally had to sneak in and they had to hide him. They make no exceptions for someone over 18. When they say 55+ they mean it.

So just check with the community you’re interested in and don’t listen to all the bullshit from all the know it alls who constantly appear in this website and assume their own anecdotal experience is universal truth.

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Anonymous wrote:They cannot live in the house with you. They can visit. You would have to ask the communities you are interested in. FWIW these communities are extremely nosy, almost all old white MAGA and I could never imagine living in one.

Is this true?

Yes very very true

There are a few in Florida and one in Rehoboth not true.

I bought some speck homes during Covid in Rehoboth , Bethany , Lewes and Ocean Virw MAGA took over the HOAS horrible disgusting people. Lucky for me prices kept going up I made a killing. However many of these communities now have horrible reputations and people who bought later in the cycle can not sell for what they paid zero empathy .
And most of the homes are built poorly .

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most 55+ communities I've seen only require that one person who lives in the house is 55+, and NONE of the people in the house are under 18.
So most college "kids" are at least 18 years old, and it's actually fine if they live there with you.

What I've seen as a problem more frequently is when the homeowners adult kids have kids of their own, and for whatever reason these young grandchildren need to move in with the grandparents. This violates the "no one under 18" rule.

+1 this is similar to my parents' community. It is not serviced by school buses - so no one under 18. But funny enough they have a playground for all the visiting grandkids.

Why is it funny?

My inlaws lived in one that said no one under a certain age could live there greater than 3 months consecutive, so this allowed for the summer break kids to come home

Anonymous wrote:Most 55+ communities I've seen only require that one person who lives in the house is 55+, and NONE of the people in the house are under 18.
So most college "kids" are at least 18 years old, and it's actually fine if they live there with you.

What I've seen as a problem more frequently is when the homeowners adult kids have kids of their own, and for whatever reason these young grandchildren need to move in with the grandparents. This violates the "no one under 18" rule.

No all 55 plus do not have the same rules

Most allow relatives over the age of 18 to move in. Reading contracts is a skill.

Anonymous wrote:They cannot live in the house with you. They can visit. You would have to ask the communities you are interested in. FWIW these communities are extremely nosy, almost all old white MAGA and I could never imagine living in one.

An SRO may be a better option

And also - is this true in the exurbs of this area (e.g., Loudoun County)?

Anonymous wrote:They cannot live in the house with you. They can visit. You would have to ask the communities you are interested in. FWIW these communities are extremely nosy, almost all old white MAGA and I could never imagine living in one.

Is this true?

Anonymous wrote:Most 55+ communities I've seen only require that one person who lives in the house is 55+, and NONE of the people in the house are under 18.
So most college "kids" are at least 18 years old, and it's actually fine if they live there with you.

What I've seen as a problem more frequently is when the homeowners adult kids have kids of their own, and for whatever reason these young grandchildren need to move in with the grandparents. This violates the "no one under 18" rule.

+1 this is similar to my parents' community. It is not serviced by school buses - so no one under 18. But funny enough they have a playground for all the visiting grandkids.

Most 55+ communities I've seen only require that one person who lives in the house is 55+, and NONE of the people in the house are under 18.
So most college "kids" are at least 18 years old, and it's actually fine if they live there with you.

What I've seen as a problem more frequently is when the homeowners adult kids have kids of their own, and for whatever reason these young grandchildren need to move in with the grandparents. This violates the "no one under 18" rule.

Each community sets the visit rules. Summer might be hard.

They cannot live in the house with you. They can visit. You would have to ask the communities you are interested in. FWIW these communities are extremely nosy, almost all old white MAGA and I could never imagine living in one.

I know this is likely community specific, but how do 55+ communities (NOT assisted living) tend to work if you have kids in college? Can they come home for breaks or is it really no kids at all?