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Anonymous wrote:No. Why are you looking?

You never look? That seems strange to me.

What is the purpose of looking?

Anonymous wrote:No. Why are you looking?

You never look? That seems strange to me.

Ouch. No.

No. Why are you looking?

Anonymous wrote:Two friends just had this done at 50. I’m grossed out by it honestly. I’ve lived for the male gaze long enough- they aren’t worth it.

-love my vag

As someone with larger inner labia, it’s not always about the male gaze. When the inner labia protrude beyond the outer labia, it can be extremely uncomfortable. I have frequently had issues with biking and horseback riding because of the pressure on the vulva (and those lips) can pinch those labia. It is very painful.

During PIV intercourse, I have to “open” them up to avoid them accidentally getting pushed inside of the vulva during thrusting, or pinched. Again, that’s all super painful. There can be a great deal of adjusting of the vulva that needs to be done when sitting to avoid discomfort, and I often use Vaseline on them to avoid chafing.

I considered doing the surgery solely for these issues, and also because I felt it was abnormal (a midwife when I was 24 had told me mine were “pretty bad” when I mentioned embarrassment about them, which gave me a complex). It took me a lot of self love and reading books with real photos of real vulvas to realize mine were completely in the realm of normal, even if I did not look like and adult film star.

Two friends just had this done at 50. I’m grossed out by it honestly. I’ve lived for the male gaze long enough- they aren’t worth it.

-love my vag

If you are having issues with the appearance of your vulva, I’d suggest talking to your OB or a urogynecologist. A labiaplasty comes with a lot of risks including pain and scar tissue. What is the issue with your vulva, exactly?

I don't really look at or think about how it looks

Your vaj may look different but labia minora and majora shouldn’t be any different. Do you want to be tighter? I’d wait until you’re done with having kids.

He doesn't eat it anymore?

I can’t imagine caring so much about something I never see. I think most of the people that get this surgery is because of irritation/comfort issues, not the look of it.

Ew no.

Well for sure it will never be the same. What does your ob say? Are we talking out of normal range?

I recommend a therapist. This is insane.

One year after giving birth, im really not happy with how things now look down there. Anyone feel the same?

Dr recommendations in the DMV?