MAGA is pretty excited about assassinating people nowadays.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Sorry about poor editing. He is worried about my safety and I think that risk is remote. Not taking the role seems more risky to me from a job perspective, plus I’m excited for it.

In the end of the day he is putting you down for your career achievement. Doesn’t matter whether his intention is from kindness or not.

It amazes me you are spending this energy being worried when you should be celebrating.

Op here. Sorry about poor editing. He is worried about my safety and I think that risk is remote. Not taking the role seems more risky to me from a job perspective, plus I’m excited for it.

That’s his problem. I interviewed for a senior position at JUUL when laid-off. My wife and kids commented how could I that’s a horrible place that kills people. I told my two kids in college I am more than happy for you to pay your own college and told wife I am more than happy you go back to work and I stay home and not take job. They all at once changed mind.

Did not get job in end. Ethics are funny

OP lands a role she wanted for years.
Husband is grumpy.
How weird. If you can’t celebrate the big celebration milestones with him, how can you work through the tough parts?

Anonymous wrote:Needs more punctuation to read. Can you summarise?

I think the new job is working as a tech editor.

Just tell him. The longer you delay, the worse it will be.

Let him know that you considered his opinion, but you view it as an important step on your career ladder and you're excited about the role. Assure him that you'll involve him if anything happens that is worrisome but that you feel confident and happy, and are looking for his support.

Does he not want you to work on this project for your safety or because he does not agree with what you are doing? If it's the first, then it's probably something you can work through. If the later, then you guys disagree politically and recently I've seen people separate due to political differences.

Needs more punctuation to read. Can you summarise?

I’m wrapping up a project at work. One of the projects I could express interest in working on next would give me more responsibilities in a roll I’ve wanted for a few years. But the topic is related to something fairly heated on both sides of the aisle., but doesn’t really weigh in directly on the contentious topic. I’m struggling to find a good anonymous example, but let’s say it looks at teacher salaries in schools with a large percentage of immigrant children. My DH wanted me to turn the project down because of the risk, however small, that it would put a target on my back from people disgruntled with the results of the project. I think there was a bigger / more likely risk in terms of my career if I didn’t express interest in the new role. Well, I found out I got the role a week ago (got an email). I didn’t want him to rain on my parade so I didn’t tell him. And then we’ve been busy and he’s been really grumpy this week / short tempered for reasons I’m not clear on (I assume work related) so I still haven’t told him. I assume he’ll eventually ask, or over hear a work call, or be standing next to me when someone asks what project I’m working on. But I feel if I tell him he’ll just be worried and grumpy. I’d kind of rather wait until it’s humming along. But I’ve never kept something that feels important to me from him for this long. (We’ve been married about 20 years.) should I tell him? Or just let him figure it out eventually. It’s kind of a bummer - in my dream world I’d be celebrating this new role with him.