I’d get ready to be fired tomorrow. You seem a bit clueless as to the hole you’ve dug for yourself.

I guess none of you work in finance. We drop the f bomb all the time…but since it’s so common nobody takes it personally.

Regular check in one-on-one? If not reach out to him before your check in. You cannot justify your actions. Ask for forgiveness. Be a man and be accountable for your stupidity.

Anonymous wrote:It’s wild to me that people can do this. Are you a man or a woman?

I only ask because, as a woman who works in a corporate setting, I can not even imagine straight up yelling and cursing at anyone at work. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been furious and deeply frustrated at colleagues before but this response seems so wildly uncontrolled.

I’m sorry to pile on, really, I just find this kind of thing so interesting because it seems so impossible (for me, at least)

OP has to be a man

It’s wild to me that people can do this. Are you a man or a woman?

I only ask because, as a woman who works in a corporate setting, I can not even imagine straight up yelling and cursing at anyone at work. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been furious and deeply frustrated at colleagues before but this response seems so wildly uncontrolled.

I’m sorry to pile on, really, I just find this kind of thing so interesting because it seems so impossible (for me, at least)

Yeah, yelling and dropping f bombs at work is not okay no matter how incompetent someone is. You need to totally drop the “but I was right” attitude and go into the meeting in full apology mode and not try to defend yourself or bring up whatever he did to offend you other than to say “I know I was 100% in the wrong and would appreciate your help figuring out how to best raise issues more constructively in the future” and act like you mean it.

Become his boss

Anonymous wrote:My boss is a nice enough guy but fairly incompetent. I know he's trying but just doesn't have the experience he needs for the role he's in (senior leader). I've been under him about 2 years, with the organization almost 18, am about a year/year and a half from retirement. I do my job well, and he respects me, but since about January (not fed) he's been more diffidult to deal with. Changing his mind about things, saying he'll do something then not doing it, micromanaging. We've been doing okay but last week things came to a head and I lost it, got frustrated, yelled at him, dropped the F-bomb a few times. We both calmed a little before he walked out of my office, but then I left on a work trip and we haven't interacted since. I have a regular check in with him tomorrow and I have no idea how to handle it. I'm sorry I got worked up but not really for the things I said. If I was a little closer to retirement I would just leave but I need to hang on just a little longer. What would you do?

There's a decent chance you're closer to retirement than you think you are.

You say you’re sorry that you spoke to him that way and lost your cool, OF COURSE. There is nothing else to be done.

Not only is it not ok to speak to your boss that way, but it’s not ok to speak to anyone that way. Your longevity at the company has nothing to do with it.

Take him to see Coldplay. Hint hint.

I would open with an apology. I'm so sorry I lost my temper and yelled at you - you absolutely didn't deserve that , and it wasn't professional of me at all. I promise it won't happen again.

Then let them say whatever they want and then move on to work-related issues.

I’d pretend it didn’t happen and then at the end of the meeting I’d apologize and take responsibility for being inappropriate.

Grovel!

Yelled? Said the f word? That’s really embarrassing and you are still acting like you were in the right. Wow.

My boss is a nice enough guy but fairly incompetent. I know he's trying but just doesn't have the experience he needs for the role he's in (senior leader). I've been under him about 2 years, with the organization almost 18, am about a year/year and a half from retirement. I do my job well, and he respects me, but since about January (not fed) he's been more diffidult to deal with. Changing his mind about things, saying he'll do something then not doing it, micromanaging. We've been doing okay but last week things came to a head and I lost it, got frustrated, yelled at him, dropped the F-bomb a few times. We both calmed a little before he walked out of my office, but then I left on a work trip and we haven't interacted since. I have a regular check in with him tomorrow and I have no idea how to handle it. I'm sorry I got worked up but not really for the things I said. If I was a little closer to retirement I would just leave but I need to hang on just a little longer. What would you do?