Anonymous
Post 07/27/2025 09:05     Subject: Re:Would this annoy you? Business leader stupid comment about me.
Are you and Brad having an affair?
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2025 09:04     Subject: Would this annoy you? Business leader stupid comment about me.
Anonymous wrote:I’m kind of surprised by the comments here. While his comment is unprofessional, have you paused to self-reflect and think about why he would make that comment? Something tells me you took this comment personally as there might be some truth in it.


I agree. Maybe you are too chummy with Brad and it's not obvious to you, or maybe it was just a weird compliment. People imagine that that others have affairs with good-looking people (although not usually the case!).
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2025 09:00     Subject: Would this annoy you? Business leader stupid comment about me.
You started it by dredging up the coldplay people casually at work within earshot. Now you want to turn tables and threaten them with "HR"

If you were truly an HR professional, you would have a closed-door convo about "what were they thinking and what training should we proactively do at our company, if any"

You are as bad as the rest of them and the astronomy coldplay lady. HR really does suck.
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2025 06:45     Subject: Would this annoy you? Business leader stupid comment about me.
I’m kind of surprised by the comments here. While his comment is unprofessional, have you paused to self-reflect and think about why he would make that comment? Something tells me you took this comment personally as there might be some truth in it.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2025 21:00     Subject: Would this annoy you? Business leader stupid comment about me.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm a senior HR team member for a business unit within my company and Thursday night I was walking to a dinner event with two business leaders after work. Sally and I were talking about the Coldplay concert and the couple that was busted on the kiss-cam. "What were they thinking" kind of conversation.

Joe laughs and says, "I was trying to think of who might do this at our company and all I could think of was you with Brad."

Joe is not known for having a great filter and catching himself before he says random things he shouldn't so while I am sure he would just say he was making a joke, I couldn't help feeling pretty awkward about this and not only him picturing it (which I realize I can't stop) but also him saying it in front of others. Sally is a colleague and someone I respect and need to work with.

I feel annoyed by this and I'm sure some of how I feel is based on past stupid things he's said (another straw on the camel's back, so to speak).

WWYD?


Wow! Well, as a professional HR person, I will warn you that what you have said is extremely dangerous and could land you in hot soup at work. It is this precisely this kind of carelessness that got the Astronomer leadership in trouble. I am not even talking about morality, etiquettes or good judgement here. This can be a legal issue for the company and you could be sued for saying this.

I am just talking here as an HR professional. Sally, do you think we need to do a company-wide training on what are acceptable and unacceptable comments?


And this is why everyone avoids HR. They are hypersensitive and over the top. Just say “no, i wouldn’t do that” and move on.


HR is not there to be anyone's friend. Their job is to CYA for themselves and the company. So, it was fine to let Joe and Sally know that you are an HR professional. It diminishes Joe's comments instantly when you responded wearing the HR hat.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2025 20:55     Subject: Would this annoy you? Business leader stupid comment about me.
I had a similar interaction at work once when a coworker made a really dumb and awkward joke at my expense in a large meeting. my response in the moment was what came out - “No - and please never say anything like that again.” And then I just moved on, but some people afterwards said it was a good response and asked if I was ok!
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2025 20:44     Subject: Would this annoy you? Business leader stupid comment about me.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm a senior HR team member for a business unit within my company and Thursday night I was walking to a dinner event with two business leaders after work. Sally and I were talking about the Coldplay concert and the couple that was busted on the kiss-cam. "What were they thinking" kind of conversation.

Joe laughs and says, "I was trying to think of who might do this at our company and all I could think of was you with Brad."

Joe is not known for having a great filter and catching himself before he says random things he shouldn't so while I am sure he would just say he was making a joke, I couldn't help feeling pretty awkward about this and not only him picturing it (which I realize I can't stop) but also him saying it in front of others. Sally is a colleague and someone I respect and need to work with.

I feel annoyed by this and I'm sure some of how I feel is based on past stupid things he's said (another straw on the camel's back, so to speak).

WWYD?


Wow! Well, as a professional HR person, I will warn you that what you have said is extremely dangerous and could land you in hot soup at work. It is this precisely this kind of carelessness that got the Astronomer leadership in trouble. I am not even talking about morality, etiquettes or good judgement here. This can be a legal issue for the company and you could be sued for saying this.

I am just talking here as an HR professional. Sally, do you think we need to do a company-wide training on what are acceptable and unacceptable comments?


And this is why everyone avoids HR. They are hypersensitive and over the top. Just say “no, i wouldn’t do that” and move on.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2025 20:41     Subject: Would this annoy you? Business leader stupid comment about me.
Whenever I'm stumped for a quick response, I say, "say more about that... or... I'm intrigued, what do you mean by that?" A perfect response would have been, "it's an interesting choice to lobby that accusation at a senior HR person."
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2025 20:38     Subject: Would this annoy you? Business leader stupid comment about me.
Does Sally know Joe doesn't have a good filter? If so, don't worry about it. If she doesn't, I'd have immediately said, "Oh, I would NEVER cheat on my husband OR be so unprofessional!" and then move on from it.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2025 20:38     Subject: Would this annoy you? Business leader stupid comment about me.
Sounds like he is trying to wingman for Brad.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2025 20:32     Subject: Would this annoy you? Business leader stupid comment about me.
Anonymous wrote:I'm a senior HR team member for a business unit within my company and Thursday night I was walking to a dinner event with two business leaders after work. Sally and I were talking about the Coldplay concert and the couple that was busted on the kiss-cam. "What were they thinking" kind of conversation.

Joe laughs and says, "I was trying to think of who might do this at our company and all I could think of was you with Brad."

Joe is not known for having a great filter and catching himself before he says random things he shouldn't so while I am sure he would just say he was making a joke, I couldn't help feeling pretty awkward about this and not only him picturing it (which I realize I can't stop) but also him saying it in front of others. Sally is a colleague and someone I respect and need to work with.

I feel annoyed by this and I'm sure some of how I feel is based on past stupid things he's said (another straw on the camel's back, so to speak).

WWYD?


I don't blame you for not having a response at the ready, but something along the lines of, "Wow Joe. That's incredibly inappropriate and insulting" would have been right.

At this point I think you should talk to him privately and say that you were too shocked to say anything in the moment, but that you found the insinuation that you'd have an extramarital affair with a colleague to be inappropriate and offensive.

I disagree on throwing in an HR lecture. Just confront the behavior directly.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2025 19:47     Subject: Would this annoy you? Business leader stupid comment about me.
Anonymous wrote:I'm a senior HR team member for a business unit within my company and Thursday night I was walking to a dinner event with two business leaders after work. Sally and I were talking about the Coldplay concert and the couple that was busted on the kiss-cam. "What were they thinking" kind of conversation.

Joe laughs and says, "I was trying to think of who might do this at our company and all I could think of was you with Brad."

Joe is not known for having a great filter and catching himself before he says random things he shouldn't so while I am sure he would just say he was making a joke, I couldn't help feeling pretty awkward about this and not only him picturing it (which I realize I can't stop) but also him saying it in front of others. Sally is a colleague and someone I respect and need to work with.

I feel annoyed by this and I'm sure some of how I feel is based on past stupid things he's said (another straw on the camel's back, so to speak).

WWYD?


Wow! Well, as a professional HR person, I will warn you that what you have said is extremely dangerous and could land you in hot soup at work. It is this precisely this kind of carelessness that got the Astronomer leadership in trouble. I am not even talking about morality, etiquettes or good judgement here. This can be a legal issue for the company and you could be sued for saying this.

I am just talking here as an HR professional. Sally, do you think we need to do a company-wide training on what are acceptable and unacceptable comments?
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2025 19:42     Subject: Would this annoy you? Business leader stupid comment about me.
If he has no filter, the time has maybe passed to say something. In the moment, you should train yourself to come out with "Wow, that's so inappropriate to say in the workplace!" or something like that.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2025 19:41     Subject: Would this annoy you? Business leader stupid comment about me.
He thinks you are a floozy. I would not like to work for someone who thinks so poorly of me.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2025 19:37     Subject: Would this annoy you? Business leader stupid comment about me.
I'm a senior HR team member for a business unit within my company and Thursday night I was walking to a dinner event with two business leaders after work. Sally and I were talking about the Coldplay concert and the couple that was busted on the kiss-cam. "What were they thinking" kind of conversation.

Joe laughs and says, "I was trying to think of who might do this at our company and all I could think of was you with Brad."

Joe is not known for having a great filter and catching himself before he says random things he shouldn't so while I am sure he would just say he was making a joke, I couldn't help feeling pretty awkward about this and not only him picturing it (which I realize I can't stop) but also him saying it in front of others. Sally is a colleague and someone I respect and need to work with.

I feel annoyed by this and I'm sure some of how I feel is based on past stupid things he's said (another straw on the camel's back, so to speak).

WWYD?