Some of you are very, very naive.
Peer pressure to drink and do drugs is still a thing.

Kids often lie about this to their parents.

I there are some groups were they don't care but that was true 25 years ago as well. If your friends who are 40 and 50 are pressuring you to drink you need a new friend circle.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m experiencing a strange thing where my 40 something peers are exerting peer pressure on each other to drink and meanwhile the teenagers are very low-key and let each other do their thing. I didn’t see that coming.

Interesting. The last time I got together with mom friends, all of us in our 40s and 50s, there were definite comments towards people who didn’t drink or even ones who didn’t have a second drink.

My kids say no one cares.

So true about women in their 40s-50s, they don’t accept when someone won’t drink. Yet young adults are perfectly fine with it.

So interesting that others have commented this too. I notice the same thing. Not just women in 40-50s but men too. Much socializing seems to depend on alcohol - people still going to clubs/bars or drinking at get togethers/parties. Lots of social media posts of middle agers with drinks in their hands. Don't see that as much with the young adults. Does our generation not know how to have fun w/o alcohol?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m experiencing a strange thing where my 40 something peers are exerting peer pressure on each other to drink and meanwhile the teenagers are very low-key and let each other do their thing. I didn’t see that coming.

Interesting. The last time I got together with mom friends, all of us in our 40s and 50s, there were definite comments towards people who didn’t drink or even ones who didn’t have a second drink.

My kids say no one cares.

That's refreshing.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m experiencing a strange thing where my 40 something peers are exerting peer pressure on each other to drink and meanwhile the teenagers are very low-key and let each other do their thing. I didn’t see that coming.

Interesting. The last time I got together with mom friends, all of us in our 40s and 50s, there were definite comments towards people who didn’t drink or even ones who didn’t have a second drink.

My kids say no one cares.

So true about women in their 40s-50s, they don’t accept when someone won’t drink. Yet young adults are perfectly fine with it.

No, and there is certainly no drugs out. More young adults understand alcohol is not healthy, and are ok saying no. Young adults who drink too much or use drugs are avoided, so they tend to group together.

Anonymous wrote:I’m experiencing a strange thing where my 40 something peers are exerting peer pressure on each other to drink and meanwhile the teenagers are very low-key and let each other do their thing. I didn’t see that coming.

Interesting. The last time I got together with mom friends, all of us in our 40s and 50s, there were definite comments towards people who didn’t drink or even ones who didn’t have a second drink.

My kids say no one cares.

Anonymous wrote:My high schoolers say peers don't care - some drink & some don't, but most in the "party crowd" who are throwing & invited to most parties are generally drinkers. If someone is a non-drinker in this crowd, they tend to have a great personality, be an athlete & well-liked.

I mean, that's the way it's always been.

No one REALLY cares, but sometimes you convince yourself they do.

My high schoolers say peers don't care - some drink & some don't, but most in the "party crowd" who are throwing & invited to most parties are generally drinkers. If someone is a non-drinker in this crowd, they tend to have a great personality, be an athlete & well-liked.

Anonymous wrote:I’m experiencing a strange thing where my 40 something peers are exerting peer pressure on each other to drink and meanwhile the teenagers are very low-key and let each other do their thing. I didn’t see that coming.

YES, this!
teens- no pressure, maybe bc they talk/teach it so much at school. maybe bc they are more health aware, more concerned about future than we (gen X) were at that age, maybe bc they are more confident and smarter, maybe bc more food allergies and many kids just don't eat/drink stuff elsewhere unless they scour ingredients.

And yes, middle age gen Xers seem to still exert peer pressure to drink, or make a big deal out of it if you don't. So weird imho.

Anonymous wrote:A little maybe? I see some curiosity. But it is nothing like the social Gen X used (and some continue to use!)

Social pressure

A little maybe? I see some curiosity. But it is nothing like the social Gen X used (and some continue to use!)

It depends on the party and crowd. But, yes, peer pressure is still there to do whatever peers do.

Per my teen DD, not a thing.

I’m experiencing a strange thing where my 40 something peers are exerting peer pressure on each other to drink and meanwhile the teenagers are very low-key and let each other do their thing. I didn’t see that coming.

Is there still peer pressure to drink in high school or like other culture shifts, is environment now drink if want to or don’t and can be at same parties? Many years ago it was drink or get out. Curious how teens approach drink v don’t drink today. Guess while I am at it, are weed gummies now just main table option at parties like chips and guac v super secret main event at end of a night for a select few?