Most of our spending is discretionary. We have a second home for starters, which is 100% discretionary. We pay for house cleaning and landscaping. We travel frequently. When we eat out, it is usually higher end restaurants.
Non discretionary expenses are - car insurance, health insurance, home insurance, real estate taxes, groceries, utilities, phone service, internet, home and car maintenance. Probably a few other things I’m forgetting, but that all adds up to a small fraction of our spending.