Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 08:11     Subject: The idea of having sex with someone else is disgusting
Take the time to mourn the end of your relationship with the man you thought your XDH was, and process your feelings in therapy if you need to. You don’t have to rush into anything new. Focus on yourself, eat well and exercise. It will get better with time.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 08:10     Subject: The idea of having sex with someone else is disgusting
Nothing! You are perfectly fine, just as you are. Embrace your freedom and focus on living the life you want.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 08:07     Subject: The idea of having sex with someone else is disgusting
As a guy and a faithful husband, I find this to be an extraordinarily stupid reply. The husband was the cheating piece of shit. This is not her doing, in any way.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 01:40     Subject: The idea of having sex with someone else is disgusting
Anonymous wrote:Separated from serial cheater husband who was the love of my life and my first and only. Now that he moved out I feel so sad and lonely and I desperately miss hugs kisses and cuddles.

However the idea of being with someone else makes me want to vomit.

What to do?


I would worry less about future sexual partners and more about what led you to a serial cheater in the first place. Work out ( possibly in therapy) your foo dynamics to avoid a repeat.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 00:29     Subject: The idea of having sex with someone else is disgusting
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It is normal to feel that way. I would argue that many or most of us who are mature and intelligent find the idea of promiscuity to be disgusting. You are SUPPOSED to reach a time in your life where you are with your forever partner.

Through no fault of your own that has been taken away. Just proceed very slowly when the time is right and see if you can rebuild that emotional connection and trust with someone. Don’t rush it!


Yes. Emotionally intelligent, stable, healthy people feel this way.


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Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 00:06     Subject: The idea of having sex with someone else is disgusting
Anonymous wrote:It is normal to feel that way. I would argue that many or most of us who are mature and intelligent find the idea of promiscuity to be disgusting. You are SUPPOSED to reach a time in your life where you are with your forever partner.

Through no fault of your own that has been taken away. Just proceed very slowly when the time is right and see if you can rebuild that emotional connection and trust with someone. Don’t rush it!


Yes. Emotionally intelligent, stable, healthy people feel this way.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2025 23:57     Subject: The idea of having sex with someone else is disgusting
It is normal to feel that way. I would argue that many or most of us who are mature and intelligent find the idea of promiscuity to be disgusting. You are SUPPOSED to reach a time in your life where you are with your forever partner.

Through no fault of your own that has been taken away. Just proceed very slowly when the time is right and see if you can rebuild that emotional connection and trust with someone. Don’t rush it!
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2025 20:28     Subject: Re:The idea of having sex with someone else is disgusting
It will take some time OP, but eventually you will be open to meeting someone new and…..?

You were just in your comfort zone for awhile and for many, escaping a comfort zone can be impossible.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2025 20:26     Subject: The idea of having sex with someone else is disgusting
Grow up
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2025 20:12     Subject: The idea of having sex with someone else is disgusting
Your circuits are fried, it will take time but desire will return. While you’re healing make sure you keep the lights on (buy some toys but switch up a lot) at least a few times a week.
I’m sorry, been there and it’s crushing but soon enough your being will feel 1000x lighter and the world seem different and so much better.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2025 20:11     Subject: The idea of having sex with someone else is disgusting

Therapy and time heals all that
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2025 19:57     Subject: Re:The idea of having sex with someone else is disgusting
I’m so sorry. Being cheated on sucks.

Give yourself time to heal. Therapy might help.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2025 19:48     Subject: The idea of having sex with someone else is disgusting
You're not even divorced yet. Give it time.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2025 19:46     Subject: The idea of having sex with someone else is disgusting
Give it some time.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2025 19:43     Subject: The idea of having sex with someone else is disgusting
Separated from serial cheater husband who was the love of my life and my first and only. Now that he moved out I feel so sad and lonely and I desperately miss hugs kisses and cuddles.

However the idea of being with someone else makes me want to vomit.

What to do?