Anonymous
Post 07/17/2025 11:09     Subject: Where are my DCUM snarky parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I know it's my fault. I need to get off social media. But the hand ringing about sending kids to college is hysterical. This week I've read posts about:

--child's roommate does not have a social media presence, should they contact residential life
--child's roommate wears pants, while their child wears dresses. mom wants to switch roommates
--why can't parents stay beyond 2 hours to set up their childs room? Their child doesn't understand what all the packed items are for
--child's roommate doesn't care about coordinating room decor; Their child does. What should she do?

What posts have you read that make you wonder if these parents are ready to land the helicopter?

Does this not make you a helicopter parent — of helicopter parents? I think your particular constellation of meta-helicoptering is far worse.


This. The original post is more shocking. Why would you post here?
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2025 11:02     Subject: Where are my DCUM snarky parents
Anonymous wrote:Wow, the regular dcum language police must still be asleep, so I will step up.

It’s “hand wringing.”

OP is pearl clutching.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2025 10:59     Subject: Where are my DCUM snarky parents
Wow, the regular dcum language police must still be asleep, so I will step up.

It’s “hand wringing.”
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2025 10:58     Subject: Where are my DCUM snarky parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I know it's my fault. I need to get off social media. But the hand ringing about sending kids to college is hysterical. This week I've read posts about:

--child's roommate does not have a social media presence, should they contact residential life
--child's roommate wears pants, while their child wears dresses. mom wants to switch roommates
--why can't parents stay beyond 2 hours to set up their childs room? Their child doesn't understand what all the packed items are for
--child's roommate doesn't care about coordinating room decor; Their child does. What should she do?

What posts have you read that make you wonder if these parents are ready to land the helicopter?

Does this not make you a helicopter parent — of helicopter parents? I think your particular constellation of meta-helicoptering is far worse.


This does not make sense. At all.

How does one helicopter parent a stranger?

How indeed? OP is nonetheless making the attempt.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2025 10:56     Subject: Where are my DCUM snarky parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just wait until you get on FB parent pages for your child's school. It's insanity.

At DD's private uni, people have asked about cleaning companies for dorms.

My favorites are the ones who post that their child hasn't made any friends and would anyone's kid be interested in hanging out with their kid?? They also usually DON'T post anonymously for those which makes me nuts.


You must realize this is irrelevant and kind of obnoxious sounding? Do you think that kids at state universities don't have parents asking this?


Sorry -- I was basically thinking "these people are not like me and have too much money for their own good". They could certainly also be at state schools. I was anticipating someone giving me grief over not specifying.

For another poster, they are talking about individual dorm rooms.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2025 10:44     Subject: Where are my DCUM snarky parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I know it's my fault. I need to get off social media. But the hand ringing about sending kids to college is hysterical. This week I've read posts about:

--child's roommate does not have a social media presence, should they contact residential life
--child's roommate wears pants, while their child wears dresses. mom wants to switch roommates
--why can't parents stay beyond 2 hours to set up their childs room? Their child doesn't understand what all the packed items are for
--child's roommate doesn't care about coordinating room decor; Their child does. What should she do?

What posts have you read that make you wonder if these parents are ready to land the helicopter?

Does this not make you a helicopter parent — of helicopter parents? I think your particular constellation of meta-helicoptering is far worse.


This does not make sense. At all.

How does one helicopter parent a stranger?
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2025 10:43     Subject: Where are my DCUM snarky parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just wait until you get on FB parent pages for your child's school. It's insanity.

At DD's private uni, people have asked about cleaning companies for dorms.

My favorites are the ones who post that their child hasn't made any friends and would anyone's kid be interested in hanging out with their kid?? They also usually DON'T post anonymously for those which makes me nuts.


30 years ago our dorms were cleaned by cleaning crews. Is this supposed to be for individual rooms?


Yes. These are parents who are: (a) anticipating that the school cleaning crews will not do a good enough job; and (b) unwilling to do any cleaning themselves. Good folks.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2025 10:43     Subject: Where are my DCUM snarky parents
Anonymous wrote:Just wait until you get on FB parent pages for your child's school. It's insanity.

At DD's private uni, people have asked about cleaning companies for dorms.

My favorites are the ones who post that their child hasn't made any friends and would anyone's kid be interested in hanging out with their kid?? They also usually DON'T post anonymously for those which makes me nuts.


You must realize this is irrelevant and kind of obnoxious sounding? Do you think that kids at state universities don't have parents asking this?
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2025 10:41     Subject: Where are my DCUM snarky parents
Anonymous wrote:I know it's my fault. I need to get off social media. But the hand ringing about sending kids to college is hysterical. This week I've read posts about:

--child's roommate does not have a social media presence, should they contact residential life
--child's roommate wears pants, while their child wears dresses. mom wants to switch roommates
--why can't parents stay beyond 2 hours to set up their childs room? Their child doesn't understand what all the packed items are for
--child's roommate doesn't care about coordinating room decor; Their child does. What should she do?

What posts have you read that make you wonder if these parents are ready to land the helicopter?

Does this not make you a helicopter parent — of helicopter parents? I think your particular constellation of meta-helicoptering is far worse.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2025 10:39     Subject: Where are my DCUM snarky parents
Anonymous wrote:Just wait until you get on FB parent pages for your child's school. It's insanity.

At DD's private uni, people have asked about cleaning companies for dorms.

My favorites are the ones who post that their child hasn't made any friends and would anyone's kid be interested in hanging out with their kid?? They also usually DON'T post anonymously for those which makes me nuts.


30 years ago our dorms were cleaned by cleaning crews. Is this supposed to be for individual rooms?
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2025 10:38     Subject: Where are my DCUM snarky parents
I would totally hire a cleaning service
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2025 10:37     Subject: Where are my DCUM snarky parents
It's surprising to read posts about college life. Handholding does not just end by the time they leave the nest, it goes all the way through college.

I'd add one more post to the list, a parent asking tutoring for college kid. They are supposed to let the kids figure out how to overcome challenges in high school, they didn't. Now are they going to let the kids handle college themselves? No. More tutoring, double down.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2025 10:37     Subject: Where are my DCUM snarky parents
I mean, I try to give people some benefit of the doubt. It’s new and stressful to many people. But two I’ve seen were the one about “my kid wears a uniform in HS, what should he wear in college?” And my all-time favorite which Jeff should have never deleted about the girls who found the blowup doll in their apartment building. It was a classic.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2025 10:36     Subject: Where are my DCUM snarky parents
Just wait until you get on FB parent pages for your child's school. It's insanity.

At DD's private uni, people have asked about cleaning companies for dorms.

My favorites are the ones who post that their child hasn't made any friends and would anyone's kid be interested in hanging out with their kid?? They also usually DON'T post anonymously for those which makes me nuts.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2025 10:31     Subject: Where are my DCUM snarky parents
I know it's my fault. I need to get off social media. But the hand ringing about sending kids to college is hysterical. This week I've read posts about:

--child's roommate does not have a social media presence, should they contact residential life
--child's roommate wears pants, while their child wears dresses. mom wants to switch roommates
--why can't parents stay beyond 2 hours to set up their childs room? Their child doesn't understand what all the packed items are for
--child's roommate doesn't care about coordinating room decor; Their child does. What should she do?

What posts have you read that make you wonder if these parents are ready to land the helicopter?