There is something so off putting about people who make themselves a victim of something that has nothing to do with them. You have no connections to this or anyone involved in this, and yet you're acting like you do. It seems pretty tone deaf.

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Anonymous wrote:Serious question for OP. There are thousands of innocent people die every day for various reasons - war, hunger, natural events (like Tx). Why is this hitting you harder than other needleless deaths? Is it because it happened here in US?

Because she has girls that age and the camp was a girl's camp. Seriously, it's not that hard to see the connection.

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The prior PP sounds dim.

I disagree. Part of dealing with anxiety and obsessive/ruminating thoughts is to determine what specifically about a scenario is triggering you. Why isn’t OP bothered about children who were killed by tornadoes this summer, school, shootings, fires, etc.? PP was asking a probing question not a literal question.

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Anonymous wrote:Serious question for OP. There are thousands of innocent people die every day for various reasons - war, hunger, natural events (like Tx). Why is this hitting you harder than other needleless deaths? Is it because it happened here in US?

Because she has girls that age and the camp was a girl's camp. Seriously, it's not that hard to see the connection.

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The prior PP sounds dim.

I’m curious if you had the same feelings when children are shot dead in their classrooms, the same age as your children? What makes it different about the Texas floods? In both situations it’s innocent children whose lives were ended too soon and a place where they thought they should feel safe.

Anonymous wrote:Serious question for OP. There are thousands of innocent people die every day for various reasons - war, hunger, natural events (like Tx). Why is this hitting you harder than other needleless deaths? Is it because it happened here in US?

Because she has girls that age and the camp was a girl's camp. Seriously, it's not that hard to see the connection.

Anonymous wrote:Serious question for OP. There are thousands of innocent people die every day for various reasons - war, hunger, natural events (like Tx). Why is this hitting you harder than other needleless deaths? Is it because it happened here in US?

Stay away from the news cycle and especially TV. It makes you catastrophize uselessly. Read the news instead of watching it. It reduces the horror and shock.

Other than donating and thinking about your family's safety and climate change plan, this news is irrelevant to you. Everyone instinctively knows that life is fragile.

OP do you live in Texas? Did you send your children to Camp Mystic? If both answers are no, then get on the phone to your PCP to make a mental health appointment. You sound unhinged.

Serious question for OP. There are thousands of innocent people die every day for various reasons - war, hunger, natural events (like Tx). Why is this hitting you harder than other needleless deaths? Is it because it happened here in US?

Anonymous wrote:I remember when the PanAm plane went down over Lockerbie Scotland in the 80s full of kids coming home from studying abroad. And I was studying abroad in Scotland at the time, and my mom said it took her a few months to lose the panic feeling.

I think it's okay to give yourself some time OP. Forget about some of the little chores and stay close this summer. It won't hurt anything.

Agree with this. Poster above who suggests you should turn your feelings into action misses the fact that spending time with your kids is action.

Jose Andres is a national treasure.

I remember when the PanAm plane went down over Lockerbie Scotland in the 80s full of kids coming home from studying abroad. And I was studying abroad in Scotland at the time, and my mom said it took her a few months to lose the panic feeling.

I think it's okay to give yourself some time OP. Forget about some of the little chores and stay close this summer. It won't hurt anything.

Anonymous wrote:At 8 and 12 they should be able to go to a nearby park together, without you. And, you can get them to join in on the cleaning.

Your feelings are useless and that's why you're having a hard time. If you turn your feelings into action, you'll feel better at how you've channeled that energy. Isn't that chef guy in Texas feeding people? Maybe donate to his thing. Take actionable steps. It'll make you feel better.

Is José Andrés down there? Of course he is. OP I feel the opposite. Hardened by this and all the hardship we have to endure because of corrupt people and how people "there" voted. But Chef Andrés, an immigrant, will go anywhere and get people fed. That warms my cold cold heart. I think I'll donate to that today.

OP, I am very sorry to hear you are struggling with the tragedy of the TX floods. It’s ok to grieve the loss of all those lives!

It’s important not to get stuck in your feelings though— do you have a counselor you can talk to? I don’t know if your psychiatrist does much actual therapy other than med management?

At 8 and 12 they should be able to go to a nearby park together, without you. And, you can get them to join in on the cleaning.

Your feelings are useless and that's why you're having a hard time. If you turn your feelings into action, you'll feel better at how you've channeled that energy. Isn't that chef guy in Texas feeding people? Maybe donate to his thing. Take actionable steps. It'll make you feel better.

I’m still struggling with the news coming out of Texas. Anyone else? I have 8 and 12 year old daughters and I’m finding I just need to give them extra snuggles and time right now (not the worst thing) and just feel like things can be so uncertain. I get really sad when I see news - I’ve been trying to avoid it. Because of my ADHD I have a psychiatrist I see and I told her I’ve been really sad about it, but we didn’t discuss it too much. I feel like this is somehow abnormal? Though I do tend to feel intense joy or sadness for others (empathy, I guess?) I’m surprised how long this has affected me. I’m able to go about my day, but it’s hard to clean up or get things done in the evening because I just don’t want to say no to my kids when they want to go to the park, play a game, have snuggled etc. Again, not the worst outcome but the magnitude of my feelings is surprising me. (I didn’t personally know anyone affected..)