Stop doing all that .. You aren't his mama. Remind him of that.

If you can't hire some help or he doesn't want to bother to help.. Consider a divorce.

Things won't improve - plus you're already living like a burnt out single working mother.

How much money do you make? How much does your husband make?

Why are you folding his laundry?? That’s on you.

So stop doing so much. I don't get all the whining when this is your own doing. Stop making his lunch and doing his laundry. He's a big boy, he can do it himself.

Well, women fell for 'we can do it all' storyline. No, neither us nor men can. Men and women need each other. We need to fairly divide and responsibly deliver for the team. Your marriage's health and your family's happiness should come before advancement of your careers.

You sound burnt out. I think you should stop going to school, it’s a selfish use of time when your life is this hectic. Unless it’s med or law school, most grad programs don’t make you that much money. The schedule you describe doesn’t provide much calm happy time for your kid or your relationship.

Eek your hubby sounds like a lovely peach OP!

He should not expect you to do the majority of the work in keeping those homefires burning!

Let him do his own laundry, grocery shopping ➕ meal prep.

I encourage you to go on strike!

You are doing too much.

I didn’t even prep DH’s lunches when I was a SAHM (nor would he even want me to). Odd.

If he is home early, I assume he makes dinner at least?? If not, he should be.

Many men suck at cleaning so either hire someone biweekly or let some things go. Deep cleaning the house every Saturday is probably overkill.

Sounds dramatic.

Anonymous wrote:Right now, today, stop acting like his mommy.

Stop doing his laundry.

Stop making his lunches.

These are life skills that children should learn to manage and it’s embarrassing that you’re doing this for him. Look into hiring a cleaning service. I get that you can’t drop the rope on everything, but you don’t have to be your husband’s maid.

This.

Right now, today, stop acting like his mommy.

Stop doing his laundry.

Stop making his lunches.

These are life skills that children should learn to manage and it’s embarrassing that you’re doing this for him. Look into hiring a cleaning service. I get that you can’t drop the rope on everything, but you don’t have to be your husband’s maid.

Are you using chatgpt for your scenarios?

sounds like you are doing 50/50.

Stop doing so much. Don’t complain about how tired you are. Instead:
Hire a cleaning lady. Get a wash and fold service for laundry. Don’t make his lunches. Only focus on what needs to be done for your child. There is no need to martyr yourself.

As the title suggests, I am tired of doing all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, and administrative work. I do morning drop-offs, and he picks up most of the time, unless I get off work early. I deep clean the entire house every Saturday and do all the laundry. I work full time and am in a gradute program.

He does all the yard work and walks the dog. If there's anything that needs to be fixed, he will fix it. He barbecues. He does not do any maintenance work with the vehicles and I typically take them in. Whenever I tell him how tired I am from doing all the housework, he uses the trump card of "try getting up at 4AM" because he works from 6AM - 2PM.

He asked me to book him a dentist appointment for him because "I'm good at it." I meal prep his lunches well in advance, do his laundry and fold it for him. If he folds laundry it stays on the couch. I do all the sick days. He will stay home from work to help if I am feverish and can't function. He does very gross things like nicotine puffs that he puts in his mouth and then will blow his nose in the shower and I have to scrape off the dried snot. It's disgusting. I've been asking him for YEARS to stop. And then, once I'm done all of this he expects me to put out.

The only reason I stay is I would miss my son 50% of the time. I'm just so tired.