Anonymous
Post 07/14/2025 14:42     Subject: too much to ask camp to keep an eye on friendship (9yo girls)?
Anonymous wrote:Totally inappropriate. You need to teach your child a lesson in forgiveness and moving on.


Hell no
Her kid was picked on by a Jean girl no forgiveness that’s BS

I raised my daughters way better than that crap
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2025 14:37     Subject: too much to ask camp to keep an eye on friendship (9yo girls)?
Day camp is not going to care about this or do this.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2025 11:19     Subject: too much to ask camp to keep an eye on friendship (9yo girls)?
Anonymous wrote:Asking for a gut check here. Dropped my dd off at day camp this morning and saw that her former BFF was there this week too. Over the past school year their relationship became particularly upsetting to both girls, with the other girl sort of targeting my dd with mean-girl behavior. Nothing outrageous, but their teacher flagged it for both families and kept an eye on things. When we saw the girl had already been dropped off it was clear that some time apart clearly hadn't thawed the ice. My dd was disappointed to see her there but was otherwise fine. Is it crazy overbearing to ask the camp to keep an eye on the girls or should I just let the week play out?


Yes. Camps are not babysitters.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2025 11:15     Subject: too much to ask camp to keep an eye on friendship (9yo girls)?
If day 1 is fine I would do nothing. If the day seemed stressful I would give the camo a heads up. They will not likely change the groupings but the counselors can be aware to not pair them as swim buddies etc
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2025 11:10     Subject: too much to ask camp to keep an eye on friendship (9yo girls)?
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with giving a heads up, but don’t expect anything from the camp counselors/staff. It’s mostly HS and college aged young people who are just there to get a paycheck, not get involved in tween girl drama or act as a guidance counselor.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2025 10:22     Subject: too much to ask camp to keep an eye on friendship (9yo girls)?
Totally inappropriate. You need to teach your child a lesson in forgiveness and moving on.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2025 10:20     Subject: too much to ask camp to keep an eye on friendship (9yo girls)?
If they were 5-7 years old, maybe I'd give the camp a heads up, but 9 years old is really old enough to deal with this. Sorry, but I think bringing this to camp proactively would make you a snowplow parent. Your daughter is a smart, capable kid, who presumably learned a lot from her first go around with this girl. Trust in her to handle this.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2025 10:07     Subject: too much to ask camp to keep an eye on friendship (9yo girls)?
I work at summer camp. Call the camp and let them know there has been history but you hope it all goes well at camp. We appreciate knowing these things ahead of time.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2025 09:37     Subject: too much to ask camp to keep an eye on friendship (9yo girls)?
OP here, appreciate the replies. I'll see how today goes and can touch base with the camp after day 1 if needbe. It's only a one week program and am inclined to give both girls a chance beyond what I saw for a minute at drop off. But good to hear that I won't be an eye rolling parent if I flag for the camp at some point.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2025 09:34     Subject: too much to ask camp to keep an eye on friendship (9yo girls)?
Anonymous wrote:I would let the counselors know that the girls have some negative history and it would be better for them to be in separate groups.

I would not ask them to "keep an eye on it" or report back to you how it's going. That's just so far beyond what a camp can realistically do. They have to get to know the kids fast, the counselors are often younger and less experienced than classroom teachers, and who knows what other issues they'll be dealing with.

But yeah, just a heads up that can be resolved by putting your daughter in the Green group and the other girl in Blue, I'm sure they'd appreciate that so they don't inadvertently create conflict by sticking the girls together.


It's too late. Camps have specific rules about ratios. They can't move a kid from green to blue without moving another kid from blue to green which is hugely unfair.

Kids need to learn how to sort out problems. Some mean girl behavior that isn't outrageous isn't a thing to intervene in.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2025 09:31     Subject: too much to ask camp to keep an eye on friendship (9yo girls)?
I would let the counselors know that the girls have some negative history and it would be better for them to be in separate groups.

I would not ask them to "keep an eye on it" or report back to you how it's going. That's just so far beyond what a camp can realistically do. They have to get to know the kids fast, the counselors are often younger and less experienced than classroom teachers, and who knows what other issues they'll be dealing with.

But yeah, just a heads up that can be resolved by putting your daughter in the Green group and the other girl in Blue, I'm sure they'd appreciate that so they don't inadvertently create conflict by sticking the girls together.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2025 09:28     Subject: too much to ask camp to keep an eye on friendship (9yo girls)?
The most I would do is give the camp a heads up that the girls had some conflict at school so they’re aware of the history. I would not ask them to do anything.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2025 09:28     Subject: too much to ask camp to keep an eye on friendship (9yo girls)?
You should let the week play out.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2025 09:27     Subject: too much to ask camp to keep an eye on friendship (9yo girls)?
I would think that the counselors would appreciate knowing this so they can nip any negative interaction in the bud. They want all of the kids to have positive experience.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2025 09:25     Subject: too much to ask camp to keep an eye on friendship (9yo girls)?
Asking for a gut check here. Dropped my dd off at day camp this morning and saw that her former BFF was there this week too. Over the past school year their relationship became particularly upsetting to both girls, with the other girl sort of targeting my dd with mean-girl behavior. Nothing outrageous, but their teacher flagged it for both families and kept an eye on things. When we saw the girl had already been dropped off it was clear that some time apart clearly hadn't thawed the ice. My dd was disappointed to see her there but was otherwise fine. Is it crazy overbearing to ask the camp to keep an eye on the girls or should I just let the week play out?