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Anonymous wrote:I dated a guy from ages 16 to 19, he was my first love. I moved across the country from him at 19 which caused our breakup a few weeks later, maybe I wanted that, I don't remember. Every few years he texts me to tell me he is still sexually attracted to me or he still loves me or just says hi. Nothing violent though. I haven't heard from him in 2 years, but I do know that I am the last relationship he's ever had. I do miss him here and there (I'm single).

Yesterday I had a dream about him, so today I randomly googled him only to see he was arrested yesterday with a felony stalking charge. I did some digging and read the court records, he was harassing a woman at work who ended up leaving the job. He continued to contact her through different emails, kind of like what he did to me when I moved. But he took it way further. He showed up to her work and home, legally obtained a gun, and threatened to shoot her before the end of the summer along with threatening to shoot her family or whoever is standing next to her. This poor woman must have gone through hell with his threats.

His twin sister has very bad schizophrenia (institutionalized) so I am thinking he probably does too, along with bipolar and probably other issues. It's just so sad because we had so many fun moments and I still look back and think about him and the kids we were, same with his twin who was a close friend. I kind of wish I never looked him up. I have very detailed dreams. The dream I had last night which caused me to look him up was sexual and felt very realistic. It was like I had just spent time with him even though it's been so long. I just know I'm going to have a nightmare about him tonight.

I plan on going home for a wedding next month, I hope he'll still be locked up. He does have bail options, and it would only be a few grand with a bail bond. I already struggle with PTSD from other past relationships/childhood. The memories I made with him were somewhat of a happy point in my life. But that's all tainted now.

I'm not trying to make this about me, I feel terrible for the woman who had to deal with his crap. And I feel lucky that I had some type of intuition to move away from him way back then. I'm also able to see how he was controlling and the red flags these days. Does anyone else have a first love who ended up going down a terrible path?

You were in contact with him and you were thinking, dreaming and checking on him. Those are also red flags.

Anonymous wrote:I dated a guy from ages 16 to 19, he was my first love. I moved across the country from him at 19 which caused our breakup a few weeks later, maybe I wanted that, I don't remember. Every few years he texts me to tell me he is still sexually attracted to me or he still loves me or just says hi. Nothing violent though. I haven't heard from him in 2 years, but I do know that I am the last relationship he's ever had. I do miss him here and there (I'm single).

Yesterday I had a dream about him, so today I randomly googled him only to see he was arrested yesterday with a felony stalking charge. I did some digging and read the court records, he was harassing a woman at work who ended up leaving the job. He continued to contact her through different emails, kind of like what he did to me when I moved. But he took it way further. He showed up to her work and home, legally obtained a gun, and threatened to shoot her before the end of the summer along with threatening to shoot her family or whoever is standing next to her. This poor woman must have gone through hell with his threats.

His twin sister has very bad schizophrenia (institutionalized) so I am thinking he probably does too, along with bipolar and probably other issues. It's just so sad because we had so many fun moments and I still look back and think about him and the kids we were, same with his twin who was a close friend. I kind of wish I never looked him up. I have very detailed dreams. The dream I had last night which caused me to look him up was sexual and felt very realistic. It was like I had just spent time with him even though it's been so long. I just know I'm going to have a nightmare about him tonight.

I plan on going home for a wedding next month, I hope he'll still be locked up. He does have bail options, and it would only be a few grand with a bail bond. I already struggle with PTSD from other past relationships/childhood. The memories I made with him were somewhat of a happy point in my life. But that's all tainted now.

I'm not trying to make this about me, I feel terrible for the woman who had to deal with his crap. And I feel lucky that I had some type of intuition to move away from him way back then. I'm also able to see how he was controlling and the red flags these days. Does anyone else have a first love who ended up going down a terrible path?

Anonymous wrote:Dated an absolute sweetheart in grad school. She was so smart and funny, but a long distance relationship wasn't in the cards. We decided to move on and go our separate ways. It was over 17 years ago and a lifetime away, really. Oddly enough, she came to me in a dream out of nowhere (as mentioned in other posts) so I did a little digging and snooping and....

So she has a very popular OnlyFans that focuses on the "milf" category of things. Stunned is the appropriate word here.

Anonymous wrote:Please get therapy OP.

Anonymous wrote:You sound very broken. Do not go to the wedding or contact this guy if you go back to your hometown.

Anonymous wrote:Dated an absolute sweetheart in grad school. She was so smart and funny, but a long distance relationship wasn't in the cards. We decided to move on and go our separate ways. It was over 17 years ago and a lifetime away, really. Oddly enough, she came to me in a dream out of nowhere (as mentioned in other posts) so I did a little digging and snooping and....

So she has a very popular OnlyFans that focuses on the "milf" category of things. Stunned is the appropriate word here.

Anonymous wrote:I dated a guy from ages 16 to 19, he was my first love. I moved across the country from him at 19 which caused our breakup a few weeks later, maybe I wanted that, I don't remember. Every few years he texts me to tell me he is still sexually attracted to me or he still loves me or just says hi. Nothing violent though. I haven't heard from him in 2 years, but I do know that I am the last relationship he's ever had. I do miss him here and there (I'm single).

Yesterday I had a dream about him, so today I randomly googled him only to see he was arrested yesterday with a felony stalking charge. I did some digging and read the court records, he was harassing a woman at work who ended up leaving the job. He continued to contact her through different emails, kind of like what he did to me when I moved. But he took it way further. He showed up to her work and home, legally obtained a gun, and threatened to shoot her before the end of the summer along with threatening to shoot her family or whoever is standing next to her. This poor woman must have gone through hell with his threats.

His twin sister has very bad schizophrenia (institutionalized) so I am thinking he probably does too, along with bipolar and probably other issues. It's just so sad because we had so many fun moments and I still look back and think about him and the kids we were, same with his twin who was a close friend. I kind of wish I never looked him up. I have very detailed dreams. The dream I had last night which caused me to look him up was sexual and felt very realistic. It was like I had just spent time with him even though it's been so long. I just know I'm going to have a nightmare about him tonight.

I plan on going home for a wedding next month, I hope he'll still be locked up. He does have bail options, and it would only be a few grand with a bail bond. I already struggle with PTSD from other past relationships/childhood. The memories I made with him were somewhat of a happy point in my life. But that's all tainted now.

I'm not trying to make this about me, I feel terrible for the woman who had to deal with his crap. And I feel lucky that I had some type of intuition to move away from him way back then. I'm also able to see how he was controlling and the red flags these days. Does anyone else have a first love who ended up going down a terrible path?