It’s very very hard to break away from a family that has a model of protecting sexual abusers. The person that breaks away is demonized by the rest of the family..

It’s very hard to take on that burden and it takes a very strong person to do that. It’s not easy., if it were, everybody would do it. Sometimes in your life, you can feel how hard it is., that’s normal and that’s OK.

I’m extremely proud of you. I know how hard it is and how empty it can feel. You think when you do something amazing and strong on the other side, there’s joy and accolades. But there isn’t. It’s lonely.

You’re an amazing person. You’re giving an amazing gift to your family by getting them away from this horrible abuse..

You don't sound needy, you ARE needy. Please seek out a good therapist. Your husband does not need to be filling this bizarre "need" for you.

You abandoned the people that are supposed to say it.

Ty everyone. This helps.

I’m proud of you. You did something very brave. Give yourself a lot of credit.

Very proud of you!

You are not alone I did the same!

Super proud of you!

I am so proud of you OP

You are breaking a cycle of abuse and giving your kids a safe home. That is HUGE. You found a good man despite not having a good father as an example. That is also huge. You are teaching your kids what a good husband looks like through example. Please be proud of yourself.

Have you said this to your spouse?

I cut off contact with my parents when my kids were born. It was hard. Not because I loved them. I never loved them. But because I was terrified of them. There was sexual and physical abuse. I'm married to a deeply good man and we've built a good, peaceful life. I need someone to say they are proud of me. No one in my life has said it. I know it sounds needy but dang it, I need to hear it.