Comes down to how close you actually are to your sibling, their spouse, and how old the kids are. Will you feel hurt if you see them just as much as when you lived in a different city? If the answer is yes, don't move for them. Move for what works for you, with the perk that they might be in the same city.

My divorced uncle moved next door to my parents, and while I thought it was strange at first, the arrangement worked out really well. He and my parents could stop by each other’s houses for quick visits and became closer during those years. My parents did help him when he grew sick but they would have felt obligated to do something regardless of distance. Living next door made it easier and he left everything to my parents when he passed.

Anonymous wrote:No. Our friends are 1000x better than deadbeat family

DP here. Maybe, and maybe for now, but good friendships that last a lifetime are exceedingly rare and close relationships with siblings are priceless. It's only on DCUM that folks are so anti-family. A lot of it is jealousy, I think.

Do you like the area? Do you like your family? Is your family normal?
If so go for it.

If your family is like 99 % of DCUM ( just read these replies) and are dysfunctional isolationists better to stay where you are.

Are you moving to help out with childcare?

When young if like area and would move there withOUT them there works, but don’t move thinking living closer means will see them more and be more involved- you actually may them same amount or less than if lived elsewhere and came in town to visit couple times a year. Don’t plan on them being your weekend plans or being invited to everything. Make living choices based on where YOU can make your own/other friends.

I would if they had lost their spouse. Otherwise, it's like you're giving that family one more person to take care of (you). This is in old age. If you were younger and had your own life to keep you busy, sure. You liked their area and could see yourself there.

How close are you? I think you have to be very emotionally close and have an open conversation/negotiation about expectations and boundaries to make sure you are on the same page. Also, keep the parents out of it so they don't add pressure. I would say the same thing with close friends. People can have wildly different expectations and that leads to hurt if not discussed.

It turns out I DO live in the same city as my married with kids brother - we're about 40 minutes apart by mass transit, 20 by car. It's turned out fine. In like 20 years we've only run into each other twice without having planned it.

A relative is considering this in their 70s.

No. Our friends are 1000x better than deadbeat family

For those who are adult siblings who never married and are 40+, would you consider moving closer to your married with kids adult sibling?

If you did, how did it go and if you didn't do you consider the benefits?