Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 19:08     Subject: New parent questions
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

Situation 1:
Even if it does affect your supply, you have to sleep. Anyone who tells you that you have to wake up at night *while your baby is sleeping* in order to pump does not have your best interest at heart.


Situation 2: I wouldn’t pump during the day if you are already feeding him every 2 hours. You probably aren’t pumping much with such a tiny baby anyway. It hardly seems worth it.


Situation 3: I held all of my kids a lot and put them in a swing, took them on walks, or put them in a bouncer to sleep. You have to stop doing most of that by the time they are 4-5 months old because they start to roll over and pull themselves out of it. None of my kids had trouble transitioning to their stationary crib after that.


Situation 4: Routines are great. You aren’t going to have much of a routine at 1 month old, though. Most babies settle into a natural routine with two naps a day at around 4 months old.


Situation 5: If you are going back to work or you want to be able to leave your baby in someone else’s care for more than a couple of hours, then you have to let them get used to a bottle. Not doing so is a recipe for disaster.

That being said, I think you are making life too difficult if you are both building a freezer stash AND supplementing. Nurse your baby now or have someone else feed pumped milk from a bottle, and use more formula when you go back to work.



Situation 1: I pump once after the first morning feed for about 10 minutes while he eats on the other side. I get 3-4 ounces. I also collect some in the Hakkas while I feed on the other side. I bag about 8oz a day from that.

I’ve only give a couple of bottles but it’s been great to be able to supplement with a bottle of pumped milk so I can get some sleep.

Situation 4: We are talking about making a bedtime routine. That’s pretty much it for the routine right now.


You’re supplementing with pumped milk? I would have someone give a bottle every day.

I did a bedtime routine with my first and not with my second. (After that, the routines revolved around older kids.). All of my kids were great sleepers. The routine didn’t matter.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 19:01     Subject: New parent questions
Anonymous wrote:Do not put chemicals in your child instead of breast milk.


He only gets breastmilk but formula has been proven to be safe.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 19:00     Subject: New parent questions
Anonymous wrote:

Situation 1:
Even if it does affect your supply, you have to sleep. Anyone who tells you that you have to wake up at night *while your baby is sleeping* in order to pump does not have your best interest at heart.


Situation 2: I wouldn’t pump during the day if you are already feeding him every 2 hours. You probably aren’t pumping much with such a tiny baby anyway. It hardly seems worth it.


Situation 3: I held all of my kids a lot and put them in a swing, took them on walks, or put them in a bouncer to sleep. You have to stop doing most of that by the time they are 4-5 months old because they start to roll over and pull themselves out of it. None of my kids had trouble transitioning to their stationary crib after that.


Situation 4: Routines are great. You aren’t going to have much of a routine at 1 month old, though. Most babies settle into a natural routine with two naps a day at around 4 months old.


Situation 5: If you are going back to work or you want to be able to leave your baby in someone else’s care for more than a couple of hours, then you have to let them get used to a bottle. Not doing so is a recipe for disaster.

That being said, I think you are making life too difficult if you are both building a freezer stash AND supplementing. Nurse your baby now or have someone else feed pumped milk from a bottle, and use more formula when you go back to work.



Situation 1: I pump once after the first morning feed for about 10 minutes while he eats on the other side. I get 3-4 ounces. I also collect some in the Hakkas while I feed on the other side. I bag about 8oz a day from that.

I’ve only give a couple of bottles but it’s been great to be able to supplement with a bottle of pumped milk so I can get some sleep.

Situation 4: We are talking about making a bedtime routine. That’s pretty much it for the routine right now.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 18:59     Subject: New parent questions
Anonymous wrote:Ignore everyone and do what works for you.


This. Hold him as much as you want. You cannot spoil a baby. Formula/supplementing is just fine and in some situations good as others can feed and dad can bond better. If he's gaining wait, its fine he sleeps longer stretches.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 18:57     Subject: New parent questions
You cannot hold a baby too much. We are mammals. Newborns are helpless, and it’s normal and healthy for them to want to be held almost constantly. It will NOT spoil them.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 18:53     Subject: New parent questions
Anonymous wrote:Yes supplementing is fine totally fine ignore the breast Nazis

Yes routine you are doing well try to keep stretching the four hour slot

Yes you are holding them a little too much
And stop with the snoo


Why stop with the snoo? He sleeps so well at night and for some of his naps. Takes 2-3 longer naps in the snoo. It’s even really great for us.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 18:53     Subject: New parent questions
Routine is the best gift you can give your child and yourself. Carry him all you want. Holding babies doesn’t spoil them, they get used to it, yeah, but then they get heavy and you will put him down. Let him sleep longer stretches if he doesn’t wake up and isn’t underweight. Supplement if you feel you need to, pump or don’t pump, there are no rules. Everything will fall in place eventually. Congratulations!
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 18:39     Subject: New parent questions
Do not put chemicals in your child instead of breast milk.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 18:34     Subject: New parent questions
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ignore everyone and do what works for you.

+100 please please please do this. Tune everything else out


+2

-mother of three
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 18:31     Subject: New parent questions
Anonymous wrote:Ignore everyone and do what works for you.

+100 please please please do this. Tune everything else out
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 18:25     Subject: New parent questions


Situation 1:
Even if it does affect your supply, you have to sleep. Anyone who tells you that you have to wake up at night *while your baby is sleeping* in order to pump does not have your best interest at heart.


Situation 2: I wouldn’t pump during the day if you are already feeding him every 2 hours. You probably aren’t pumping much with such a tiny baby anyway. It hardly seems worth it.


Situation 3: I held all of my kids a lot and put them in a swing, took them on walks, or put them in a bouncer to sleep. You have to stop doing most of that by the time they are 4-5 months old because they start to roll over and pull themselves out of it. None of my kids had trouble transitioning to their stationary crib after that.


Situation 4: Routines are great. You aren’t going to have much of a routine at 1 month old, though. Most babies settle into a natural routine with two naps a day at around 4 months old.


Situation 5: If you are going back to work or you want to be able to leave your baby in someone else’s care for more than a couple of hours, then you have to let them get used to a bottle. Not doing so is a recipe for disaster.

That being said, I think you are making life too difficult if you are both building a freezer stash AND supplementing. Nurse your baby now or have someone else feed pumped milk from a bottle, and use more formula when you go back to work.

Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 18:09     Subject: New parent questions
Building a supply for when you go back to work is great. Sleeping and eating routines are great (just remember babies change phases which necessitates you changing routines as they grow). You can't hold an infant too much.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 18:02     Subject: New parent questions
Yes supplementing is fine totally fine ignore the breast Nazis

Yes routine you are doing well try to keep stretching the four hour slot

Yes you are holding them a little too much
And stop with the snoo
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 17:58     Subject: New parent questions
Ignore everyone and do what works for you.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 17:43     Subject: New parent questions
DH and I are new parents trying to learn our child and figure out our new normal. We have been given conflicting opinions on how to best navigate certain situations and need done sound advice.

Situation 1: We have a good sleeper who does a 4 hour stretch followed by smaller 2-3 hour stretches overnight. I have decided I’m not waking up during that time to pump, despite the lactation consultant telling me it will negatively impact my supply. He feed him every 1.5-2 hours during the day.
Will going 4 hours cause a significant decrease in my supply?


Situation 2: The lactation consultant said not to pump but I pump once a day and use a milk catcher during feedings to build a freezer stash for when I go back to work. Is this okay?

Situation 3: He is held a lot. Many people tell us we are spoiling him by holding him and using the snoo for sleep because he will always need to be held or motion. Is this true or should we ignore them?

Situation 4: Is a routine bad? He’s almost 1 month and we feel like he needs a routine. Nothing too strict but a consistent routine.

Situation 5: Is supplementing okay? The lactation consultant said no. I have a good supply but we have given a couple of bottles ( pumped milk) so I can sleep longer.

TIA!