This is what feminism is now? lol

Honestly, some men ARE worse at this than women. My young adult son is mildly autistic, with social deficits, and has no clue what a good gift would be. Autism is more common in males. I'm trying to teach him, and he's trying to learn, so hopefully he won't bother you and other hair-trigger people of your ilk... but he's still got some ways to go!

lol @ making this a gender issue

It's female-coded because you remembered and you reminded. That put you in the role of mom. Should have let them figure out what their job involves.

At my corporate work we're not supposed to accept gifts from any company we pay. Random gift baskets are awkward.

Oh no… a coworker came to you for advice!? The horrors!!

Anonymous wrote:Nothing here says female coded or men won’t do them.

Yeah this says "new coworker had no idea they were supposed to do something and then wanted to make sure they did an ok job". OP is one of those.

Anonymous wrote:Why did you feel it necessary to remind them to do it? Perhaps that's why he came to you for your opinion.

+1

Nothing here says female coded or men won’t do them.

Did he not know he was supposed to do it? Sounds like he did it and then checked with you if you thought they were good gifts. I'm not quite understanding where your outrage is coming from.

Is the gift selection and purchase part of Frank's job? If this is an actual task, there should be some kind of standard for what's given, so that Frank doesn't have to come ask if his selections pass muster with you. It doesn't sound like it's a female-coded task so much as you've made it clear that you have strong opinions about it.

If this is just something that you personally do for client relations and Frank doesn't want to do it, that's between him, his clients, and y'all's boss.

Why did you feel it necessary to remind them to do it? Perhaps that's why he came to you for your opinion.

If they are Frank’s clients then this is Frank’s problem.

Anonymous wrote:This sounds more like a lazy co-worker than a gender issue.

+1.

This sounds more like a lazy co-worker than a gender issue.

We have a few clients who get gifts from us every year. My coworker was fired and his accounts went to Frank. I told Frank and our boss, “hey our clients have gotten gifts from us this time last year; I purchased x items for my clients and they will be delivered next week. Are you guys taking care of [former employee’s] clients?” Crickets. At the last minute Frank got some random things and came by my office to “check” if I liked them. Like sir, I don’t care, they are not my accounts, but can you not spare a singular effort even just for the sake of your professional reputation?