He bought a $2000 TV I didn’t know we needed. Thankfully neither of us have thought to do anything like this without consulting the other.

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Anonymous wrote:Spouse entered a thirty year mortgage with a friend for a “buy and hold flip” condo.

Oh dear god, without telling you???

Told me after he signed the purchase agreement (this is early 2000s and I was on an international business trip). After six months they sold it when they realized they could not rent it out and it was not appreciating like they anticipated. I handle all the finances so it reared its ugly head again during tax time and I had to figure out how to handle the purchase (short term hold). It was a nightmare.

Did anything like this ever happen again? Do you trust him now?

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Anonymous wrote:Spouse entered a thirty year mortgage with a friend for a “buy and hold flip” condo.

Oh dear god, without telling you???

Told me after he signed the purchase agreement (this is early 2000s and I was on an international business trip). After six months they sold it when they realized they could not rent it out and it was not appreciating like they anticipated. I handle all the finances so it reared its ugly head again during tax time and I had to figure out how to handle the purchase (short term hold). It was a nightmare.

Giving $5000 to a ne’er-do-well relative of his who promptly overdosed.

DH booked a trip that we had agreed on taking and had agree on the dates. But he spent wayyy more on flights/hotels than I would have. Could afford it, so not a big deal really, I just almost had a heart attack when I realized the cost.

*booked

And I said “might,” because I think that’s my best guess of his biggest purchase w/o consent.

I’ll edit for mistake next time lol

My DH might have went ahead and boooee vacation that we had mildly discussed, and just did w/o me. So maybe 2K, at that time? And wasn’t anything I objected to, just hadn’t fully all agreed together. We went, and it was a good move to have booked if.

Anonymous wrote:Spouse entered a thirty year mortgage with a friend for a “buy and hold flip” condo.

Oh dear god, without telling you???

I have to give my husband a lot of credit, he really doesn’t do this much. Maybe $1k, but honestly probably much less.
But I also tend to agree to purchases that I wouldn’t necessarily make myself but he wants so he doesn’t lose much by asking me. We are lucky to be financially well off, and he does earn more than I do so this if he wants to splurge some I don’t mind.

I have so many memories of my parents having difficulty over money, mostly because we really didn’t have any extra.

Anonymous wrote:Placed two short positions that started at 250k each and ballooned to -600k and -800k each. One was closed against the box, the other I made him move against individual assets and sign a legal agreement of responsibility (short is still open).

Marriage is a landmine of exposure with the wrong person.

Piggybacking on this, is there a point at which the exposure is so great that you initiate a divorce primarily to protect yourself and your kids financially?

Spouse entered a thirty year mortgage with a friend for a “buy and hold flip” condo.

Anonymous wrote:Placed two short positions that started at 250k each and ballooned to -600k and -800k each. One was closed against the box, the other I made him move against individual assets and sign a legal agreement of responsibility (short is still open).

Marriage is a landmine of exposure with the wrong person.

What’s it sitting at now?

My wife has dropped high three figures at Good Guys before but that's it

Placed two short positions that started at 250k each and ballooned to -600k and -800k each. One was closed against the box, the other I made him move against individual assets and sign a legal agreement of responsibility (short is still open).

Marriage is a landmine of exposure with the wrong person.

I'm just looking for a sanity check here, as my spouse recently made a very big one.