Anonymous
07/09/2025 11:55
Subject: Menopause rage makes me hate my nice husband
Post divorce my best friend told me to find a woman who is post menopause lol.
Anonymous
07/09/2025 11:55
Subject: Menopause rage makes me hate my nice husband
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Has anyone actually left their nice husband because of menopausal rage? The sound of his voice and his every habit makes me want to strangle him. It doesn't help that we both work from home (with two teens around this summer to boot), so I have essentially no break, but every single thing he does makes me insane. I fantasize constantly about getting my own apartment where I don't have to deal with his clutter and habits. I probably just need therapy/antidepressants/more yoga....
Hello, me. My husband is delightful. But he breathes, and chews, and moves in bed. He makes stupid jokes, lets the grass get too long before mowing, and weighs 60 pounds more than he should. He doesn't brush his teeth enough, he won't exercise, and he cooks for the whole family. He creates clutter, has big shoes, and he takes out the trash & recycling of his own volition. He won't take his own antidepressants, he still likes to have sex with me, and his breath smells bad in the morning.
As you can see it is a hopeless case and I definitely need a getaway from this horrible man and life we've created together.
Why do they breathe so LOUDLY? Mine sniffs with every inhale. I want to throat punch him. -.-
But he makes coffee and brings it to me. Washes the dogs. Still has a 6 pack. (not beer, abs!) Yes, clutter and leaves his shoes where I trip on them. But is so calm and sweet. I wish he would never eat in my earshot though....
So yeah, I feel you.
Anonymous
07/09/2025 11:53
Subject: Menopause rage makes me hate my nice husband
Husbands endure a lot. Men really need to communicate their frustrations because that silence makes women dominate the grievance space.
Anonymous
07/09/2025 11:53
Subject: Menopause rage makes me hate my nice husband
Anonymous wrote:No, menopausal rage did not happen with me. In fact, these are the best years of our married life. I am SAHM whose kids have left the coop and DH still has a few years before retirement.
But, some of the reasons why there is no rage but a whole lot of love for my spouse -
- I am a SAHW. No pressure to go to toxic workplace enviornments. (Sorry, but if you have a great and happy workplace, you are the few lucky ones!). We have money. No abuse, adultery, addiction issues.
- I have my own bedroom and own bathroom. We cuddle, we have sex, we nap together, but we have our own space.
- Domestic staff. I don't ever want to tell anyone to do their share of chores at my house because no one ever does it happily and I don't care for the drama and the resentment. So, I have always had a weekly cleaner for the house. I also have a landscape guy who mows every 10 days and does my seasonal maintenance for $$$$ extra money.
- We have enough money to outsource stuff. I am a minimalist kind of person who does not care for clothes, expensive grooming, designer stuff for my own self. So, I decided there is no need for me to save my DH's money and not outsource stuff. My DH does not care about the money I spend in outsourcing things, but he will be pissed if I am a rage-filled spouse.
- My entire focus has been my kids and family, so since that all turned out ok, I am most relaxed and chilled.
- I am not a hyper or a super-competetive person. As long as I am able to meet my social and family obligations, I don't want too much. I am not a striver. I am happy as a clam with my life as it is.
So then this thread is not for you. Please take your smug self to some other place.
Anonymous
07/09/2025 11:52
Subject: Menopause rage makes me hate my nice husband
YES. Me too. I try and remind myself most of this is hormones and hopefully it will pass soon. Take some deep breaths and visualize a quite peaceful beach. Care less. Let crap roll off your back. It gets easier with time. I tell myself "he's being ridiculous" and then move on with my day. Try it.
Anonymous
07/09/2025 11:49
Subject: Menopause rage makes me hate my nice husband
No, menopausal rage did not happen with me. In fact, these are the best years of our married life. I am SAHM whose kids have left the coop and DH still has a few years before retirement.
But, some of the reasons why there is no rage but a whole lot of love for my spouse -
- I am a SAHW. No pressure to go to toxic workplace enviornments. (Sorry, but if you have a great and happy workplace, you are the few lucky ones!). We have money. No abuse, adultery, addiction issues.
- I have my own bedroom and own bathroom. We cuddle, we have sex, we nap together, but we have our own space.
- Domestic staff. I don't ever want to tell anyone to do their share of chores at my house because no one ever does it happily and I don't care for the drama and the resentment. So, I have always had a weekly cleaner for the house. I also have a landscape guy who mows every 10 days and does my seasonal maintenance for $$$$ extra money.
- We have enough money to outsource stuff. I am a minimalist kind of person who does not care for clothes, expensive grooming, designer stuff for my own self. So, I decided there is no need for me to save my DH's money and not outsource stuff. My DH does not care about the money I spend in outsourcing things, but he will be pissed if I am a rage-filled spouse.
- My entire focus has been my kids and family, so since that all turned out ok, I am most relaxed and chilled.
- I am not a hyper or a super-competetive person. As long as I am able to meet my social and family obligations, I don't want too much. I am not a striver. I am happy as a clam with my life as it is.
But, some of the reasons why there is no rage but a whole lot of love for my spouse -
- I am a SAHW. No pressure to go to toxic workplace enviornments. (Sorry, but if you have a great and happy workplace, you are the few lucky ones!). We have money. No abuse, adultery, addiction issues.
- I have my own bedroom and own bathroom. We cuddle, we have sex, we nap together, but we have our own space.
- Domestic staff. I don't ever want to tell anyone to do their share of chores at my house because no one ever does it happily and I don't care for the drama and the resentment. So, I have always had a weekly cleaner for the house. I also have a landscape guy who mows every 10 days and does my seasonal maintenance for $$$$ extra money.
- We have enough money to outsource stuff. I am a minimalist kind of person who does not care for clothes, expensive grooming, designer stuff for my own self. So, I decided there is no need for me to save my DH's money and not outsource stuff. My DH does not care about the money I spend in outsourcing things, but he will be pissed if I am a rage-filled spouse.
- My entire focus has been my kids and family, so since that all turned out ok, I am most relaxed and chilled.
- I am not a hyper or a super-competetive person. As long as I am able to meet my social and family obligations, I don't want too much. I am not a striver. I am happy as a clam with my life as it is.
Anonymous
07/09/2025 11:33
Subject: Menopause rage makes me hate my nice husband
I wonder if menopausal rage is an evolution’s way of breaking up partnerships that can no longer produce offspring? It seems so common.
Anonymous
07/09/2025 11:21
Subject: Menopause rage makes me hate my nice husband
Anonymous wrote:I went on an antidepressant and it helped a ton. Worth trying!
I didn't feel depressed but it smoothed out the emotional lability/rage.
Anonymous
07/09/2025 11:20
Subject: Menopause rage makes me hate my nice husband
I went on an antidepressant and it helped a ton. Worth trying!
Anonymous
07/09/2025 11:07
Subject: Menopause rage makes me hate my nice husband
Anonymous wrote:(in other words, I hear you and see you, mama. Solidarity)
Haha yes this is all about right. A magic patch sounds good!
Anonymous
07/09/2025 11:06
Subject: Menopause rage makes me hate my nice husband
RAISES HAND
My husband is wonderful. Everyone who meets him loves him. He is an active spouse and dad. Yet, some days I rage so hard at his every word, at the internet clips he sends me, and the stupid tv shows he watched (or just watches endless trailers for).
Hormones are such a PIA.
I'm seeing my doctor and things have gotten a little better.
My husband is wonderful. Everyone who meets him loves him. He is an active spouse and dad. Yet, some days I rage so hard at his every word, at the internet clips he sends me, and the stupid tv shows he watched (or just watches endless trailers for).
Hormones are such a PIA.
I'm seeing my doctor and things have gotten a little better.
Anonymous
07/09/2025 10:58
Subject: Menopause rage makes me hate my nice husband
(in other words, I hear you and see you, mama. Solidarity)
Anonymous
07/09/2025 10:57
Subject: Menopause rage makes me hate my nice husband
Anonymous wrote:Has anyone actually left their nice husband because of menopausal rage? The sound of his voice and his every habit makes me want to strangle him. It doesn't help that we both work from home (with two teens around this summer to boot), so I have essentially no break, but every single thing he does makes me insane. I fantasize constantly about getting my own apartment where I don't have to deal with his clutter and habits. I probably just need therapy/antidepressants/more yoga....
Hello, me. My husband is delightful. But he breathes, and chews, and moves in bed. He makes stupid jokes, lets the grass get too long before mowing, and weighs 60 pounds more than he should. He doesn't brush his teeth enough, he won't exercise, and he cooks for the whole family. He creates clutter, has big shoes, and he takes out the trash & recycling of his own volition. He won't take his own antidepressants, he still likes to have sex with me, and his breath smells bad in the morning.
As you can see it is a hopeless case and I definitely need a getaway from this horrible man and life we've created together.
Anonymous
07/09/2025 10:43
Subject: Menopause rage makes me hate my nice husband
Try the estrogen patch! It’s really helped me with rage and sadness.
Anonymous
07/09/2025 10:43
Subject: Menopause rage makes me hate my nice husband
Has anyone actually left their nice husband because of menopausal rage? The sound of his voice and his every habit makes me want to strangle him. It doesn't help that we both work from home (with two teens around this summer to boot), so I have essentially no break, but every single thing he does makes me insane. I fantasize constantly about getting my own apartment where I don't have to deal with his clutter and habits. I probably just need therapy/antidepressants/more yoga....