Anonymous
07/09/2025 10:17
Subject: Why isn’t there chemistry?
That's how life is. Men aren't perfect, neither are women. If chemistry is important, move on. What happened to all the men you had great chemistry with?
Anonymous
07/09/2025 10:08
Subject: Why isn’t there chemistry?
It’s a combination of your early experiences (mostly non sexual ones) that you recognize in his micro actions and he in yours.
Also it’s not always fleeting!
Also it’s not always fleeting!
Anonymous
07/09/2025 10:07
Subject: Re:Why isn’t there chemistry?
It’s there or it’s not.
Anonymous
07/09/2025 10:00
Subject: Why isn’t there chemistry?
Build-a-Bear Man, yes, please. Where do I sign up?
Anonymous
07/09/2025 09:54
Subject: Why isn’t there chemistry?
Life ain't Hallmark movie Ruthie.
Anonymous
07/09/2025 09:52
Subject: Why isn’t there chemistry?
He sounds great. Maybe read some spicy books.
Anonymous
07/09/2025 09:50
Subject: Why isn’t there chemistry?
"Butterflies" are the dumbest possible way to pick a mate.
This is yet another reason why getting rid of the "patriarchy" - in which dad picks your husband - was a disaster.
This is yet another reason why getting rid of the "patriarchy" - in which dad picks your husband - was a disaster.
Anonymous
07/09/2025 09:31
Subject: Re:Why isn’t there chemistry?
Please send him my way!
Anonymous
07/09/2025 09:22
Subject: Why isn’t there chemistry?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating a guy who is exactly what I’ve always wanted, on paper. Attractive, in very good shape, successful, wealthy, we have a lot of common interests (far more than I’ve had with other men), similar intelligence and humor, he’s generous and skilled in bed, etc.
But I just don’t feel IT for him. There’s no butterflies, no sparks. Although he’s very good in bed I don’t get turned on the same as I do with men I have intense physical chemistry with.
Why? What causes that chemistry and those butterflies? While I recognize it’s short lived and not how I should pick a partner, I do miss it, and I feel bad because I know he *does* have butterflies for me.
In good shape, wealthy, successful ...Is he Ken? And are you Barbie? I don't know I'm not saying you are delusional in your quest of the "perfect man" but maybe you should drop some your ideas for a bit and just meet man and get to know him. If you are looking for a build a bear type of man, you are also manufacturing chemistry...just saying
😂
Anonymous
07/09/2025 09:14
Subject: Why isn’t there chemistry?
Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating a guy who is exactly what I’ve always wanted, on paper. Attractive, in very good shape, successful, wealthy, we have a lot of common interests (far more than I’ve had with other men), similar intelligence and humor, he’s generous and skilled in bed, etc.
But I just don’t feel IT for him. There’s no butterflies, no sparks. Although he’s very good in bed I don’t get turned on the same as I do with men I have intense physical chemistry with.
Why? What causes that chemistry and those butterflies? While I recognize it’s short lived and not how I should pick a partner, I do miss it, and I feel bad because I know he *does* have butterflies for me.
In good shape, wealthy, successful ...Is he Ken? And are you Barbie? I don't know I'm not saying you are delusional in your quest of the "perfect man" but maybe you should drop some your ideas for a bit and just meet man and get to know him. If you are looking for a build a bear type of man, you are also manufacturing chemistry...just saying
Anonymous
07/09/2025 09:07
Subject: Why isn’t there chemistry?
You two aren't a match. Move on.
Anonymous
07/09/2025 09:03
Subject: Re:Why isn’t there chemistry?
Try this.
https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/36_questions_for_increasing_closeness
You might just be holding back emotionally unable to trust and build intimacy based on something in your past.
https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/36_questions_for_increasing_closeness
You might just be holding back emotionally unable to trust and build intimacy based on something in your past.
Anonymous
07/09/2025 08:59
Subject: Why isn’t there chemistry?
That’s just how it works. I don’t think science can explain it 😅.
Anonymous
07/09/2025 08:55
Subject: Why isn’t there chemistry?
It’s pheromones. Yours aren’t a great match. It might be nature’s way of telling you you’ll breed less than optimal offspring with him, or that there will be fertility issues when your eggs and his sperm try to coordinate.
Or it might just be that you aren’t attracted to what is best for you and need therapy to figure that out.
Or it might just be that you aren’t attracted to what is best for you and need therapy to figure that out.
Anonymous
07/09/2025 08:49
Subject: Why isn’t there chemistry?
I’ve been dating a guy who is exactly what I’ve always wanted, on paper. Attractive, in very good shape, successful, wealthy, we have a lot of common interests (far more than I’ve had with other men), similar intelligence and humor, he’s generous and skilled in bed, etc.
But I just don’t feel IT for him. There’s no butterflies, no sparks. Although he’s very good in bed I don’t get turned on the same as I do with men I have intense physical chemistry with.
Why? What causes that chemistry and those butterflies? While I recognize it’s short lived and not how I should pick a partner, I do miss it, and I feel bad because I know he *does* have butterflies for me.
But I just don’t feel IT for him. There’s no butterflies, no sparks. Although he’s very good in bed I don’t get turned on the same as I do with men I have intense physical chemistry with.
Why? What causes that chemistry and those butterflies? While I recognize it’s short lived and not how I should pick a partner, I do miss it, and I feel bad because I know he *does* have butterflies for me.