Anonymous wrote:Why did you wait until your mid/late 30s to get married?

I wanted to live the sex and the city lifestyle.

Married before thirty .. Everything is fine.
We didn't wanna' be older parents -- OUR choice.

Calmmmmmmmm down. Everyone should do what works best for them.

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Anonymous wrote:Wanted to be finished with my education, be a bit more established in career, wanted to have some more savings, wanted to wait for my SO to be finished with their education, early career placements ...and it took 2-3 years lead time to inform all family members in different countries to get their visas sorted out and arrange for leave/vacation etc so they could attend.

My parents needed at least 2 years time to prepare for my big fat - one week long - wedding + hosting all my relatives (some very old) for a month before the wedding.

Height of stupidity

I'm afraid you are the dumb imbecile here.

+1 people who get married too early (not financially stable, emotionally/mentally mature) have a higher chance of getting divorced.

Divorce rates start going back up when you marry in your mid 30s. By your late 30s they're basically the same as in your early 20s. Statistically, 25-32 is the sweet spot.

Anonymous wrote:Didn’t meet the right person until then.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:Wanted to be finished with my education, be a bit more established in career, wanted to have some more savings, wanted to wait for my SO to be finished with their education, early career placements ...and it took 2-3 years lead time to inform all family members in different countries to get their visas sorted out and arrange for leave/vacation etc so they could attend.

My parents needed at least 2 years time to prepare for my big fat - one week long - wedding + hosting all my relatives (some very old) for a month before the wedding.

Height of stupidity

I'm afraid you are the dumb imbecile here.

+1 people who get married too early (not financially stable, emotionally/mentally mature) have a higher chance of getting divorced.

When I was young and dumb, I asked my older SIL this question, not understanding it was loaded. She said, rather animatedly, that she hadn't met her husband (my husband's brother) until then.

My question was so cringe, thinking back on it. She's an accomplished dentist who owns her practice, and has 4 kids. She's got no explanations to give to anyone.

I started dating DH when he was 36; I was 30.

He didn't really see a piece of paper as being important in a relationship. He had a ltr before me. But, I told him one day I wanted to be married, even if it wasn't with him. I was up front that this was important to me.

He said he knew he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me about 6mo into dating, but he didn't tell me this until we got engaged after 18 months together because he said he didn't want to scare me away.

I had some self esteem issues I needed to work on in my 20s. And actually, DH helped me with some of my issues. I was not ready mentally/emotionally for any serious relationship before DH. I also wanted to be financially independent before I got married. We combined our finances after we got married, so it wasn't that I wanted my own bank account, but rather, that I did not want to be dependent on a man. I saw that play out with my sisters/mother, all who got married in their 20s. They were never financially independent and that made them dependent on their husbands. I was never going to put myself in that position.

It was a combination of timing and finding the right person.

I wasn’t going to settle on something so important.

Anonymous wrote:Didn’t meet the right person until then.

+1, met my spouse when I was 32, married at 34 shortly after buying our first home together (it takes less time to plan a home purchase than a wedding, largely because we didn't have to time our home purchase to the schedules of our parents and siblings).

Didn’t meet the right person until then.

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Anonymous wrote:Wanted to be finished with my education, be a bit more established in career, wanted to have some more savings, wanted to wait for my SO to be finished with their education, early career placements ...and it took 2-3 years lead time to inform all family members in different countries to get their visas sorted out and arrange for leave/vacation etc so they could attend.

My parents needed at least 2 years time to prepare for my big fat - one week long - wedding + hosting all my relatives (some very old) for a month before the wedding.

Height of stupidity

I'm afraid you are the dumb imbecile here.

I wanted to have 500k in savings first and be a senior software engineer. I achieved that 33. I only casually dated before and once I reached those goals Married the first woman I seriously dated. We met at 34 and married at 36. I was 36 and she was 33.

While dating with intent to marry I noticed that a lot of women were interested. I think some women perhaps wait because men aren't ready.

Anonymous wrote:Wanted to be finished with my education, be a bit more established in career, wanted to have some more savings, wanted to wait for my SO to be finished with their education, early career placements ...and it took 2-3 years lead time to inform all family members in different countries to get their visas sorted out and arrange for leave/vacation etc so they could attend.

My parents needed at least 2 years time to prepare for my big fat - one week long - wedding + hosting all my relatives (some very old) for a month before the wedding.

Height of stupidity

Wanted to be finished with my education, be a bit more established in career, wanted to have some more savings, wanted to wait for my SO to be finished with their education, early career placements ...and it took 2-3 years lead time to inform all family members in different countries to get their visas sorted out and arrange for leave/vacation etc so they could attend.

My parents needed at least 2 years time to prepare for my big fat - one week long - wedding + hosting all my relatives (some very old) for a month before the wedding.

Why did you wait until your mid/late 30s to get married?