Anonymous wrote:Grey rock them! My in laws were a nightmare until I discovered grey rock (look it up). It was life changing. Don’t end your life and ruin your children’s lives because of horrible people. Your children need their mother. Ending your life gives your in laws way too much control. YOU take control of the situation and grey rock them.

+1 I have written about grey rocking on this site before, and I am forever indebted to the person who first posted about it. Honestly, it's healthier for everyone including yourself.

How often do you have to see them? Do they affect your daily life in some way even when you are not with them? I am sorry you are dealing with this. Please do not harm yourself.

They raised your husband, presumably the man you love, and father of your children. Does your husband feel the same way about them? If so, go no contact. If not, let him deal with them (all contact, holiday arrangements, gifts, visits, etc.). You don't need to visit with them at all

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage counseling? But honestly, a divorce is healthier for your kids than a mom who is wishing death for herself

+1
Look to divorce if your DH won't step up and block his family. He's not doing his job so you don't need to stay with him and suffer.

Yes if someone doesn’t completely cut off their family because their spouse doesn’t like them there should be a divorce and that person isnt doing their “job”.

What a totally inane position to have

Did you read the OP? Way to undermine it down to "OP doesn't like them". She's practically suicidal. What do you care if other people get divorced?

OP, I’m sorry you are feeling so awful and so desperate. If you feel this way consistently, I urge you to call 988 if you are in a moment of crisis; if you are on more solid ground, please seek a therapist ASAP.

In the meantime, are there specific issues and dynamics we can try to help with? We can help you think some things through. Aren’t you just leaving your ILs to your husband? Why are they unavoidable?

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage counseling? But honestly, a divorce is healthier for your kids than a mom who is wishing death for herself

+1
Look to divorce if your DH won't step up and block his family. He's not doing his job so you don't need to stay with him and suffer.

Yes if someone doesn’t completely cut off their family because their spouse doesn’t like them there should be a divorce and that person isnt doing their “job”.

What a totally inane position to have

Anonymous wrote:I want to divorce him over his awful family but we have two kids. I find myself just wishing I would get cancer and die to end it all. I see no way out of it and no way through it except passing away from natural causes. I would kill myself but I don’t want my kids to deal with the trauma.

Were you born with this character defect or did it develop over time?

Anonymous wrote:Marriage counseling? But honestly, a divorce is healthier for your kids than a mom who is wishing death for herself

+1
Look to divorce if your DH won't step up and block his family. He's not doing his job so you don't need to stay with him and suffer.

Lol, it’s always the in-laws. Somehow, all of you women end up with really nice husbands from terrible families and terrible parents. It never occurs to any of you that maybe you are part of the problem.

Grey rock them! My in laws were a nightmare until I discovered grey rock (look it up). It was life changing. Don’t end your life and ruin your children’s lives because of horrible people. Your children need their mother. Ending your life gives your in laws way too much control. YOU take control of the situation and grey rock them.

Just go no contact. When DH's parents died 6 months apart from each other and then his siblings turned on him over the fall out from the inheritance, it was the most joyous day of my life. You'll get there OP! Cheers.

Can you explain how his family is impacting you and the children? Can you avoid them (go no contact)? Have you created boundaries and does your DH support you ?

Marriage counseling? But honestly, a divorce is healthier for your kids than a mom who is wishing death for herself

Anonymous wrote:I want to divorce him over his awful family but we have two kids. I find myself just wishing I would get cancer and die to end it all. I see no way out of it and no way through it except passing away from natural causes. I would kill myself but I don’t want my kids to deal with the trauma.

Or you could just go to bed.

I want to divorce him over his awful family but we have two kids. I find myself just wishing I would get cancer and die to end it all. I see no way out of it and no way through it except passing away from natural causes. I would kill myself but I don’t want my kids to deal with the trauma.