The reality is most people aren’t that attractive so…
Neither are you and neither am I

1. Because looks aren't everything.
2 .Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Anonymous wrote:Assume great wealth is not involved. I just don’t get it.

Ask your spouse.

Wow, OP. You sound very deep.

I am a guy and have completely different preference than my guy friends. They like the thin blond yoga type. I prefer a woman with small “pooch” and slightly saggy boobs. They like laid back and casual, I like high maintenance/snotty.

Everyone likes something different.

Youth is attractive and most people get married when they are still relatively youthful looking

Anonymous wrote:I'm no prize pig myself

ILY 💜

I'm no prize pig myself

I know 2 attractive people who married what most would consider to be unattractive people. 1 prefers bigger women so that was a plus to him, and she's one of the funniest and kindest people I know so that helps. The other has a great personality and is just one of those happy people.

Both their marriages are quite happy.

Anonymous wrote:There’s probably a lot you don’t get.

+100

And I'm guessing no one has been interested in marrying OP.

What? How is this a question?

First off, some people are "unattractive" themselves. I am guessing you are not confused by ugly people marrying ugly people? And that you are confused by people who are 8/9 on the looks scale marrying people who are 5/6/7? I mean ... looks are only part of who someone is. And there are other things that are at least as important if not more so when choosing a life partner. How do you get to be an adult and not understand that?

Assortive mating is definitely a thing. I'm not denying that. But multiple traits -- not just physical attractiveness (or "great wealth" as you put it) -- are involved.

Did you see them at the wedding and can objectively say that the partner was not attractive?

Who are you to impose your ideals of beauty?

There’s probably a lot you don’t get.

Sometimes there is just something about someone that attracts a mate.
Humor, quirks, goals, compatibility, etc.

Even people considered "ugly" can be quite "attractive", such as Vin Diesel for example. Not that good looking at all, sloping forehead, big nose, droopy face, but he has something about him that makes him hot.

Assume great wealth is not involved. I just don’t get it.