Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bringing a significant other to weddings, especially ones where you are not close to the bride or groom or part of the wedding party, is really not a big deal.

It can be for the man. Most don't own a tux, and would have to rent one for $ just to attend a "party" where they don't know anyone and endure a stifling suit for hours of boredom.
Sounds like a great way to lose a guy quick. Maybe Goldie Hawn's daughter could make a sequel to "How to lose a guy in 15 days" or something.

Tux??? If it's that kind of wedding, and OP is slumming it with the guy, OP can pay for the tux.

Don't mention it until it's 3 weeks away. Then you can invite him if you want.

Anonymous wrote:Bringing a significant other to weddings, especially ones where you are not close to the bride or groom or part of the wedding party, is really not a big deal.

It can be for the man. Most don't own a tux, and would have to rent one for $ just to attend a "party" where they don't know anyone and endure a stifling suit for hours of boredom.
Sounds like a great way to lose a guy quick. Maybe Goldie Hawn's daughter could make a sequel to "How to lose a guy in 15 days" or something.

Just ask him if he wants to go.
Maybe a family wedding would seem like too much but a co-worker? No pressure.

Bringing a significant other to weddings, especially ones where you are not close to the bride or groom or part of the wedding party, is really not a big deal.

Anonymous wrote:We're in our 40s. It's only 2 months but by the time of the wedding it will be 4 months. We see each other all the time and I could see him becoming my husband if things continue as they are.
It's a coworkers wedding, work in a medical office just staff attending no bosses. Too soon?

Too soon. He might get the idea that you just started dating him so you could have a +1 to go to the wedding with and not be alone.

Mention it. See if he asks to go with you. If he doesn't, then don't ask him or pressure him, or think anything of it either.

Most men seem to hate weddings overall.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is too soon (especially considering the wedding is 2 months from now). He may read too much into it and get weirded out that you are planning things or making assumptions that far in advance. It is a lot of pressure.

Agree with this. Just tell him you did not get an invitation for a Plus One.

why lie? That’s silly. Just tell him you have a wedding that weekend closer to the date. The end.

Anonymous wrote:I think it is too soon (especially considering the wedding is 2 months from now). He may read too much into it and get weirded out that you are planning things or making assumptions that far in advance. It is a lot of pressure.

Agree with this. Just tell him you did not get an invitation for a Plus One.

I think it is too soon (especially considering the wedding is 2 months from now). He may read too much into it and get weirded out that you are planning things or making assumptions that far in advance. It is a lot of pressure.

Anonymous wrote:We're in our 40s. It's only 2 months but by the time of the wedding it will be 4 months. We see each other all the time and I could see him becoming my husband if things continue as they are.
It's a coworkers wedding, work in a medical office just staff attending no bosses. Too soon?

Too soon.

too soon.

I wouldn't invite someone to a wedding at two months.

Tough call! I had a seemingly marriageable boyfriend once who got mad because my choice for movie night was steve martin "parenthood"

Sounds ironic now but at the time i was clueless.

At least your're thinking about it.

Ask him if he would enjoy it or feel pressured.

Different men read different things into being a plus one.

My college age sister (bridesmaid) didn't bring my future BIL to my wedding after 2 years of dating. She didn't want to go public there.

At your age, I would think a guy could be calm about being a plus one at a nice event. Without being worried about catching marriage cooties.

This also depends on your ability to keep things pressure free.

We're in our 40s. It's only 2 months but by the time of the wedding it will be 4 months. We see each other all the time and I could see him becoming my husband if things continue as they are.
It's a coworkers wedding, work in a medical office just staff attending no bosses. Too soon?