Anonymous
Post 06/13/2025 23:15     Subject: Aunts didn’t come to baby shower
do they live nearby?

did you clear the date with them before planning the party?

they should give a gift at some point - Christmas, birthday, another time - but they dont have to give it right now for this shower.
Anonymous
Post 06/13/2025 23:03     Subject: Aunts didn’t come to baby shower
Neither of my SILs came to my baby shower. They’re both older and were past the age of being excited about babies. One sent a gift and the other did not. The one that sent a gift consistently sends my kids birthday and Christmas gifts. The other one does not. They’re both nice but we are not close. That’s just the way it is.
Anonymous
Post 06/13/2025 22:49     Subject: Aunts didn’t come to baby shower
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I didn’t go to my brother’s wife’s shower because I know she doesn’t like me and has never made an effort to get to know me or come to my events. I wish them well and hope all goes well with the birth, etc. but don’t plan on having a relationship with this child so didn’t feel the need to go.


NP. I don’t particularly like my brother’s wife and my brother and I aren’t super close, but I would never refer to their baby as “this child” so coldly, and would never withhold affection and attention from an *innocent baby who was my family* because the mom and. I aren’t best friends. And guess what? The more I make connections with my niece, the more my brother connects with me and my family, and the more open and cordial his wife has become with me. See how that works? You sound awful.


You’re assuming a lot here. IDGAF if my brother or SIL ‘connect with me and my family’, don’t want a relationship with them. What I meant was, it’s unlikely I’ll have a relationship with their child since my relationship with them is bad. I certainly wouldn’t be unkind to a child.
Anonymous
Post 06/13/2025 22:45     Subject: Aunts didn’t come to baby shower
Anonymous wrote:I didn’t go to my brother’s wife’s shower because I know she doesn’t like me and has never made an effort to get to know me or come to my events. I wish them well and hope all goes well with the birth, etc. but don’t plan on having a relationship with this child so didn’t feel the need to go.


NP. I don’t particularly like my brother’s wife and my brother and I aren’t super close, but I would never refer to their baby as “this child” so coldly, and would never withhold affection and attention from an *innocent baby who was my family* because the mom and. I aren’t best friends. And guess what? The more I make connections with my niece, the more my brother connects with me and my family, and the more open and cordial his wife has become with me. See how that works? You sound awful.
Anonymous
Post 06/13/2025 22:42     Subject: Aunts didn’t come to baby shower
I didn’t go to my brother’s wife’s shower because I know she doesn’t like me and has never made an effort to get to know me or come to my events. I wish them well and hope all goes well with the birth, etc. but don’t plan on having a relationship with this child so didn’t feel the need to go.
Anonymous
Post 06/13/2025 22:38     Subject: Aunts didn’t come to baby shower
Anonymous wrote:When your husband asked them what did they say?


He didn’t. I’m not sure if they talk much anymore or what goes on with that.
Anonymous
Post 06/13/2025 22:03     Subject: Aunts didn’t come to baby shower
You say you don’t like them so obviously there’s a larger issue here. I’m not sure how a baby shower would help if you are all not on good terms.
Anonymous
Post 06/13/2025 21:25     Subject: Aunts didn’t come to baby shower
If they’re his younger sisters and don’t have their own children yet, they’re probably clueless about anything involving babies. If they’re not local and would have to travel, it might take up to 3 days of their time and possibly require taking time off from work. And it’s also possible that they couldn’t afford all that.

Maybe they’ll send gifts after the baby arrives.



Anonymous
Post 06/13/2025 18:55     Subject: Aunts didn’t come to baby shower
Anonymous wrote:They probably didn’t come because they are aware you don’t care for them.


Ha ha EXACTLY.

Look in the mirror
Anonymous
Post 06/13/2025 18:49     Subject: Aunts didn’t come to baby shower
When your husband asked them what did they say?
Anonymous
Post 06/13/2025 18:38     Subject: Aunts didn’t come to baby shower
When was the last time you saw them?
Anonymous
Post 06/13/2025 18:36     Subject: Aunts didn’t come to baby shower
Are they local, how often do the 3 siblings see each other? Maybe your family and they are just not close.
Anonymous
Post 06/13/2025 17:54     Subject: Aunts didn’t come to baby shower
Were they formally invited? Do they have kids and was your husband (or yourself, if you were already dating) invited to their baby showers?

Anonymous
Post 06/13/2025 17:51     Subject: Aunts didn’t come to baby shower
They probably didn’t come because they are aware you don’t care for them.
Anonymous
Post 06/13/2025 17:14     Subject: Aunts didn’t come to baby shower
My husband has two younger sisters who are very close to each other, one moved to the other’s neighborhood, they go on vacations together with their husbands, etc. I don’t really care for them, we are not close and are just different.

Neither of them came to our baby shower or sent a gift. I thought it was strange and I feel snubbed. Despite our differences that is their brothers kid and their nephew. I guess they just don’t care. It’s sad.