Blah blah blah ….who cares!

People do it all the time

My kid turned down Hopkins, Pomona for a lower ranked better fit.

People choose in-state to save $.

OP- you are having a rough day. It’s ok. Your kid will be happy. You shouldn’t keep up with the Joneses. You do you. Bitterness and pettiness is never a good look.

Why can't you just name the Ivy? It's not like yours was the only kid who turned it down, and you're not outing anybody by posting here.

Anonymous wrote:I assume you need some external validation for this decision because you haven’t fully accepted it was the right move.

Why else for the post?

BTW, I doubt OP’s kid turned it down for Duke or MIT or Stanford which are the same thing just not in the conference. It’s not rare to select a school like that instead.

I agree, but I’ll validate it was smart to choose based on fit, and takes confidence and maturity to do that. There are definitely some who choose prestige and regret it.

Turned down Cornell for Vanderbilt.

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Anonymous wrote:Mine did this year. I've decided that it's something my son can silently be proud of. Both the Ivy admission and the fact that they did what is right for them and didn't just follow the name.

So, if you are comfortable with your son's decision, why are you coming here to ask this question?

Good question. I was at a graduation dinner with other parents this week and it came up so it's on my mind. My kid made the college decision in late April.

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Anonymous wrote:Mine did this year. I've decided that it's something my son can silently be proud of. Both the Ivy admission and the fact that they did what is right for them and didn't just follow the name.

What school did your kid choose over Cornell and why?

You are so witty. It wasn't Cornell.

I assume you need some external validation for this decision because you haven’t fully accepted it was the right move.

Why else for the post?

BTW, I doubt OP’s kid turned it down for Duke or MIT or Stanford which are the same thing just not in the conference. It’s not rare to select a school like that instead.

I know someone who turned down an Ivy for a Midwestern flagship that offered generous merit aid.

I know someone who turned down Harvard for the 1693 scholarship at W&M

I know a kid who turned down Wharton undergrad for Duke. Money was not an issue. I think there are plenty of kids at the “Ivy+” schools who turned down ivies. Not very rare. Same with Williams, Amherst, etc.

Anonymous wrote:Mine did this year. I've decided that it's something my son can silently be proud of. Both the Ivy admission and the fact that they did what is right for them and didn't just follow the name.

What school did your kid choose over Cornell and why?

My kid's best friend did. He got admitted to an Ivy, but won a full ride at a different, also very good school. He took the full ride. Smart kid.

Anonymous wrote:Mine did this year. I've decided that it's something my son can silently be proud of. Both the Ivy admission and the fact that they did what is right for them and didn't just follow the name.

So, if you are comfortable with your son's decision, why are you coming here to ask this question?

Sort of, turned down one for another school, but then got off a waitlist for first choice Ivy and switched. I’m sure it happens quite often for various reasons.

Mine did this year. I've decided that it's something my son can silently be proud of. Both the Ivy admission and the fact that they did what is right for them and didn't just follow the name.