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Anonymous wrote:Not cool of your Board AT ALL. Who dropped the ball???

No idea! It’s not like it’s something I’m usually in charge of and they forgot that someone else would have to step up. And the new officers were recognized so it’s not like they could have inadvertently assumed I had another year or two to go.

I feel like I might have done a bad job and they decided to just quietly see me off. It’s not a role I actively outside but was asked to take on when another leader stepped down unexpectedly and no one else wanted to do it.

No, even people who do a bad job get thanked, if only because others are afraid they might inadvertently show how much of a good riddance it is that they're leaving!

This looks like a sad oversight. I'm sorry, OP. I would be disappointed too, but what matters is the work you did when you were on the Board. We don't do this stuff for the accolades, right?

At the end of the day, it's all minor. Celebrate YOU by yourself and get a nice treat for tonight! What do you want? Slice of cake and Netflix?

Slice of cake is a brilliant idea.

In confidence and anonymity, I think I did do it for the accolades or at least a little recognition? I took the role on at a time when my career got mommy-tracked and I wanted other opportunities to work hard on challenging projects and make an impact. It’s been 6 years of weekly work and sometimes equivalent to a part-time and even full-time unpaid job. The work we do is long-term and sometimes invisible and doesn’t always show immediate operational results, so I guess I just wanted to feel noticed in the Board room which is the one place where everyone knows what’s behind the curtain.

People can be inexplicably stupid.

This is the perfect time to get yourself an indulgent consumable treat at the grocery store and watch a comedy special.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not cool of your Board AT ALL. Who dropped the ball???

No idea! It’s not like it’s something I’m usually in charge of and they forgot that someone else would have to step up. And the new officers were recognized so it’s not like they could have inadvertently assumed I had another year or two to go.

I feel like I might have done a bad job and they decided to just quietly see me off. It’s not a role I actively outside but was asked to take on when another leader stepped down unexpectedly and no one else wanted to do it.

No, even people who do a bad job get thanked, if only because others are afraid they might inadvertently show how much of a good riddance it is that they're leaving!

This looks like a sad oversight. I'm sorry, OP. I would be disappointed too, but what matters is the work you did when you were on the Board. We don't do this stuff for the accolades, right?

At the end of the day, it's all minor. Celebrate YOU by yourself and get a nice treat for tonight! What do you want? Slice of cake and Netflix?

Slice of cake is a brilliant idea.

In confidence and anonymity, I think I did do it for the accolades or at least a little recognition? I took the role on at a time when my career got mommy-tracked and I wanted other opportunities to work hard on challenging projects and make an impact. It’s been 6 years of weekly work and sometimes equivalent to a part-time and even full-time unpaid job. The work we do is long-term and sometimes invisible and doesn’t always show immediate operational results, so I guess I just wanted to feel noticed in the Board room which is the one place where everyone knows what’s behind the curtain.

Go do something nice for yourself! You have earned it. For me that would be a spa pedicure with extra massage with a HUGE iced tea lemonade from Starbucks, followed by a book at B&N. And takeout of my choice.

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry. I put my dog down today, but I haven't tried too hard to refocus.

I think taking a walk, a deep breath. Telling yourself - I can dwell on this at (6pm) but am going to focus on this other thing helps you keep going for now.

I'm so sorry, PP!

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry. I put my dog down today, but I haven't tried too hard to refocus.

I think taking a walk, a deep breath. Telling yourself - I can dwell on this at (6pm) but am going to focus on this other thing helps you keep going for now.

OP and I’m sorry about your dog. You reminded me that last year when our dog died we skipped the day and went to a beach and got sandwiches instead of cooking. Maybe I should do something like that.

I think something like giving yourself a treat and not doing work sounds perfect. Might help your DD as well.

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Anonymous wrote:Not cool of your Board AT ALL. Who dropped the ball???

No idea! It’s not like it’s something I’m usually in charge of and they forgot that someone else would have to step up. And the new officers were recognized so it’s not like they could have inadvertently assumed I had another year or two to go.

I feel like I might have done a bad job and they decided to just quietly see me off. It’s not a role I actively outside but was asked to take on when another leader stepped down unexpectedly and no one else wanted to do it.

No, even people who do a bad job get thanked, if only because others are afraid they might inadvertently show how much of a good riddance it is that they're leaving!

This looks like a sad oversight. I'm sorry, OP. I would be disappointed too, but what matters is the work you did when you were on the Board. We don't do this stuff for the accolades, right?

At the end of the day, it's all minor. Celebrate YOU by yourself and get a nice treat for tonight! What do you want? Slice of cake and Netflix?

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry. I put my dog down today, but I haven't tried too hard to refocus.

I think taking a walk, a deep breath. Telling yourself - I can dwell on this at (6pm) but am going to focus on this other thing helps you keep going for now.

OP and I’m sorry about your dog. You reminded me that last year when our dog died we skipped the day and went to a beach and got sandwiches instead of cooking. Maybe I should do something like that.

Anonymous wrote:Is a Trustee different than a board member, OP? Are they wealthy donors?
If it is a different category of role then makes sense to suck up to them but it was rude not to thank you for your (different) service too.

Sorry, I’m rambling and unclear but trustees and board members are the same and some but not all are major donors (including me). Everyone is required to be a donor but that’s as much information as 98% of the people in the board room have.

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry. I put my dog down today, but I haven't tried too hard to refocus.

I think taking a walk, a deep breath. Telling yourself - I can dwell on this at (6pm) but am going to focus on this other thing helps you keep going for now.

I'm so sorry your dog couldn't live forever.

Is a Trustee different than a board member, OP? Are they wealthy donors?
If it is a different category of role then makes sense to suck up to them but it was rude not to thank you for your (different) service too.

I'm sorry. I put my dog down today, but I haven't tried too hard to refocus.

I think taking a walk, a deep breath. Telling yourself - I can dwell on this at (6pm) but am going to focus on this other thing helps you keep going for now.

^actively pursued. Maybe they didn’t like my typos.

Anonymous wrote:Not cool of your Board AT ALL. Who dropped the ball???

No idea! It’s not like it’s something I’m usually in charge of and they forgot that someone else would have to step up. And the new officers were recognized so it’s not like they could have inadvertently assumed I had another year or two to go.

I feel like I might have done a bad job and they decided to just quietly see me off. It’s not a role I actively outside but was asked to take on when another leader stepped down unexpectedly and no one else wanted to do it.

Not cool of your Board AT ALL. Who dropped the ball???

This morning I had my final meeting as the leader of a Board I’ve been involved in at an intense level for years, and the Board committee in charge of such things put aside special time to recognize other trustees who were finishing their terms with speeches and gifts, but didn’t say anything or do anything for me. In the parking lot after, one committee member acknowledged it without me prompting her but made a weird excuse about how recognizing me wasn’t allowed (?) by the bylaws, which isn’t true. She seemed embarrassed so it’s possible that she felt bad about the oversight and didn’t know what to do.

Then I came home to wait for a delivery I’ve been anticipating for months, but the company called to reschedule it.

And when she was headed out the door today, my DD dumped a lot of big emotions on me because she just realized that her best friend is leaving for the summer to see relatives a week earlier than anticipated, and DD is realizing that she is in a transition phase with a bunch of other friendships and doesn’t know who she’ll hang out with this summer.

It’s little stuff, but I suddenly feel really sad and immobilized. I blocked off my afternoon for the delivery and now I have bunch of free time but feel stuck and unable to use it.