I’d suggest a long unstructured wool coat.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter is old enough to wear strapless dresses but still hasn’t learned that if she doesn’t check the weather and bring the appropriate clothing, she’s going to be uncomfortable for a spell?

I mean, my kids figured that out in preschool, after a couple trips to the playground where they refused to bring/carry a jacket.

Land the helicopter. Stop crowdsourcing her outfits and let her experience the joys of a SF summer.

PP, you know NOTHING about what has happened to my DD over the last three years to make ANY kind of statement. It is a miracle she is even able to attend this event, so PARK your JUDGMENT chopper on your lawn and FOCUS on your sh*t.

Well that escalated quickly. OP, if you want help, you might include relevant information like “my daughter has special needs and isn’t able to choose her own clothes” or whatever her limitation is. Because this is an anonymous forum, we indeed know nothing about you or your daughter.

What escalated quickly was someone weighing in with judgment on parenting, not sartorial suggestions, on a beauty and fashion thread. Perhaps that PP can go to parenting forum and start their own thread on what they presume to know so much about.

And parents don't necessarily have to come into this forum with context over a simple question. Yes, if a parent is on the special needs forum seeking what might be the best classroom settings, for example for their DS with a recent ADHD diagnosis, sure, additional context helps. But DD does not have special needs and clearly is able to pick her own clothes as I cited what she had selected for the wedding in my original post. I was simply seeking feedback from folks familiar with that region and any experience they may have with outdoor weddings (as well as folks who've had to attend one in what can be a chilly climate).

Feel bad for that PP. Perhaps there are only sons or has no close relationship with their DD to discuss such matters, the ones that often bind us closer and can help us weather when there are difficult times.

I just got my teen daughter the Quince off white linen shawl to wear for an event this summer and it passed the teen girl test. They also have ones in pashmina so I think that would work. I would try that over the faux fur or teddy coat which are more of a big look and she might feel awkward if no one else wearing that, and will be out of trend in a year or two.

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter is old enough to wear strapless dresses but still hasn’t learned that if she doesn’t check the weather and bring the appropriate clothing, she’s going to be uncomfortable for a spell?

I mean, my kids figured that out in preschool, after a couple trips to the playground where they refused to bring/carry a jacket.

Land the helicopter. Stop crowdsourcing her outfits and let her experience the joys of a SF summer.

I would have to agree. OP sounds like the typical DCUM over-parenting parent.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter is old enough to wear strapless dresses but still hasn’t learned that if she doesn’t check the weather and bring the appropriate clothing, she’s going to be uncomfortable for a spell?

I mean, my kids figured that out in preschool, after a couple trips to the playground where they refused to bring/carry a jacket.

Land the helicopter. Stop crowdsourcing her outfits and let her experience the joys of a SF summer.

PP, you know NOTHING about what has happened to my DD over the last three years to make ANY kind of statement. It is a miracle she is even able to attend this event, so PARK your JUDGMENT chopper on your lawn and FOCUS on your sh*t.

Well that escalated quickly. OP, if you want help, you might include relevant information like “my daughter has special needs and isn’t able to choose her own clothes” or whatever her limitation is. Because this is an anonymous forum, we indeed know nothing about you or your daughter.

A faux-fur or teddy coat

Anonymous wrote:i was at a party with Northern Californians (not in NorCal, but it was cool) and they were wearing huge oversized Jenni Kayne-style sweaters over thin long dresses. so maybe something like that.

It was an unfamiliar look for me but maybe practical in that climate.

Oh yes, good idea. It's slip-style dress.

i was at a party with Northern Californians (not in NorCal, but it was cool) and they were wearing huge oversized Jenni Kayne-style sweaters over thin long dresses. so maybe something like that.

It was an unfamiliar look for me but maybe practical in that climate.

I assume they'll have heat lamps or something because it will be cold and windy.

Marin can be chilly at night. I just got pics from my friend in San Anselmo (which is one of the warmer towns) from a graduation party and everyone was wearing puffy coats. In June.

I got married in Sonoma in Sept and it was similarly cold at night.

Towns like Sausalito and Mill Valley could get down to 50s in the evening.

I would plan for a heavier wrap - cashmere, wool, or a sweater.

Anonymous wrote:Not sure how much coverage she'll want but if she'll need a quick and light covering she can get a chiffon shawl and use it like this:


or this:

Those are both lovely, but may not be substantial enough for that time of year. Possibly a pashmina will work.

I'm thinking more of a shrug or a cute short jacket and am hoping someone has suggestions along those lines.

TY.

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter is old enough to wear strapless dresses but still hasn’t learned that if she doesn’t check the weather and bring the appropriate clothing, she’s going to be uncomfortable for a spell?

I mean, my kids figured that out in preschool, after a couple trips to the playground where they refused to bring/carry a jacket.

Land the helicopter. Stop crowdsourcing her outfits and let her experience the joys of a SF summer.

PP, you know NOTHING about what has happened to my DD over the last three years to make ANY kind of statement. It is a miracle she is even able to attend this event, so PARK your JUDGMENT chopper on your lawn and FOCUS on your sh*t.

Not sure how much coverage she'll want but if she'll need a quick and light covering she can get a chiffon shawl and use it like this:


or this:

Your daughter is old enough to wear strapless dresses but still hasn’t learned that if she doesn’t check the weather and bring the appropriate clothing, she’s going to be uncomfortable for a spell?

I mean, my kids figured that out in preschool, after a couple trips to the playground where they refused to bring/carry a jacket.

Land the helicopter. Stop crowdsourcing her outfits and let her experience the joys of a SF summer.

DD going to an outdoor wedding in Marin, think either early October or November. She has bought her dress, a bandeau style in a great seafoam color for her, but she may need a cover if it is chilly. Can't remember if reception is inside, but there will be sometime outside for the nuptials.

She can be resistant to these suggestions, then later look over at DH or me, hoping we will part with our jacket so hoping I can nail a few suggestions she will entertain right off the bat.