Anonymous wrote:I have one high achiever and 1 wonderful typical kid. High achiever does not work harder than other kid. What are we cheering for...random genetic makeup.

Thanks for the laugh. It's the same in my family. I could listen to my exceptionally bright, ethical, high achieving sibling talk about their work all day long. At the same time, every single human being I've met is interesting to me in different ways. If I ask particular questions and listen in a particular way, people become epic novels to me.

Ugh, my husband has cousins like this. The parents never stfu. I avoid them at events. I am highly accomplished myself but they never ask questions about anyone else.

I have one high achiever and 1 wonderful typical kid. High achiever does not work harder than other kid. What are we cheering for...random genetic makeup.

Bragging by whom to whom?

Bragging is also a sign of insecurity.

Bragging is a sign of low social/emotional intelligence.

Being defensive when someone calls you out on bad behavior (like bragging) is a sign of immaturity, and you guessed it, low social/emotional intelligence.

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Anonymous wrote:With kindness. You sound envious. It's OK to be proud of your kids, not sure what part is the "bragging": if the kid has straight As and is getting recruited, it sounds like facts. Sounds like yours is an underachiever perhaps?

Predictable DCUM response, likely from someone who brags incessantly and can’t stand the idea that she may be perceived as insufferable.

You sound immature, envious and thinking that it all comes easy. How sad that you cannot be happy for a gifted family member.

Anonymous wrote:With kindness. You sound envious. It's OK to be proud of your kids, not sure what part is the "bragging": if the kid has straight As and is getting recruited, it sounds like facts. Sounds like yours is an underachiever perhaps?

Predictable DCUM response, likely from someone who brags incessantly and can’t stand the idea that she may be perceived as insufferable.

Anonymous wrote:The overachievers in our family have been taught to be humble around friends and family.

Have the underachievers taught how to be kind and supportive around friends and family?

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Anonymous wrote:With kindness. You sound envious. It's OK to be proud of your kids, not sure what part is the "bragging": if the kid has straight As and is getting recruited, it sounds like facts. Sounds like yours is an underachiever perhaps?

Ehh, the two overachieving chicks I knew turned into sluts in college.

Um. You REALLY sound envious. You can be good with grades and in bed, y'know?! Nothing illegal. You seem to think it's way better if your grades suck and you don't get any either.

It's OK if you're not the best. It's OK if your kid is not the best. But it's immature to tear others down who are better than you. Try being proud of them too if they're family: it has required a lot of work and sacrifices for this kid to get straight As and do sports at the level of being recruited. There are plenty of people who are already envious of him/her. As family, you should be supportive.

The overachievers in our family have been taught to be humble around friends and family.

Anonymous wrote:With kindness. You sound envious. It's OK to be proud of your kids, not sure what part is the "bragging": if the kid has straight As and is getting recruited, it sounds like facts. Sounds like yours is an underachiever perhaps?

Ehh, the two overachieving chicks I knew turned into sluts in college.

In our families, there are those who are born with extraordinary brains and bodies, who achieve no matter what, and others, some of whom have learning disabilities or chronic illnesses. We all understand this. It helps that the parents of the highest achiever ALSO have kids with LDs and depression, so the boasting never gets out of hand.

With kindness. You sound envious. It's OK to be proud of your kids, not sure what part is the "bragging": if the kid has straight As and is getting recruited, it sounds like facts. Sounds like yours is an underachiever perhaps?

Compared to your kids.

Say your kid is a solid B student, non athlete, but pretty great kid all around and their cousin is a straight A /500 scholar getting recruited by several D1 schools.

How do you handle the constant bragging?