Anonymous wrote:Rank these in order of the ones that you think contributed to it and add anything that was missed:

1-Spouse doesn’t talk to you/distracted/on phone too much or doesn’t listen.
2-Spouse no longer attractive (got fat, hygiene issues,etc).
3-Politics (you and spouse voted for different parties, view the world differently, etc).
4-Boredom, monotony, not enough novelty.
5-Spouse is bad at sex


N/A-Resentment over things spouse doesn’t do (chores, parenting, etc)
N/A-Spouse has a substance abuse problem.
N/A-Cheating or infidelity.

Spouse stopped seeing me, caring about who I am, never cared about my goals/dreams. Went to zero emotional intimacy, but maybe it wasn’t even fantastic to begin with. Then he let himself go. Then we started arguing about politics and I realized we have completely different values. He gives zero effort and shut down my (albeit humble) attempts to reconnect. It’ll probably kill more than our sex life in the end. I’m still attractive, fun, and interesting. He just DGAF anymore and then acts shocked when I tell him I’m unhappy, which I have done maybe every 9 months for the last 3 years.

Currently it's having a 6 month old roommate. Once he's moved into a big kid room we'll be fine - we were great on vacation without him.

Twins- children#3 & #4. too much, too exhausting.

Age. Just not as horned up as I used to be.

It was a combination of things, but anti depressant-anti anxiety drugs played a large role. She upped the dose a lot after we had kids because she was depressed and stressed all the time, so parenthood also was a contributing factor.

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Anonymous wrote:Having children and being exhausted.

This, plus not actually getting to have dates regularly because babysitting is $$$. (In theory dates aren't the only way to get in a fun romantic mood, but sitting on my couch every night isn't either).

Same. He’s bad at planning ANYTHING. And I’m just tired of being the one to make the effort.

Anonymous wrote:Having children and being exhausted.

This, plus not actually getting to have dates regularly because babysitting is $$$. (In theory dates aren't the only way to get in a fun romantic mood, but sitting on my couch every night isn't either).

Cancer.

Having children and being exhausted.

Gender transition

Spouse is bad at sex

porn

Her infidelity
She is objectively extraordinarily attractive but after she became completely repulsive

Probably me smashing her best friend from childhood.

Rank these in order of the ones that you think contributed to it and add anything that was missed:

Resentment over things spouse doesn’t do (chores, parenting, etc)

Spouse is bad at sex

Boredom, monotony, not enough novelty.

Spouse has a substance abuse problem.

Cheating or infidelity.

Spouse no longer attractive (got fat, hygiene issues,etc).

Spouse doesn’t talk to you/distracted/on phone too much or doesn’t listen.

Politics (you and spouse voted for different parties, view the world differently, etc).