Probably around 9 and it's not a punitive thing. It's a this is what you've got to do thing. Also it gives them a sense of control over a situation they don't have control over and feels less babyish than having mommy or daddy have to clean them up.

How often is it occurring?

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Anonymous wrote:I think most kids now just use pull-ups until they are consistently dry at night. I used to babysit for a kid who was 10 and still had them

My 9yo's goodnites still overflow...and we use the XL ones.

Same, kid is only 5 but the good nites regularly fail us.

You might just want to use regular diapers, they seem to hold up better overnight

Anonymous wrote:Why would you make them help? This is a distressing thing that isn’t their fault.

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Do you think they can control it and can’t? No way they want to be having accidents. Their body just isn’t physically ready and/or you need to be waking them up before you go to bed or limiting liquids, etc

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think most kids now just use pull-ups until they are consistently dry at night. I used to babysit for a kid who was 10 and still had them

My 9yo's goodnites still overflow...and we use the XL ones.

Same, kid is only 5 but the good nites regularly fail us.

Anonymous wrote:Why would you make them help? This is a distressing thing that isn’t their fault.

Yeah I think any kid who is still having accidents in the middle of the night is going to need help with this. Even an older kid.

It's less embarrassing to handle it per setup and instructions than go whine to mummy and pater every time. Quicker too.

I don’t ask them to clean up fully, but I do ask them to strip the sheets in the morning and put it in a pile for me to bring down to wash. I also ask them to take a quick shower when they wake up - normally they bathe at night.

One of my kids wet the bed until he was almost 8 and the other one until 5.5-6. Night time bladder control is a physical development issue - not a behavior to be punished or shamed.

Why would you make them help? This is a distressing thing that isn’t their fault.

Anonymous wrote:I think most kids now just use pull-ups until they are consistently dry at night. I used to babysit for a kid who was 10 and still had them

My 9yo's goodnites still overflow...and we use the XL ones.

I think most kids now just use pull-ups until they are consistently dry at night. I used to babysit for a kid who was 10 and still had them

My only expectation is that they come tell me, they put their own wet pajamas in the laundry basket (NOT on the rug in their room. gag) and clean themselves up (I help them shower if they are super wet, but sometimes it's only a little). I get up and change their sheets quickly so they have a dry place to sleep.

What do you mean by "older"?

I think before age 7 or 8, they'd need some help or comfort. But it would also depend how frequently this is happening.

Layer the bed, make sure there is access to a dry blanket and pajamas and instructions on what to do with urine soaked things. Then suggest they can do this themselves, but if not, come to get one of you. This is just parenting.

We layer the bed, so there's a water proof pad, and then a sheet, and then another water proof pad on top.

My kid could pull the top sheet and pad off and throw it in a laundry basket, and then get back in bed from about 6.

For older kids who might still have at least occasional nighttime bedwetting accidents at what age do you expect them to do any cleanup on their own?