Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 21:30     Subject: How much are you giving good friends kids for graduation?

Anonymous wrote:People give money for anything these days. For a high school graduation? I won’t be giving my son anything. He gets to go to college. That is enough. High school diploma is nothing more than a participation grade nowadays.


That’s not true. Some kids work very hard and aren’t Naturally smart. My son works hard to get B’s but my niece barely studies in AP classes and gets A. She gets rewarded with scholarships and everyone thinks she earned more money and gives her more at graduation.

And I’m over here celebrating actual hard work at graduation and people don’t seem to care at all. Sigh.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 21:29     Subject: How much are you giving good friends kids for graduation?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Unless you're wealthy, I wouldn't overthink this. What would you send for a birthday or Christmas? Send that. If nothing, then send a card.


What if I am wealthy?


$100-$250 for a friend $500-$1000 for family.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 21:28     Subject: How much are you giving good friends kids for graduation?

Anonymous wrote:I don’t have any kids close to high school graduation. How much should I give? What did your child receive from an “aunt and uncle”?


Last year I gave my niece $250. I’m not wealthy but comfortable enough.

I would probably give my sons good friend a $100, maybe $50.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 21:24     Subject: How much are you giving good friends kids for graduation?

People give money for anything these days. For a high school graduation? I won’t be giving my son anything. He gets to go to college. That is enough. High school diploma is nothing more than a participation grade nowadays.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 20:59     Subject: How much are you giving good friends kids for graduation?

Anonymous wrote:My brother who is a multi-millionaire and a good guy gave my DD $250.


Did you feel that was too little?
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 20:59     Subject: How much are you giving good friends kids for graduation?

Anonymous wrote:Well, if it is a kid of your friends and not a sibling, you aren't really an "aunt and uncle."

I assume you are going to a party or something? Under those circumstances I'd probably give $200, but I'm a WASP -- as much money as some of us have, we aren't really about that write-out-huge-checks-as-gifts life. If not invited to a grad party or something, I'd give nothing.


Yes that’s why I put it in quotes. It’s the child of very very good friends.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 20:59     Subject: How much are you giving good friends kids for graduation?

My brother who is a multi-millionaire and a good guy gave my DD $250.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 20:57     Subject: How much are you giving good friends kids for graduation?

Anonymous wrote:Unless you're wealthy, I wouldn't overthink this. What would you send for a birthday or Christmas? Send that. If nothing, then send a card.


What if I am wealthy?
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 19:59     Subject: How much are you giving good friends kids for graduation?

Well, if it is a kid of your friends and not a sibling, you aren't really an "aunt and uncle."

I assume you are going to a party or something? Under those circumstances I'd probably give $200, but I'm a WASP -- as much money as some of us have, we aren't really about that write-out-huge-checks-as-gifts life. If not invited to a grad party or something, I'd give nothing.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 19:54     Subject: How much are you giving good friends kids for graduation?

Anonymous wrote:I don’t have any kids close to high school graduation. How much should I give? What did your child receive from an “aunt and uncle”?


Whatever you are comfortable with.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 19:53     Subject: How much are you giving good friends kids for graduation?

My son graduated last year and was thrilled to get $100 from aunts and uncles. Even $50 would be lovely. His grandparents gave more, but not other “regular” relatives.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 19:52     Subject: How much are you giving good friends kids for graduation?

Unless you're wealthy, I wouldn't overthink this. What would you send for a birthday or Christmas? Send that. If nothing, then send a card.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 19:51     Subject: How much are you giving good friends kids for graduation?

$25 and they took DC out to dinner to celebrate.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 19:50     Subject: How much are you giving good friends kids for graduation?

$200
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 19:48     Subject: How much are you giving good friends kids for graduation?

I don’t have any kids close to high school graduation. How much should I give? What did your child receive from an “aunt and uncle”?