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Universities are to blame for this. They created this problem.

Anonymous wrote:It happened again at our school. A senior recently backed out of a commitment to a very selective college in order to attend another very selective college in the same region.

Why do parents allow this? It HURTS future applicants from the school -- those who would have been really happy to accept and keep their word.

Was this an ED commit?

Did this student recently get off the waitlist at the second college? I thought colleges understood that this happens and don’t hold it against the student. Though I suppose Princeton might be angry if you backed out to go to Yale, for example. But I think Boston College would understand if you backed out for Harvard or even Amherst, say.

Backing out of an ED commitment to highly selective schools ends up hurting so many other kids. But bad families exist. Private schools can expel these families, but there's not much public schools can do. Trashy people are trashy people. Universities will make a note of the school and move on to the other 25,000 high schools out there. If you are wondering why no one from your school gets in to certain colleges, that's why.

Anonymous wrote:If this is ED, it’s a serious breech. Counselors can withhold final transcripts.

That would be ridiculous and the height of jackassery to ruin a kid's future like that

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Anonymous wrote:ED commitment, no. Our counselor will literally kill you.

RD commitment? Yes, you can back out. You just lose the deposit that's all.

Your counselor has zero say over where you go to school. Do what you want.

100% agree.

Anonymous wrote:ED commitment, no. Our counselor will literally kill you.

RD commitment? Yes, you can back out. You just lose the deposit that's all.

But only in the way where literally literally means the opposite of literally.

If this is ED, it’s a serious breech. Counselors can withhold final transcripts.

Some years ago, three seniors accepted Williams at our school and all three backed out. I don't think they could get away with that these days, but literally no one has dared to apply to Williams since!

Anonymous wrote:ED commitment, no. Our counselor will literally kill you.

RD commitment? Yes, you can back out. You just lose the deposit that's all.

I don’t think the counselot will “literally kill” anyone.

Anonymous wrote:ED commitment, no. Our counselor will literally kill you.

RD commitment? Yes, you can back out. You just lose the deposit that's all.

Your counselor has zero say over where you go to school. Do what you want.

ED commitment, no. Our counselor will literally kill you.

RD commitment? Yes, you can back out. You just lose the deposit that's all.

Worry about the things you can control.

It happened again at our school. A senior recently backed out of a commitment to a very selective college in order to attend another very selective college in the same region.

Why do parents allow this? It HURTS future applicants from the school -- those who would have been really happy to accept and keep their word.