If the gun is stored securely, I think you are being unreasonable.

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Anonymous wrote:You are being unreasonable. He’s already said he would lock it up. Many things can harm children in the house. Do you discuss anything that can harm children before you bring them in the house? Should he discuss purchasing a power drill? Should you discuss buying a curling iron in advance?

You’re really comparing a gun to a power drill or curling iron?

^^gun

Take this as an opportunity to impart proper firearm safety with your children. These are not toys and need to be afforded proper respect. Firearms a taboo subject on our area. As parents we are responsible for preparing our children for things they encounter in life. Better they know and respect than encounter them and not know what to do.
ALWAYS treat a firearm as it is loaded,
ALWAYS keep a firearm pointed in a safe direction
NEVER point a firearm unless you intend to use it
BTW,I am a card carrying member of the NRA but do not have any firearms.

Anonymous wrote:You are being unreasonable. He’s already said he would lock it up. Many things can harm children in the house. Do you discuss anything that can harm children before you bring them in the house? Should he discuss purchasing a power drill? Should you discuss buying a curling iron in advance?

You’re really comparing a gin to a power drill or curling iron?

DH here: I think it’s reasonable to have a gun, but don’t think it’s reasonable for him to make that decision unilaterally; he should have discussed with you, it really needs to be a consensus decision.

That is horrible and downright dangerous. I was in this situation, but I said “either you live with your gun or you live with your wife/kids.”
His family member stored the gun for him. That marriage ended in divorce within a few years.
This should have been discussed with you. Please protect your children. ASAP.

Anonymous wrote:You are being unreasonable. He’s already said he would lock it up. Many things can harm children in the house. Do you discuss anything that can harm children before you bring them in the house? Should he discuss purchasing a power drill? Should you discuss buying a curling iron in advance?

There are 100% responsible gun owners with children in the world. Comparing a gun to a curling iron doesn't make you look like one of them.

Anonymous wrote:You are being unreasonable. He’s already said he would lock it up. Many things can harm children in the house. Do you discuss anything that can harm children before you bring them in the house? Should he discuss purchasing a power drill? Should you discuss buying a curling iron in advance?

Saying he would lock it up =/= to actually locking it up. It's not a "I will lock it up" it should be a "here are the gun locks and safes I also bought with this firearm and have set up the second I got home".

Did he also come home with a gun safe and proper gun locks. Because absolute NO way a gun goes into a house with children without proper safety storage. That is 100% NOT a "deal with it later" thing.

My Dad was both in the military and a physician. He'd both had extensive firearms training and treated bullet wounds, including those in children. He was extremely firm on proper gun safety. You do not leave it assembled. You do not leave it loaded. You do not leave it unlocked. You lock ammunition separately from the gun with separate codes, so it a kid cracks one, they don't Crack another.

But statistically speaking, yes, the presence of a gun in a home significantly increases the chance of death, from suicide, homicide, or accidental shootings. If anyone in the house experiences mental health issues, the gun has to go immediately.

You are being unreasonable. He’s already said he would lock it up. Many things can harm children in the house. Do you discuss anything that can harm children before you bring them in the house? Should he discuss purchasing a power drill? Should you discuss buying a curling iron in advance?

You're going to get different opinions on owning a gun (I'd kind of like one, but won't have one because my wife is often suicidal), but getting one without asking you is a problem. It's hard to have a shooting hobby without owning a gun, but you still need to talk about it.

Niether of you is necessarily unreasonable in your opinions, but the lack of discussion - given how far apart you are on the topic - is alarming.

Your husband def should have discussed this with you prior to purchasing.

Hopefully he will be responsible and keep it locked up at all times.

He should have discussed it with you but it's fine to have a gun. Insist that he keeps it locked up, though.

He's taken up shooting as a hobby in the past few months and recently decided to purchase a gun. He came home with it without discussion. We have elementary age kids, and I just don't want it in the house. He doesn't care, says it's for his hobby and he'll keep it locked up. Am I unreasonable? Is he?