Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 14:09     Subject: 21st bday party ideas?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Once our kids turned 18 our efforts scaled back for planning and hosting on their day.

They have tons of friends who they hang out with and always have fun things planned for their bdays etc.

If they ask -- we offer suggestions.
Keep it legal and safe.



And that’s what I’m looking for - suggestions. Because she asked. Thanks.


Winery/Bar
Sip and Paint
A cooking course
A spay day
Maybe even a day party at a restaurant or your home - invite friends and family.
I'd keep do it early in the day so they have the evening/afternoon with their friends.




Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 12:39     Subject: 21st bday party ideas?
Thanks to the PPs who offered suggestions! Appreciate it.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 12:38     Subject: 21st bday party ideas?
Anonymous wrote:I think it’s odd that so many of you have children who wouldn’t want to celebrate their 21st birthday with you. Everyone I know who has even a decent relationship with their parents invites them out for the bar hopping. Parents usually go home earlier than everyone but they are still there for most of it and everyone is having a great time together. Some of you need to come to terms with the fact your children don’t like you and figure out why. It’s weird to be shut out from a major party like this.


I’m the OP and my daughter did in fact ask my husband and I to hang out with them for her friends party, but we declined. We’re glad she wants us along, but think it would be a little awkward. So we’re doing a family party separately.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 12:36     Subject: 21st bday party ideas?
Anonymous wrote:
Once our kids turned 18 our efforts scaled back for planning and hosting on their day.

They have tons of friends who they hang out with and always have fun things planned for their bdays etc.

If they ask -- we offer suggestions.
Keep it legal and safe.



And that’s what I’m looking for - suggestions. Because she asked. Thanks.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 12:35     Subject: 21st bday party ideas?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At that age, they just want a dinner with family and a party with their friends that the friends plan.


Yup. Two parties. You will only be part of one of them.


I’m aware. Move along if you have no suggestions.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 09:30     Subject: 21st bday party ideas?
I think it’s odd that so many of you have children who wouldn’t want to celebrate their 21st birthday with you. Everyone I know who has even a decent relationship with their parents invites them out for the bar hopping. Parents usually go home earlier than everyone but they are still there for most of it and everyone is having a great time together. Some of you need to come to terms with the fact your children don’t like you and figure out why. It’s weird to be shut out from a major party like this.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 09:26     Subject: 21st bday party ideas?

Once our kids turned 18 our efforts scaled back for planning and hosting on their day.

They have tons of friends who they hang out with and always have fun things planned for their bdays etc.

If they ask -- we offer suggestions.
Keep it legal and safe.

Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 08:49     Subject: 21st bday party ideas?
Anonymous wrote:I went to Nashville last year and there was a mom there with her son and his girlfriend celebrating the son’s 21st. They were doing the peddle tavern and other things like that. How about a trip?


Who wants to be with their mother on their 21st birthday?
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 07:42     Subject: 21st bday party ideas?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At that age, they just want a dinner with family and a party with their friends that the friends plan.


Yes, we’re having a family dinner separately but she would like to plan a party/outing with her friends and I’m trying to help her think of ideas.


The most important thing is keeping it safe. Maybe arrange for a car/limo service to take them around to various clubs all night and then return them. Is she outdoorsy? Maybe look into a glamping weekend.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 07:31     Subject: 21st bday party ideas?
Anonymous wrote:At that age, they just want a dinner with family and a party with their friends that the friends plan.


Yup. Two parties. You will only be part of one of them.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 07:30     Subject: 21st bday party ideas?
Winery tour with wine tasting.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 07:29     Subject: 21st bday party ideas?
I went to Nashville last year and there was a mom there with her son and his girlfriend celebrating the son’s 21st. They were doing the peddle tavern and other things like that. How about a trip?
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 01:00     Subject: 21st bday party ideas?
Anonymous wrote:At that age, they just want a dinner with family and a party with their friends that the friends plan.


Yes, we’re having a family dinner separately but she would like to plan a party/outing with her friends and I’m trying to help her think of ideas.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2025 23:07     Subject: 21st bday party ideas?
At that age, they just want a dinner with family and a party with their friends that the friends plan.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2025 23:07     Subject: 21st bday party ideas?
Girl. Yes, there will be alcohol. Does anyone have any fun ideas that have worked well with your own kids? TIA.