Anonymous
05/21/2025 10:36
Subject: What are your rules for your teen driving with other kids?
There are laws about this!!
Anonymous
05/21/2025 10:35
Subject: What are your rules for your teen driving with other kids?
No.
The only time my teen drove other kids at that age was when there was an emergency at his sister's middle school, and when he went to pick her up, her best friend also hitched a ride because her parents could not come to fetch her.
The only time my teen drove other kids at that age was when there was an emergency at his sister's middle school, and when he went to pick her up, her best friend also hitched a ride because her parents could not come to fetch her.
Anonymous
05/21/2025 10:26
Subject: What are your rules for your teen driving with other kids?
OP here. Thanks, PPs. I should have clarified - we are talking about situations within legal limits (eg, generally 1 passenger is allowed for those under 18 and less than 1 year driving). We have definitely heard about situations with many more kids in a car, but we have no problems drawing a very clear line about that.
Anonymous
05/21/2025 09:37
Subject: What are your rules for your teen driving with other kids?
Depends on where they’re going. To school or a school event? We allow it. Others is a case by case decision.
Anonymous
05/21/2025 09:31
Subject: What are your rules for your teen driving with other kids?
Yes, to a certain extent. My DD has her license along with another one of her friends in the neighborhood. The share driving each other to school.
She will also pickup another one of her friends nearby for morning workouts. Also ok.
She is not allowed to load 4 other kiddos in the car and take off - same thing with being a passenger.
She will also pickup another one of her friends nearby for morning workouts. Also ok.
She is not allowed to load 4 other kiddos in the car and take off - same thing with being a passenger.
Anonymous
05/21/2025 09:15
Subject: What are your rules for your teen driving with other kids?
Where do you live? Many states have rules on this already? We followed those rules.
Anonymous
05/21/2025 09:14
Subject: What are your rules for your teen driving with other kids?
If it is legal - and make your child pull up the law.
Have your child explore other jurisdictions and ask them WHY do they think that others do not allow it?
Is the person allowed to drive at night? In areas you need both daylight and night time practice hours
Your child is asking to be treated as an adult - so you need to start having adult conversations.
What would they do in a situation where there are too many people / not enough seatbelts?
Practice how to say no to peers.
I would also make them watch video of teen crashes / read articles so they understand this is real.
Have your child explore other jurisdictions and ask them WHY do they think that others do not allow it?
Is the person allowed to drive at night? In areas you need both daylight and night time practice hours
Your child is asking to be treated as an adult - so you need to start having adult conversations.
What would they do in a situation where there are too many people / not enough seatbelts?
Practice how to say no to peers.
I would also make them watch video of teen crashes / read articles so they understand this is real.
Anonymous
05/21/2025 09:11
Subject: What are your rules for your teen driving with other kids?
We don’t allow. Period. My kids know the risks and frankly don’t want to. It’s inconvenient bc we are still playing chauffeur, but there is just no way we’ll allow.
Anonymous
05/21/2025 09:07
Subject: What are your rules for your teen driving with other kids?
For me it has depended on specifics entirely: which kids, what context, where. My dd runs cross country and as a freshman the only way to get to parks in the middle of the day was ride sharing. The drivers were usually senior teen girls. I allowed it. My ds was allowed to ride with one specific friend just a bit older bc he is extremely responsible and had lots of experience due to a family situation. I did not let them drive with certain kids at all. But my state is more lenient about teens in cars as well and rules vary.
Anonymous
05/21/2025 09:05
Subject: What are your rules for your teen driving with other kids?
Anonymous wrote:DD (10th grade) is one of the youngest in her grade. It means that most everyone she knows is getting or has gotten their license before she will. We are getting lots of requests to get rides with friends. So far, our rule has been that she cannot ride with any friends (all of these kids have had a license for a few months, if that!). We will drive her where she wants to go. She’s embarrassed now and throwing a fit that we aren’t letting her drive with friends. We do plan to loosen up once these kids have been driving a year, and in that case, DD can drive herself places.
Are we being unreasonable? I would love to hear how others handle this. The news stories just really scare me. I won’t give in because she’s upset about it, but I would like to understand if people think we are too strict about this.
I know DC area is known for overall negligent, hands-off parenting, but I can’t imagine national insurance company policies differ from state to state. If she rides with a teen, she must be the only other teen in the car that is not a sibling.
Anonymous
05/21/2025 09:01
Subject: What are your rules for your teen driving with other kids?
Don’t. Insurance doesn’t allow it. The only teen passenger is limited to one, any additional teens that can be in the car must be a sibling.
Anonymous
05/21/2025 08:58
Subject: Re:What are your rules for your teen driving with other kids?
I allow it for short rides in local area during day. Home from school or practice. Sometimes a pit stop for food gets added.
Anonymous
05/21/2025 08:50
Subject: What are your rules for your teen driving with other kids?
Are these kids even legally allowed passengers yet? That would be my first question. If they aren’t, I would be concerned about what THEIR parents allow, or don’t know about, and that would make me question what else they were getting up to that their parents didn’t know about.
With that said, if they are allowed passengers and they would be staying close to home, or on surface roads with lower speeds, I’d allow it.
With that said, if they are allowed passengers and they would be staying close to home, or on surface roads with lower speeds, I’d allow it.
Anonymous
05/21/2025 08:46
Subject: What are your rules for your teen driving with other kids?
Title should be “riding with other teens” not “driving” although I guess both perspectives are relevant here.
Anonymous
05/21/2025 08:45
Subject: What are your rules for your teen driving with other kids?
DD (10th grade) is one of the youngest in her grade. It means that most everyone she knows is getting or has gotten their license before she will. We are getting lots of requests to get rides with friends. So far, our rule has been that she cannot ride with any friends (all of these kids have had a license for a few months, if that!). We will drive her where she wants to go. She’s embarrassed now and throwing a fit that we aren’t letting her drive with friends. We do plan to loosen up once these kids have been driving a year, and in that case, DD can drive herself places.
Are we being unreasonable? I would love to hear how others handle this. The news stories just really scare me. I won’t give in because she’s upset about it, but I would like to understand if people think we are too strict about this.
Are we being unreasonable? I would love to hear how others handle this. The news stories just really scare me. I won’t give in because she’s upset about it, but I would like to understand if people think we are too strict about this.