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Anonymous wrote:Bar Mitzvah’s with friends are just gift grabs. Just invite family if you must do anything.

It blows my mind that anyone can think something that expensive to host and that time consuming to plan is a "gift grab."

Seriously, very inefficient gift grab — we definitely spent more per person (even per kid) than 99 percent of the guests spent on gifts. Some of the kids who came didn’t bring gifts at all — which is great! We wanted them there so our daughter could celebrate her accomplishment with her friends. Not to collect gifts.

Anonymous wrote:Bar Mitzvah’s with friends are just gift grabs. Just invite family if you must do anything.

It blows my mind that anyone can think something that expensive to host and that time consuming to plan is a "gift grab."

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bar Mitzvah’s with friends are just gift grabs. Just invite family if you must do anything.

Strange take. Would you say the same for every birthday party? Why not celebrate with family and friends? It is a joyous and important coming of age ceremony.

+1

Yup - to the parents. Not all 12/13 year olds are checking their email and keeping track of that kind of info. We have been to a ton and maybe only got 3 paper invitations. Digital is common now.

Anonymous wrote:Bar Mitzvah’s with friends are just gift grabs. Just invite family if you must do anything.

My kids enjoy going to their friends’ Bar and Bat Mitzvahs. It’s a rite of passage and they know how hard they worked. It’s an honor to be invited.

Anonymous wrote:Bar Mitzvah’s with friends are just gift grabs. Just invite family if you must do anything.

Strange take. Would you say the same for every birthday party? Why not celebrate with family and friends? It is a joyous and important coming of age ceremony.

Bar Mitzvah’s with friends are just gift grabs. Just invite family if you must do anything.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are using e-invites and only inviting the child (do not know the parents), do you send the invite to the child’s email or the parents, but addressed to the child?

Both. It's the least you can do if you are too uncivilized to send a card.

Paper invitations are definitely not necesssary, OP, ignore this person.

We sent emailed invitations to a parent's email but in the name of the child.

Anonymous wrote:We sent it to the parent’s email (Greenenvelope), and addressed it to the kid.

Sorry we were not civilized enough for the PP. We had little money and were just trying to celebrate. It was a great time and even the great grandparents were fine with it!

My DD recently attended a Bat Mitvah with a Greenenvelope invite (sent to my email, addressed to her). She had a great time and we didn't think twice about not getting a paper card.

We sent it to the parent’s email (Greenenvelope), and addressed it to the kid.

Sorry we were not civilized enough for the PP. We had little money and were just trying to celebrate. It was a great time and even the great grandparents were fine with it!

Anonymous wrote:If you are using e-invites and only inviting the child (do not know the parents), do you send the invite to the child’s email or the parents, but addressed to the child?

Both. It's the least you can do if you are too uncivilized to send a card.

If you are using e-invites and only inviting the child (do not know the parents), do you send the invite to the child’s email or the parents, but addressed to the child?