Anonymous
05/18/2025 11:12
Subject: DH’s passive behavior is a turn off
It’s VERY common that when people are too scared to speak up to strangers, work, etc, they take it out on their spouses and kids by yelling and cussing.
I would not tolerate him treating you or the kids that way. What do you do when he does that? If my H ever yelled at me or the kids I’d yell right back, and I’m a lot louder.
I would not tolerate him treating you or the kids that way. What do you do when he does that? If my H ever yelled at me or the kids I’d yell right back, and I’m a lot louder.
Anonymous
05/18/2025 09:45
Subject: DH’s passive behavior is a turn off
without commenting on the other impacts, which I believe you about , this is the stereotyical behavior of a lot of women without the likely excuses for socialization
Anonymous
05/18/2025 09:41
Subject: DH’s passive behavior is a turn off
Kick down wimp up. Asshat. Counseling for him or divorce
Anonymous
05/18/2025 09:34
Subject: DH’s passive behavior is a turn off
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he is and feels inadequate in other areas of his life so he lashes out at you and the kids.
Don’t put up with that shit.
This. You’re the only ones he actually feels power over. I would not tolerate that.
Anonymous
05/18/2025 09:13
Subject: DH’s passive behavior is a turn off
Anonymous wrote:If it was DH complaining about his DW, would some of you still recommend divorce?
Yes.
Anonymous
05/18/2025 08:11
Subject: DH’s passive behavior is a turn off
Anonymous wrote:In general, outside of the home, DH is very passive and doesn’t speak up for himself or things. For example - if his food order is wrong, he won’t say anything. Most recently, he got a tattoo that he wanted a certain way, and it was not done how he wanted. Before he got it, we talked about how he’ll need to speak up to make sure it’s right, but he comes home with a botched tattoo that looks like a 16 year old did it.
Things like this don’t personally affect me, so I stay quiet, but it’s such a turn off. I think it’s even more of a turn off because when it comes to me or the kids, he has NO issue speaking up for what he wants or expects, to include cussing and yelling. But he can’t say a peep to anyone else.
Just venting here.
Troll
Anonymous
05/18/2025 07:53
Subject: DH’s passive behavior is a turn off
Sounds like he is and feels inadequate in other areas of his life so he lashes out at you and the kids.
Don’t put up with that shit.
Don’t put up with that shit.
Anonymous
05/18/2025 07:31
Subject: DH’s passive behavior is a turn off
Your husband yells and cusses at you and your kids, and punishes your kid for being socially anxious? Way to bury the lede. That’s your actual issue.
Anonymous
05/18/2025 00:13
Subject: DH’s passive behavior is a turn off
This seems like something you had to have known going into the marriage, so what changed that it’s so repulsive to you now? Or did he somehow pretend to assert himself while you were dating?
Also, people like him should just know themselves and decline to make body modifications like a tattoo. Why set yourself up for failure if you don’t have to? We all have our own personal limits.
Also, people like him should just know themselves and decline to make body modifications like a tattoo. Why set yourself up for failure if you don’t have to? We all have our own personal limits.
Anonymous
05/17/2025 23:56
Subject: DH’s passive behavior is a turn off
If it was DH complaining about his DW, would some of you still recommend divorce?
Anonymous
05/17/2025 23:54
Subject: DH’s passive behavior is a turn off
Divorce.
Anonymous
05/17/2025 23:51
Subject: DH’s passive behavior is a turn off
Yep let's blame the DH. Mommy is perfect and DH is responsible with their kids social anxiety.
Anonymous
05/17/2025 23:49
Subject: DH’s passive behavior is a turn off
Get a divorce. Not kidding.
Anonymous
05/17/2025 23:39
Subject: DH’s passive behavior is a turn off
OP here. As I’m thinking, I think what also makes it worse is we have a child who is extremely socially anxious (which likely stems from DH) but DH will punish and be so upset with our child for underperforming in social settings, like sports games. It just seems so hypocritical.
Anonymous
05/17/2025 23:37
Subject: DH’s passive behavior is a turn off
In general, outside of the home, DH is very passive and doesn’t speak up for himself or things. For example - if his food order is wrong, he won’t say anything. Most recently, he got a tattoo that he wanted a certain way, and it was not done how he wanted. Before he got it, we talked about how he’ll need to speak up to make sure it’s right, but he comes home with a botched tattoo that looks like a 16 year old did it.
Things like this don’t personally affect me, so I stay quiet, but it’s such a turn off. I think it’s even more of a turn off because when it comes to me or the kids, he has NO issue speaking up for what he wants or expects, to include cussing and yelling. But he can’t say a peep to anyone else.
Just venting here.
Things like this don’t personally affect me, so I stay quiet, but it’s such a turn off. I think it’s even more of a turn off because when it comes to me or the kids, he has NO issue speaking up for what he wants or expects, to include cussing and yelling. But he can’t say a peep to anyone else.
Just venting here.